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Cara or C.C., whichever you prefer
20 May 2007 @ 07:10 pm
Hello, eveyone. First time poster, as well as user, of Instead cups. I'm sorry if these questions have been asked before, I looked through some of the tagged entries, but I couldn't find the answers to some of my questions.

Today was the first day of my period, and I was very excited, because I could finally use the Instead cups that I bought a month ago. So this morning, I unwrapped it, inserted it with little fanfare, and wore a panty liner, just in case I messed up inserting it. But I couldn't feel it, and I even tried pushing it back even more, just to be sure. I actually felt the cup pressing against my anus, so I ASSUMED it was back far enough. I even did what the video on the Instead website said and felt for my cervix through the material, and I felt it. It really, really seemed like it was in place.

Hours pass, every thing is fine. There doesn't appear to be any leakage, as my panty liner is clean. But then I had to do #2, and when I was bearing down, suddenly all this blood started to come out! I reach in and pull the Instead cup out, thinking that maybe it was full, but it wasn't even close. It was just basically covered in blood, none of it was actually inside the cup.

I reinserted the cup again, and pushed it back and pushed it back. I felt it pop back behind the pubic bone and again I felt it push against my anus. So a few questions:

1) Do you feel the cup reopen after you insert it? Once I pushed it back as far as I could, I guess I was expecting to feel it open, but I didn't feel anything. How do I know that the cup has fully opened?

2) What does it feel like when the Instead cups "pop out?" Do you actually feel it move from behind the pubic bone?

3) Does it sound like I'm doing everything right? I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong.

I'm so disappointed. I was so sure that these Instead cups were going to work!
Current Mood: disappointeddisappointed
Jackieagraciado on May 21st, 2007 03:03 am (UTC)
The peeing/pooping thing is normal---you shouldn't have to change it. Also the whole it not collecting in the cup is normal too.

1) no. I don't feel it at all. The cup will position itself though. So if you insert it too far in it will eventually make it's way down to behind the pubic bone.

2) I don't know exactly what I can feel, but it's very obvious feeling that it's come out of place. If you've ever used tampons, it feels similar when the tampon is too moist and is sliding out.

3) Yes. The main downfall of insteads is they have no suction action like reusable cups so they will be more prone to leak, not as good of collectors, and when you pee or poop some of the blood may come out.

I don't quite understand why you're so disappointed? When I used insteads I had the same concerns you did, but other than that I thought they were great. In fact, I was overjoyed because I got to sleep more than 8 hours because with tampons I was paranoid of TSS and would wake up. And the first night I was amazed because my vagina wasn't all dried out from tampons.
Cara or C.C., whichever you preferms_octopus_lady on May 21st, 2007 03:16 am (UTC)
Well, I was disappointed at first because I thought that meant that it was leaking, which meant I didn't put in right, which meant that probably having sex with them wasn't going to turn out very well. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex in a LONG TIME, and I was counting on these working.
the sand and the seacloudshapes on May 21st, 2007 03:28 am (UTC)
I haven't used Instead cups but I think it's generally recommended to empty it right before you have sex; that way the leakage should be at a minimum. Plus you'll be able to enjoy it more instead of worrying that the sex is suddenly going to dislodge a cup full of blood.
anonymousvirginanonymousvirgin on May 21st, 2007 03:28 am (UTC)
i used instead for two years, but now i'm switching to a nondisposable cup, for various reasons. so here's what i can tell you about instead:

when the instead cup is inserted properly, you won't feel it. it'll be hooked under the public bone -- there's not a lot of receptors in that area of your body, so you really shouldn’t feel it. it you can feel it, you've inserted it improperly or it has popped out of place.
i never felt it move behind the public bone, but of it moved i could definitely feel it inside of me (like something 'poking' or 'pressing' against my vaginal wall); often, if it's out of place, you can reposition it without having to take it out... pull it forward a little bit to get a good grip in it, and then just push it farther back.

i never felt the cup pop open -- i don't think there's a 'pop' like with nondisposible cups. it's kinda like inserting a diaphragm, if you've ever used one of those... the rim of the cup just locks under the public bone and contours itself to fit your particular body. you'll know its in the right place if a) you can't feel the cup and b) you can feel your cervix on the other side of the cup, like the website explains.

a big frustration with insteads is that going #2 often pushes the cup out of place as a result of bearing down to move your bowels. this is normal for this product, you didn’t do anything wrong. (it says something about it on the web site, but i don't remember where exactly.) the leakage... that kinda sucks, but it’s normal. some women can just easily push the cup back into place afterwards, but i found that often i had 'repositioning' problems... often i just couldn't get the damn thing back in place properly afterwards... i usually just removed the cup altogether, and inserted a fresh one after i was finished. this worked out better anyways as i wanted to wash my hands after finishing #2, but before i reinserted my fingers into myself.

a good idea with these cups is always to have a moist towelette with you if you're using a public washroom. if you have to reposition, you're likely to get blood on your fingers; you can wipe it off before you leave the stall.

good luck!

elenita83 on May 21st, 2007 10:53 pm (UTC)
I used Instead cups for six months, and I agree with everything above. I think you did put it in right, and that it was working, but pooping messed that up

The lack of suction is the biggest issue, really. Ideally, your pubic bone keeps it in place in all situations. But bowel movements is one of those things that makes it move. Vigorous sex is another, from what I've heard, so maybe lay a towel down just in case before you get intimate.

Hang in there and don't get discouraged. You'll get the hang of it after the first cycle or two.
Julilla1julilla1 on May 21st, 2007 04:51 am (UTC)
It sounds like you did everything right and since it didn't leak until you went to the bathroom. Problem with Insteads is that any pushing in that area tends to bring the Instead with it. When I used them, the only work around I could find was to put a finger in my vagina to keep the Instead sliding out while I had a pee or whatever. It does tend to break the seal anyway, but at least you can keep it from flying into the toilet. I wish the Instead had been my solution, but it wasn't. For me the Divacup outperforms any damn thing on the market.