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11 November 2006 @ 12:18 pm
So there i was last month, sitting on the toilet, deciding that its high time i start using my Diva that i bought LAST august. I glanced down to the garbage can where i had just deposited my latest pad, and it hit me. Every pad in there was mine. Since august, when I moved into this apartment with my best friend of 6 years, she either had not used a single pad or tampon, or was really really good at hiding it (which i found silly).

I pushed the thought out of my mind as i focused more on the task at hand - learning my Diva. That went well, and things continued as normal.

So yesterday I was sitting on the toilet, and I came to the same realization again, so this time I fortified myself and actually asked her about it.

Turns out that even before i got mine (i'd been thinking about getting one for over a year before i got one), i sent her the link and she liked the idea of the Diva. I was kind of surprised because i didn't remember it being warmly received- but that might have been someone else. I'm only -slightly- offended that she never told me that she actually got the Diva. But I'm more happy because I converted someone and didn't even realize it :D


On another note, my boyfriend had expressed interest in watching me change the diva a few times. I was really confused by this, but I guess it makes sense since it's not exactly something that he gets to see every day- new territory and all that jazz. So last night i was visiting him and i brought up the idea to him. He seemed really excited about it, so we went into the bathroom, I went through the motions, and when it was all over, he said:

"That was quite possibly the coolest thing I've ever seen."

hurrah for supportive boyfriends! :D
Current Mood: amusedamused
juliesgotagunjuliesgotagun on November 11th, 2006 06:27 pm (UTC)
that's amazing! haha this one time in the shower with my boyfriend i had to empty it and replace it. he watched and was like "THAT'S REALLY COOL!"
'Oferlynxypoo on November 11th, 2006 06:29 pm (UTC)
man, boyfriends can be great.
sfaithj on November 12th, 2006 11:42 pm (UTC)
Aww! How sweet!
Margrethe: Diva Cup iBleedmercurygrrl on November 11th, 2006 06:34 pm (UTC)
Your bf rocks! Mine liked watching as well - he calls it the plug, so when I've got my period, it's plug-week
Vanessaoboegoddess on November 11th, 2006 07:09 pm (UTC)
That's cool that you converted your friend without realizing it! I don't think it's anything personal that she didn't tell you, as menstruation is usually a hush-hush topic in this culture.

That's also cool about your boyfriend being supportive, though I don't think I'd be comfortable letting my bf or anyone else watch while I remove/empty/insert my cup! It would make me feel very self-conscious, like I was performing and had to do it perfectly or something. But I don't think he really wants to watch me anyway, so no worries!
ex_the_major316 on November 11th, 2006 07:43 pm (UTC)
Oh your boyfriend rocks! My ex didn't like the idea of going in the bathroom if I had left the soup cup out that I use for soaking my cup.

Maybe he thought it was going to come up and eat him or something :?
Leylarangermorgiah on November 11th, 2006 11:26 pm (UTC)
OT, but icon love.
Sarasarasnee on November 11th, 2006 08:58 pm (UTC)
I tell my boyfriend far more than he wants to know, and overall he's curious albeit slightly grossed out. He's uncomfortable with "relations" during my period, but other than that, pretty supportive!
elizabbyelizabby on November 14th, 2006 12:23 am (UTC)
My husband loves the cup because now I am not so sore during my periods. I just whip it out and stick it back in afterwards! Tampons used to scratch so much I was no good for a few days afterwards. I used to say "you're not getting any for a week!" at the start. Now he just waits a day or so for the very heavy part to pass (and for me to feel better) then it is business as usual...
how soon is nowgreenanimal on November 11th, 2006 10:24 pm (UTC)
That's great about your boyfriend. Mine asked me what the diva was so I brought it out and showed him (it wasn't period week). He was genuinely interested and thanked me for explaining about how it works. I also showed him my cloth pad collection - just because I'm proud of it - not because he asked!!
littlesillymoolittlesillymoo on November 11th, 2006 10:59 pm (UTC)
I thought my bf would be wierded out by it too, seeing as he only had one brother, but it turned out that he knew a lot more about it than I did! His mother took the time to explain puberty to him from both the male and female perspectives! He was more worried about the health issues linked with mainstream disposables, expecially tampons, than I ever was, and even had a few issues with the idea of my sticking anything up there! The other day, he was asking what exactly silicone is (we were discussing medical stuff) and I pulled out my cup! He looked at it, squished it, and said, "It doesn't interact with the body? Or like, degrade, rust, or leave fibers? Cool!"

I also opened it in front of him when I got it. My first reaction was "Cool! It's smaller than I thought!" and he looked at it, squished it, and shrugged. The other day, I had some spotting, and he suggested I put it in!
elizabbyelizabby on November 14th, 2006 12:26 am (UTC)
Really? I thought it was *huge* when I got it and so did my husband. He looked appalled when I said I was going to stick it inside myself! I reminded him that I am built to stretch over a baby's head, but he said "yeah, but you've never actually done it"!

Anyway, he had quite a "play" with it in the beginning, folding it up and "twinging" it across the bathroom... Boys! They can turn anything into a slingshot!!
littlesillymoolittlesillymoo on November 14th, 2006 04:20 am (UTC)
Well, I think that reading so much about it being huge made me think it was going to be ginormous, and it is in fact smaller in diameter than... well... the other thing that goes in my vag. *whistles innocently* My boy is currently having a fantastic time talking about the potential for profits and what a great business model they have, since it has the potential to cater to a huge consumer base, and it's a renewable base as well. He's an econ major, so he got over the initial "ick that's going up there?" factor by focussing on the cleverness of the idea, especially the pin. He even got to the point where he said, "If we have a daughter, she's using that!" That made me smile.
Melissaprincessy on November 12th, 2006 02:12 am (UTC)
A guy I am very close with (although, alas, am not dating) has been so supportive, he is able to tell the difference between all the cups. I was actually visiting him when I got it, so I had it delivered to his place. He has put up with way too many "too much information" moments from me. XD When something exciting happens in cup world, he's the one who hears about it. It's really great that there are guys out there who are so good about menstruation when most I've interacted with are like, "'Kay, next topic!"
Silver Raye Adamssilver11016 on November 12th, 2006 06:30 am (UTC)
It's really amazing how a lot of guys are cooler about this than we give them credit for. For instance, the other night when I was having insertion problems (I still haven't got the damn Diva all the way in, but I'm getting there slowly), my ex saw my "Doing squicky girly things" away message and IMed to ask what's up. (This is the one ex I've stayed friends with.)

After explaining to him that I was currently spraying blood and lube all over my bathroom, he started looking up menstrual cups online so that he could help me figure out how to get it in. "Hey, this is a nifty idea...okay, are you using a bell-shaped one? Looks like that'll go in easier."

"Yes, it's bell-shaped."

"It says you need to relax."

"Oh sure, you tell me to relax. You're not the one shoving this huge wad of silicone up between your legs!"

Sadly, though, my best-friend-slash-almost-boyfriend-but-not-quite is totally squicked by girlybits issues. I managed to traumatize him once by telling him abot my bra-shopping difficulties.
elizabbyelizabby on November 14th, 2006 12:27 am (UTC)
Ha! Unless you're a "G" cup you've never had bra-shopping difficulties!

Sounds like he had a low threshold for trauma - do you think he can manage to "do it"? ;)
Silver Raye Adamssilver11016 on November 14th, 2006 01:09 am (UTC)
I actually have difficulties because the coolest stuff never comes in a 32A. My friend just doesn't want to hear about how I sell all these pretty bras and can't wear any of them. (I work at Victoria's Secret, mainly in the Sexy Little Things section, which is my favorite. SLT bras start at a B-cup.)

And my personal theory is that his trauma threshold will increase as we get better acquainted. But then again, we've been really close for four years and he still gets squicked when I mention menstrual cramps.
littlesillymoolittlesillymoo on November 14th, 2006 04:26 am (UTC)
Awww, I feel your pain. I'm a 32A also. It's just stinky.

I also think that when boys that are close to women get squicked out, the women in question ought to make it as uncomfortable as possible, laugh at them, and then say they're kidding. It'll make the real thing sound less icky, and slowly raise the trauma threshold. Mine used to be all icked out by it, as he knew a lot about what happened, but didn't realize that there's, you know, actual BLOOD and pain. So his mom started talking to him about her cramps when she was younger, and how many tampons she would use in a day, and how messy sex on her period was and all that fun stuff, and now he's fantastically supportive and helpful when I'm on my period. *grins* I love his mother.
Silver Raye Adamssilver11016 on November 14th, 2006 06:24 am (UTC)
Hmm...gradually increasing his trauma threshold through humor. I'm going to have to try that. ^^ Thanks!
alunaticalunatic on November 12th, 2006 07:51 am (UTC)
Yay for your boyfriend! That's keeper material there.
kashinthegreen on November 12th, 2006 08:57 am (UTC)
what? Natural Rubber ;)

sfaithj on November 12th, 2006 11:46 pm (UTC)
Ha! Nice pun!
Gluppit the prawling strangles, thereelettaria on November 12th, 2006 12:26 pm (UTC)
I'm trying to work out whether my beloved could cope with my inserting a cup in front of him, let alone taking it out, rinsing it and reinserting it when we're in the shower together, or whether I should continue my current policy of taking it out in the loo but leaving it to soak (once it's been rinsed off) in full view. It doesn't phase him at all when we're in bed together, though it can be funny when he forgets it's there (or when I've spent a week whining about PMS and not bothered to mention that Titus Andronicus has finally appeared on the stage, to quote a friend's new euphemism) and runs into it during the course of activities, pauses, and says, "Ah, right." I should just ask him. I'm his first girlfriend and his mother and sister always kept quite quiet about girly stuff in front of him, so I'm impressed at how well he's doing with it generally.
elizabbyelizabby on November 14th, 2006 12:28 am (UTC)
"or when I've spent a week whining about PMS and not bothered to mention that Titus Andronicus has finally appeared on the stage"

I love it!
Ashley: Diva Cup Love!disturbedme on November 12th, 2006 11:45 pm (UTC)
My fiance (will be husband in a week) is also very supportive of my Diva Cup. He has no problem watching me put it in and actually wanted to see me do it the first time I got it. He likes it and thinks it's interesting. Very supportive and understanding.

It makes me so happy when guys actually do care about that sort of stuff and are supportive in this area!

mercury5_girl: Fractal Flowermercury5_girl on November 13th, 2006 04:24 am (UTC)
all this gives me the warm and fuzzies!
wow, where do these cool men come from??
sfaithj on November 13th, 2006 09:27 pm (UTC)
Re: all this gives me the warm and fuzzies!
I know!! Where can I find me a "Diva" positive man?