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18 April 2017 @ 02:50 pm
Hey everyone,I'm a 14 year old girl who jumped on the menstrual cup bandwagon a few months ago. I have really heavy periods and pads weren't doing anything for me. My periods are so heavy I have to wear an overnight pad to school and at around eleven o clock after going to school at nine I have most likely leaked. I'm tired of having to leave school to change and I hate the embarrassment of leaving orangey-brown marks on my seat.(fyi I attend a uniform school so we can't just throw on another pair of random pants and go) So late one night I bought a mooncup online. I didn't have many other options as the mooncup was the only cup that was sold in my area so I bought it. I was so excited when it came in the post, I tore open the box and raced to the bathroom to slip it in but It looked massive when I took it out of the bag. It was the smallest size but it looked like I was about to shove a milk jug up there. After many hours of reasearch and different folds over a number of days I finally got it in. I was holding the base of the cup while the other half was inside my vagina. I was reassuring myself that it was gonna be okay so I pushed a little further and I assumed it had popped open. I couldn't even feel it inside me. I could still feel the majority of the stem was outside me so either I have a low cervix or I just hadn't moved at all to make the cup naturally rise up. It was great until I heard my parents calling for me for dinner so I tried yanking it out and it was unbearably sore. I managed to get it out after pulling it out at a sort of slant but the pain was really uncomfortable and it scared me pretty bad.( never used tampons so maybe I'm over exaggerating) So now fast forward a few months and My mooncup is sitting in my drawer locked away and I'm absolutely terrified of it. I also have to go back to school soon after the Easter break and I have a lot of important classes coming up that I can't miss because of a leak. I'm really hoping that someone can help me get over this fear so I can have some peace of mind during my period. Thank you :)
Nathalia: redheadnathskywalker on April 18th, 2017 03:13 pm (UTC)
Have you tried lubricant of any kind? I mostly see water-based lube or coconut being recommended. Spread some of that on the folded cup. That should make insertion easier. I've also found that inserting during my period is easier because the menstrual blood helps to lubricate. You can cut the stem off if your cervix is low. I've done that after seeing it recommended several places and it's helped a lot.

I have very little experience with menstrual cups but I've found that the best option for me is to break the seal is to grab the cup between index finger and thump and squeeze, then slowly pull it out. You can try to use your musculature to help get it out.

Best of luck. Bleeding so much sounds very stressful and I hope you find a good option that works for you.
cj298 on April 18th, 2017 03:23 pm (UTC)
Thankyou I will try the coconut oil and I'll try to be more gentle when pulling it out. Wish me luck! :)
Selmamarsianka_selma on April 18th, 2017 07:31 pm (UTC)
I don't have much to say, but I know that neither tampons nor cups shouldn't cause any pain.
newconvert on April 22nd, 2017 12:23 pm (UTC)
There's a learning curve to using either tampons or cups, so don't worry, what you're experiencing is normal and gets better. When getting used to a cup, allow yourself plenty of time for insertion and removal since being tense can make the process harder -- but that won't last forever! The first couple of times you wear a cup you'll want to wear a pad as backup so if you're not sure it's open, you'll still be okay. Pretty quickly you'll learn what method works best for you to know if the cup is open.

It takes some time, but cups are great. It's wonderful to get ready for a day and not worry if I have enough "supplies" with me. Cups are incredibly freeing, just hang in there through the learning curve!
rawa0557 on April 26th, 2017 09:35 pm (UTC)
Hey girly,

Regarding the removal of the cup, you need to break the suction around the edge first before pulling it out, otherwise it's going to yank on your cervix and be really painful! For me, this is a two-handed job -- I use one hand to hold onto the base of the cup (not the stem, the actual cup) and pinch it a little bit in preparation to pull it out. With my other hand I insert one finger until I can feel the top edge of the cup, and then just kind of run it along the edge; that's usually enough to break the suction, and then the cup comes right out. Takes some practice...things are a bit crowded with both hands down there when you use this technique so you've got to play with it a bit and be pretty comfortable with your lady parts, but it works great without the painful yanking once you figure it out.

Sorry you had a bad experience, but I definitely recommend you try again. Some of the pain was probably from yanking the cup when it was suctioned to your cervix, but some of it was probably also just from poking and prodding so much when it was your first time trying to insert it. There's a learning curve for sure; it took me a couple cycles to get used to inserting and removing the cup quickly on the first try. I also get really heavy periods sometimes, and so I always use secondary containment on my heaviest days (ie a pad to catch leaks under the cup) but it's a huge improvement and I never worry anymore about those embarrassing or messy leaks every couple hours. Good luck :)