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18 October 2017 @ 09:02 am
So I'm sure this has been asked before but I haven't had sex in more then a year and a half. I am married so using the diva cup and if by some miracle he decides to have sex again will he notice I'm not as tight as i should be? Weird question i know.
Nathalia: redheadnathskywalker on October 18th, 2017 03:31 pm (UTC)
No. A penis stretches your vagina far more than the cup would. Tampons don't "stretch" you out either. The vagina is a muscle and all of this fear of stretching is a little weird to me. Sure, if you give vaginal birth, that makes you less tight but a cup is pretty small and I doubt you'd notice a difference.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on October 18th, 2017 10:33 pm (UTC)
"Tight" is a function of your pelvic floor, specifically your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle. As with any muscle, "use it or lose it." The good news is that it's a very simple muscle to tone.

Google KEGEL exercises.

Sit on the toilet, insert your finger and give it a little squeeze. That's the muscle.

When it comes to kegel exercises, there are many different kegel tools. Some are hands-on and require interaction -- such as wands or tethered "orgasm balls" or gizmos that look kinda like speculums. My favorite tool is just plain Ben Wa Balls. (Amazon) Start with ones that are about 1" and 3/4oz apiece and then graduate to those that are appx 3/4" and 1oz apiece. The idea is to insert them and keep them in while you walk around, do the dishes, etc. Start with 20 minutes a day and build from there. The longer you keep them in, they harder they'll be to keep them inside. That's what's working your PCs -- hands free, no interaction required. Do this at home. Be sure to remember to remove them (relax, cough and catch) before going out or using the toilet.

But kegel exercises are not enough. You should also add squats (for the butt muscles) and lower abdominal crunches to your exercise routine. They all work together to tone vaginal muscles.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on October 22nd, 2017 01:06 am (UTC)
also i don't know if you've heard about the asexual community.
mossmorton on October 23rd, 2017 03:08 pm (UTC)
Not weird at all. Do you really think he would remember exactly what you felt like 18 months ago? Kinda sounds like his energy and attention is elsewhere.

Your vagina is not a set size, and it is exactly how it should be.