I'm a 21 year-old, not currently sexually active (so you're up-to-date on the state of my vagina); I had been interested in cups for a long time and finally recently bought the Diva cup (size 1) after reading Kimya Dawson's latest monthly flowetry haiku. I was super excited to try it out but I had some troubles with it when doing dry runs and stuff, so I put it aside and decided to wait it out. Anyway, I started my period two days ago and had some terrible cramping; I tried and tried to insert my cup but I was feeling pretty terrible overall and couldn't get it in properly so I gave up and went back to OB tampons for two days until this evening, when I decided to give it another go. I used the origami fold and got it in alright, but I felt some poking when I stood and walked around. I figure that's just the stem, right? Also, if I bear down, I can feel the cup sort of moving down (which is normal, that's what it should do when you bear down) but it feels like it's reeeeally low. I know it rides lower than a tampon but is there any way to tell if I've inserted it too low? I guess it'll settle into a spot naturally, so I shouldn't worry too much, but I was just wondering if that's really normal or if I've done something wrong. Lastly and most importantly for me, is there a way to tell when you've created a seal? I got my cup in and didn't feel or notice any popping -- I should mention that I couldn't get it to rotate easily at all but I kind of felt around with my finger to feel whether the cup was open and no longer folded in on itself (it was open), but I'm not sure how to tell when you've got a good seal. Are there any tips or tricks? I was a little worried that maybe that was why it kept riding down so low.
Thanks so much, I'm totally looking forward to discovering the ins and outs of my cup... even if my mom thinks it's gross and I haven't yet told my best friend about it because I don't know what she'd think -- seriously though, it's only "gross" if you think your body is gross, which it isn't. Ever since I started researching cups and environmentally friendly menstruation information and alternatives about a month ago, I'm on this total crusade, trying to explain to everyone I know that our bodies are super cool and fascinating and that there's nothing to be ashamed of. It's your body, you might as well familiarise yourself with it, right? It's a shame people are being taught to feel that our bodies are just big disgusting slabs of meat when they're totally beautiful and miraculous, haha.