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Hi, hello, I am 15 and a virgin. I bought a menstrual cup with my mom because its more environmentally. However, i have tried to insert it about 3 times now and have failed. I have used water based lube, sat in all the positions people told me to sit in, I've pushed a little to open up my pelvic region and nothing has helped. When i try to insert it i can get it a little ways up but its poking what i assume to be my urethra and it hurts so much! From what i can see using a mirror and just plain looking down, is that my urethra takes up half of my vaginal opening. Is that normal? Or am i looking at something different? I know its not my hymen because when i stick a finger up in there, its thick and rigged and goes up with the shape of the "canal". Anyone know how to combat this? I would very much like to try and use a menstrual cup but it keeps hitting this mass and i don't know what to do.


Nathalianathskywalker on May 22nd, 2019 01:11 am (UTC)
does your cup have a thingy attached to the cup itself to help pull it out? mine did and I had to cut it off because it would poke me in a way that constantly wanted to make me pee. I have to make an effort to push it up a bit once it's in the vaginal canal so that doesn't happen. I don't know if that's an option you're comfortable with but I've never had problems getting the cup back out without it.

good luck with this. if it doesn't work now, don't stress over it. give it a break for a month or two and try again.
lucy20202 on May 22nd, 2019 02:12 am (UTC)
Yes it has a little piece to get it out but its a ring so it shouldn't bother me. However i haven't been able to even insert half of the cup. That's how weird and confusing this is. I am starting to wonder if what I'm seeing is even my "urethra" i mean it sounds like its too small for what I'm seeing but i have NO idea what else it would be.
Maria ReinholdtMaria Reinholdt on May 25th, 2019 01:31 am (UTC)
Going by your description it sounds like it's simply one side of your vagina's wall, I guess the one that is 'next' to your urethra.
As you probably know, the vagina is not straight, but it's angled a bit, so that wall adjacent to your urethra is kinda bulging out a bit, and the pubic bone is also kinda in the way and you have to get the cup 'behind' it (at least that's what it feels like for me). So yes, sounds perfectly normal.

But I don't see why touching that part of the wall with your cup would cause pain, especially since touching it with your finger doesn't hurt?
Are you sure that pain you're feeling isn't in fact from stretching the vaginal opening too much due to the circumference of the folded up cup (which is bigger than just one finger)? Because in that case you might try to go past that point where it hurts, behind the pubic bone, and insert it further, and the pain should subside.

Don't know how familiar you're with your vagina in general, how much you've explored its shape and in which directions the walls expand comfortably, using your fingers, to get an idea of how to angle the cup when inserting?
Have you used tampons (with or without an applicator?) and if so, how did you manage to insert them without running into that 'thing'?

lucy20202 on May 27th, 2019 11:25 am (UTC)
The pain im feelings im pretty sure is the cup trying to be inserted but also pushing against it. Maybe its just the stretching. Ill have to try once again later today
Glumdalclitch.ammalouithe on May 29th, 2019 11:27 am (UTC)

Following - I'm interested to know what's going on here but can't offer much insight! I personally have bladder/urethra issues which affect insertion but for something to be so visible doesn't sound like your urethra. I have never seen mine and I'm 32 and pretty body literate, it's just TINY. Around my vagina though I have what is apparently 'hymenal tissue', it hurts to poke with one finger or anything too pointy.

Glumdalclitch.ammalouithe on May 29th, 2019 11:31 am (UTC)

Ps could you maybe mark up what it looks like on an anatomical drawing or even draw a simple diagram of what it looks like? And as someone else asked, are you familiar with inserting other things, tampons etc? A cup would have been difficult for me to get my head around before tampons/sex tbh