the issue is it gets on my pants, underwear, and bedding. but the cup isn't full. :-\ so i don't get it! every first 3/4 days it does this.

oh okay. thanks

That sounds like the problem I was having with a size 2. I emailed the people at Divacup and asked them which cup they thought I should get, because I was 4 months away from turning 30 at the time, and they said I should get a size 2, so I did. It leaked all the time. I would wear it for about 5 or 6 hours and when I took it out it was empty. Nothing I did made any difference. I tried different folds, stirring, letting it open halfway in, letting it open all the way in, trying different angles. Nothing worked.
I've since switched to a size 1 because I had a hunch that size 2 was too big. Everything is fine now. The cup works perfectly. The only issue I have is during the first couple of days when I'm wearing it overnight and it leaks because it overflows. That's not the cup's fault, though.

i'm using a size 1 because i'm a virgin and i'm 19

I think the size B mooncup is slightly smaller than the size 1 diva. Your troubles sound like the troubles I had with the size 2, which was too big.

Have you tested the suction by tugging on the stem gently to make sure it really has suctioned up there?
That's the only thing I can really think of...is that it's not suctioning as it's suppose to up there.
I'd say it may be residue from before you inserted the cup but it sounds like it's more blood than that. If it was suctioned properly then it would be crazy weird for the blood to get past the rim.
Are you positive you have the proper size?
Are you exercising or anything excessively to somehow magically pop the sucker out of place (if that's even possible lol)?

I've read about this tip:
Insert ONLY the rim, then pop open the cup and push it up higher fully open. You will catch up a lot of blood like that. Hope it works?

i do that some time but it hurts me abit more/feels weird.

I had this same issue with the Diva. I would insert it and it would be fully opened and suctioned, I'd have a good seal and what I thought to be good positioning. Then, within five - ten minutes of putting it in, there would be a flood in my underwear. It would work like a charm on the first day of my period after my initial insertion, but it would leak after every re-insertion. I got frustrated after four cycles with it and switched to a MoonCup UK after getting some advice here.

The Mooncup UK solved all of my problems. I've used it successfully for the past seven cycles, now, with no issues. I can leave it in for about six hours on my heaviest day with no leakage. And unlike the highly temperamental Diva, the Mooncup seems to work no matter how I put it in. I usually take my time to insert it carefully, but sometimes when I'm in a hurry, I'll just shove it up there without being conscious of the angle at which I'm placing it. It works perfectly for me no matter what, whether I'm careful and attenitive to positioning or whether I shove it in rather carelessly. If you're having a lot of leaking issues with the Diva, I would highly, highly recommend switching to the Mooncup UK! The Diva Cup has a 12-month return policy, so as long as you haven't cut the stem off entirely, you should be able to return it to them with no problems.

It might not be positioned over your cervix properly so the cup isn't catching all the blood... or it might just be the residual blood making its way out. Try angling the cup differently when you insert and running a finger around the rim to make sure your cervix is inside the cup.

So, it leaks when you're sitting on the toilet, but it doesn't leak any other time? That happens to me too. It's nothing to worry about. I think it's because when you're sitting on the toilet, your vagina is almost completely horizontal, so any of the blood in the cup spills over the edge of the cup, and some of it leaks out.