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28 August 2017 @ 09:20 am
Okay. I have followed these forums for years, but never posted anything. I tried a menstrual cup for the first time when I was 13 or 14 (Diva Cup) and I couldn't get it out, so I was scared, and didn't come back to it for a while.

I'm almost 18 now, and I can get them out easily. I'm comfortable with the cups, and LOVE the idea of them, except, they NEVER work for me. I must be doing something wrong but I don't know what. I've been working with it for probably 5 or so cycles.

For starters, I'm 17, a virgin, and I use a Lily Cup, size A. I think I have a bit of a tilted cervix, as it is usually towards the left. Sometimes, it doesn't leak, and sometimes it does. Sometimes, I can have it in for a while, it be fine, then I move a certain way and it leaks, but when I go to take it out, it is still 'sealed' or 'suctioned' (when I tug, it doesn't come out). Sometimes I'll think it's leaking because it is too full, but I find that it's hardly filled. Last night (first night on my cycle, very heavy) it lasted the whole night. I was paranoid about it, so I got up several times to make sure it wasn't leaking. All good. But I got up this morning, and after I stood up, it was like there was no cup, and blood leaked all over my underwear. When I went to remove the cup, it was still sealed and didn't feel like it had moved or anything.

The only thing I can think of that may be causing it, is the softness of the Lily Cup. I love the feel of it (compared to my old Diva), but it doesn't feel open when it's in. The rim is suctioned, but I've never had it open to full size inside of me, I don't think. It sort of takes on the size and shape of the vagina, and is a little bumpy and squished in there, if you run your finger around it, but not folded.

PLEASE help me! I'm determined to get this thing to work and LOVE it, but I'm getting discouraged.


Thanks in advance.
 
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on August 28th, 2017 07:55 pm (UTC)
see this about popping open http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2618390.html
do you still have your old diva? the lily is relatively low capacity, and it has a weird shape too. also, have you tried paying attention to which way you face the lower part of the rim?
if your diva was too long, try it inside out.
here's a high capacity chart :) http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/3607753.html don't be afraid of wider cups if your flow is heavy. i'm a virgin too but i this wasn't a problem, especially as i had already tried smaller cups first.

i get this morning gush too sometimes. could have to do with bowel movements. i also generally try to cover my vulva with my hand when i get up in the morning and i think my cup might be full. you might also want to keep cloth pads and/or paper towels handy for this morning walk.
abbijel on August 28th, 2017 10:27 pm (UTC)
I'm thinking that it is probably an inserting/unfolding issue, and I think I'll try the Diva again to see how it does.

I have been using the Lily all day, and it hasn't leaked since this morning when I got out of bed, but I've been paying extra attention to how it opens up.

**Thank you all for your help! I am really appreciating it!**