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15 February 2019 @ 01:41 am
Hello, this is my first entry. I just don't know where else to go. So I'm 17, a virgin and I've never used even tampons before, only pads.
Around 6 months ago I stumbled across a post for menstrual cups and after much hesitation decided to give them a go. I order one ( wow freedom cup, indian brand) from amazon.
I got my period today and decided to use the cup I bought. I sterilized the cup and went into my bathroom. I was pretty nervous as I'd never put anything in my vagina before this. I tried the 7 fold and took a leap of faith. I could get the cup in,not even a little bit. It hurt like hell and when stick my finger in my vagina felt too narrow. Then I realized I was doing the wrong angle. This time I tried the punch down fold and aimed for the tailbone. I could only get half of it in and it just popped out of my vagina. After struggling for 2 HOURS I did somewhat get the cup in but I could feel it inside me and it felt really uncomfortable. I couldn't even tell if it opened because I didn't hear the pop. Moreover the stem was sticking out. And I could see I was leaking. So I tried to get it out and alas. It was stuck. I literally started crying. Then I beared down and tried everything to get hold of the base and after 20 minutes got it out. Everything around me was extremely messy and my vagina was hurting too. I cleaned everything up and put on my pad. After the end of the day I again thought of trying it. This once I took two three tries to get it in but it was still the same case. I could feel the cup, the stem was sticking out and It hurt to also again I didn't hear the pop and could see blood dropping out of me. Again struggled to get it out. Took 5 minutes to get it out cleaned the mess and put on another pad. I also think I have a sensitive urethra.
Please tell me what to do? I'm really tired of using pads and want to cup-vert. But how do I do that?
I am failing miserably. I feel like I'm not normal. Help.
Yelizavetamajesticzaichik on February 14th, 2019 09:20 pm (UTC)
I honestly think that it is just very difficult to use the cup for a virgin, or for someone such as yourself who has their hymen intact. Most cups are just wide enough to be discomforting. So I may just suggest to you to try the cup again after you have broken your hymen, whenever that may be. You can also always try a softer cup, but I am not really sure if that will help you. Maybe you can try using a tampon and see how that feels? Then return to the cup after you get used to that. Tampons are not as wide as the cup and some believe them to be softer too. Also check the community tags for "virgininity" and you may find some suggestions

If the stem is sticking out, this may mean you have a low cervix, or generally this means you did not stick it up far enough. The higher it goes in the vaginal canal, the less discomforting it is and the less you can feel it. Perhaps if you are willing to try it again, I would just gently push the cup as high as it will go, even if it hurts. It should feel better if you can get it higher up.
Angelina Winget on February 15th, 2019 07:54 am (UTC)
Hello, thanks a lot for your advice.
I tried again today. this time it hurt less while going in and went a bit higher too but I can still feel the cup and i don't know if it's open.
Update - It leaked and I can feel it while breathing too XD

Edited at 2019-02-15 09:14 am (UTC)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 14th, 2019 11:08 pm (UTC)
Put the cup away and come back to it another time when you don't feel pressured to have to make it work. It's perfectly OK to play with it between periods to get the hang of insertion and removal. If things don't go your way then give up and come back to it again another time. You might want to get comfortable with the concept and act of insertion first. Start with fingers and then move on to something like a (clean) hairbrush handle or whatever else appeals to you. Then move on to your cup. A little water-based lubricant would probably help. Put a dab on YOU, not the cup.

Skim/Read this for some helpful hints: https://kuradi8.livejournal.com/
nora_n0ra on March 9th, 2019 06:37 pm (UTC)
I would recommend to research about cups made for teens specifically. They're usually a "mini" version of a cup. However they are quite small so I strongly recommend measuring your cervix before buying one just to make sure you won't have a tough time removing it. I'd recommend the Meluna small, Hello xs teen, Monthlycup mini and the XO Flo mini. The monthlycup mini in particular might be good for you since it has bigger suction release holes. Also I had a similar experience to you. My first cup sat at the bottom of my underwear drawer for almost a year because of how painful it was the first time I tried it. I couldnt even insert it. Tried again like 3 months ago and was able to get it in and use it without a problem. It was a little uncomfortable but I got used to it quickly. Also please be patient when it comes to removal, it's best not to hurt yourself :)

Edited at 2019-03-09 06:44 pm (UTC)