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16 May 2017 @ 06:40 am
Hey, a friend linked me here last night and I've been going through the archive, but I'm hoping someone might be able to help a little more specifically. Thanks in advance for your time.

I'm a 22 yo virgin who is trying to use a Diva Cup 1 for the first time this cycle. 5'3", not much more activity than walking the classroom while I student teach or standing upright all day at my weekend job. I'll admit I'm not super in touch with my body. I also didn't research the different varieties of cup before buying. Diva is the only one sold in stores around me, and I needed something quickly. After a minor plumbing emergency we realized that the pipes can't handle tampons, which I've worn comfortably for years, and my cycle is way too heavy to possibly get through the night with just pads. (I was using ultra tampons before this.) Throwing the tampons in the trash isn't an option, so a friend suggested the Diva Cup, which she loves.

I've only tried it for one day and night so far (first day of my cycle), but at this point I'm in tears.

So far as I could tell I was (eventually) getting it in correctly. I was using the push down fold because the c fold was too hard to get in, but I got to the point where I could run one finger fully around the cup and more or less rotate it that way, and I wasn't leaking as far as I could tell. (The longest I managed to sit with it in was about three hours, with a pad underneath and spotting free.)

The problem was it hurt the entire time.

I normally get mild to moderate cramps the first few days, so I thought that might be this, and I took a midol, which is normally enough to quickly get me feeling better. But the entire time I was wearing the cup, within 20-30 minutes of insertion I'd start feeling pain like a really intense kind of cramp-like feeling. I took it out and reinserted over and over and over, but repositioning never seemed to help. I ended up only sleeping about three hours last night, and now that I've given up and switched to just a pad, I actually feel really sore.

Again, I could run a finger all along the cup and no leaking, so I thought I had inserted it right, but is there a possibility I was doing something wrong to make this so utterly painful and miserable? I'm going to start birth control after this cycle and pray it makes things lighter, but in the meantime I don't know what I'm going to do overnight if I can't use a cup.
Current Mood: uncomfortableuncomfortable
rebecca2525rebecca2525 on May 16th, 2017 12:33 pm (UTC)
How easily can you still reach your cup? If you don't need the stem for getting it out, you can try the cup inside-out. This will shorten the cup so that it might sit differently and maybe more comfortable. The Diva cup is a very long cup as is.

I've also heard that the holes on the Diva cup are pretty small. Some people enlarge the holes because small holes may cause too much suction.
padawanscoutpadawanscout on May 16th, 2017 01:15 pm (UTC)
I can get it out fairly easy. I did try at one point to flip the cup inside out after reading about it here, but that seemed to dramatically increase the suction inserting it for some reason? I was pretty tired and stressed by that point, so it's possible I was doing something differently/wrong and not realizing I suppose.

If I were to try enlarging the holes, by how much would I want to enlarge them and do you know of a recommended way to do it?
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 16th, 2017 12:48 pm (UTC)
You don't have to use a cup exclusively. It's perfectly OK to mix and match other products, especially while you are in the learning curve. Ease into cup use a little at a time.

Skim/Read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ for helpful hints.
padawanscoutpadawanscout on May 16th, 2017 01:12 pm (UTC)
I'm just using the pad at the moment (daylight hours), but my problem is the pads aren't even close to adequate overnight and I can't use tampons any more because I can't easily dispose of them. Which was why I went for the cup, in hopes of being able to sleep through the night, except that it ended up hurting too much to sleep.
eerlijkeeerlijke on May 17th, 2017 04:57 am (UTC)
If it hurts even after you've taken it out, you may have irritated your urethra, thi isn't really a big deal. The urethra is directly above the "top wall" of your vagina if you're lying on your back, and it has lots of nerves and is very sensitive. It is most often irritated when you're putting in or taking out the cup. It can get irritated when the cup pops open if you his that wall of your vagina down. You said you were using the punch down fold, so a good way to avoid this is to insert it with the punched down side down. When taking it out, break the seal before you pull it out, and keep it partially collapsed are you take it out. The diva cup is a pretty firm cup from what I know, so it might be worth it to invest in a softer cup if this is your issue.

Another thing that might be your issue is be cup could be too long. The Diva cup is a pretty long cup, and this was my issue when I first got it. If you don't need it, I'd recommend cutting it all the way off. The entire cup should be all the way inside your vagina, or else it can be really uncomfortable.
pinkmathpinkmath on May 22nd, 2017 02:19 am (UTC)
What you just explained sounds exactly like what I first experienced with my first cup in 2009. And think I wrote a similar post. It took me about a year to figure how why my Keeper Mooncup hurt so much. Hopefully this comment will spare you 12 painful periods. The pain was caused by a few things:
1. It was just too long and I learned that my cervix does NOT like to be touched. (And I was reminded of this once I became sexual active.)
2. All that fiddling around just trying to get it in right just make the whole area tender.
3. My vagina was just not use to having something in it.