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10 June 2019 @ 08:19 pm
I couldn’t find a better way to describe what is going on, so sorry.

I’m 23, a virgin and I’m trying a cup for the first time. I bought an Athena cup size small and a Pixie cup size small.

I’ve had issues with inserting for almost my entire cycle. I tried different positions, different folds and lube. I can usually get half of the Athena cup in before I start feeling pain and can’t push it in more without it hurting.

After getting extremely lubed up, I’ve managed to get it in once, but it went so far up I could barely feel the stem, let alone check if it had opened. I didn’t feel anything when I walked around, which is what they say it’s supposed to feel like, but I couldn’t tell if it was open.

I tried taking it out, but I had to push really hard and catch the cup in time, because as soon as I stopped pushing, my vagina would swallow it back up.

So my question is, did I get a cup that’s too small? I’ll be honest, I did put my finger in to measure my cervix, but I couldn’t figure out if I was able to touch it or not.

Please, I really need help!! I don’t want to give up on using the cup, I’m so over using pads and tampons and always worrying I’m leaking.
 
Nathalianathskywalker on June 11th, 2019 08:51 am (UTC)
Your cup might be too small. Do you break the seal before pulling it out?
phoenixhunt on June 11th, 2019 12:41 pm (UTC)
No, I pinched the base of the cup just in case it had sealed, but it felt like it was still folded. I had very little issue taking it out, other than having to push as hard as possible so I could get a grip on it.
ellajig on June 12th, 2019 02:00 pm (UTC)
Sounds like the suction is strong and that's what pulls it further inside. If you consistently cannot reach it easily to remove it, then the cup is probably too short for you and you should look for a longer one. Average firmness is usually good to start with because those kinds of cups open easily.

However, it sounds like you might benefit from poking around more inside your vagina to get more familiar with its walls and curves and everything. This will help you find out which direction the cup can actually go. It's okay to use pads or whatever you need while you're figuring it out. I still use these things on occasion even though I've used a cup for many years. Remember to breathe and good luck!
phoenixhunt on June 12th, 2019 07:09 pm (UTC)
Ok, I’ll definitely look into buying a longer cup. Thanks for the suggestions!!
ellajig on June 12th, 2019 07:55 pm (UTC)
Sure! You might also try squatting down low when you bear down because that is supposed to help shorten your vaginal canal and make things easier to reach.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 13th, 2019 11:21 am (UTC)
Don't buy a new cup yet. Get to know the one that you have first. Then you'll have a better idea of what you want of your next cup.

In the mean time, skim/read this: https://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ I think you are believing the illustration in the directions. Don't. It's sooooooo inaccurate.