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28 August 2017 @ 09:20 am
Okay. I have followed these forums for years, but never posted anything. I tried a menstrual cup for the first time when I was 13 or 14 (Diva Cup) and I couldn't get it out, so I was scared, and didn't come back to it for a while.

I'm almost 18 now, and I can get them out easily. I'm comfortable with the cups, and LOVE the idea of them, except, they NEVER work for me. I must be doing something wrong but I don't know what. I've been working with it for probably 5 or so cycles.

For starters, I'm 17, a virgin, and I use a Lily Cup, size A. I think I have a bit of a tilted cervix, as it is usually towards the left. Sometimes, it doesn't leak, and sometimes it does. Sometimes, I can have it in for a while, it be fine, then I move a certain way and it leaks, but when I go to take it out, it is still 'sealed' or 'suctioned' (when I tug, it doesn't come out). Sometimes I'll think it's leaking because it is too full, but I find that it's hardly filled. Last night (first night on my cycle, very heavy) it lasted the whole night. I was paranoid about it, so I got up several times to make sure it wasn't leaking. All good. But I got up this morning, and after I stood up, it was like there was no cup, and blood leaked all over my underwear. When I went to remove the cup, it was still sealed and didn't feel like it had moved or anything.

The only thing I can think of that may be causing it, is the softness of the Lily Cup. I love the feel of it (compared to my old Diva), but it doesn't feel open when it's in. The rim is suctioned, but I've never had it open to full size inside of me, I don't think. It sort of takes on the size and shape of the vagina, and is a little bumpy and squished in there, if you run your finger around it, but not folded.

PLEASE help me! I'm determined to get this thing to work and LOVE it, but I'm getting discouraged.

Thanks in advance.
rebecca2525rebecca2525 on August 28th, 2017 02:41 pm (UTC)
If you have a tilted cervix, it can happen that your cervix sits to the side of the cup's rim, or on top of the rim, instead of being properly inside. So it bleeds past the cup, basically. This happens to me on certain days, so I always feel with my finger around the rim and make sure that I can't feel my cervix anywhere.

If you have a dangly cervix, your cup would start overflowing before it's full (maybe when it's half full or 2/3 full), but it wouldn't leak right from the start, but only when it's reached the capacity your dangly cervix allows for. There's nothing to be done about that except empty it early enough or get a higher capacity cup. I have a dangly cervix, apparently, but I wouldn't have guessed it from what I feel with my fingers.

I don't have any experience with softer cups, but it's always said that any cup (except the FemmyCycle) needs to be fully open and not squished. What about your Diva? It's not as squishy and shouldn't have the same issue, so maybe try to get the Diva to work first?
abbijel on August 28th, 2017 10:09 pm (UTC)
I don't think it's a dangly cervix... Sometimes the leaks happen when the bottom of the cup is just barely full. The more I read, the more I am thinking it's an inserting/sealing/unfolding issue. I think I will try the Diva again :) Thank you!

Edited at 2017-08-28 10:28 pm (UTC)