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06 August 2016 @ 08:37 pm
Warning: long post and some TMI.(Also I'm not sure how to add a cut, I apologize.)

Well, it took three months of trying, chickening
out, and trying again, but... I got it my cup in painlessly! At first I was so shocked at the fact that I couldn't feel the cup that I wanted to jump for joy, but I ran into a different issue... I could not for the life of me get the stem to stop protruding from my vagina. I tried pushing it up a few times, but it just seemed to slip right back down whenever I stood up. I eventually decided to leave it alone, figuring that if it didn't migrate on its own, I'd trim it later. The stem was rather uncomfortable, I wouldn't necessarily say painful, but it caused a slight burning sensation down there, and each time I bent over or sat down, I would feel a sensation similar to blood leaving my body when I'm wearing a pad... which was one of the last things I wanted to feel with it in. It kept making me think it was leaking, when it really wasn't. Next, my cramps suddenly got a lot worse, which I initially just attributed to me being anxious over using it for the first time. In addition, the cup kept making me feel as if I needed to poo... I'm not sure if I inserted it wrong or what, since I made sure to spin the cup and even wiggle it around for good measure before leaving it alone.

Eventually, after about 20 minutes, the discomfort became so much that I removed the cup... presenting yet another issue. Bearing down did. nothing to help the cup come down, and for a quick moment I panicked over the possibility of the thing suctioning to my cervix. However, I managed to get my middle finger up to the base of the cup to squish it in, but because I couldn't get the cup to move down with my middle finger alone, I used my thumb to grip the body of the cup and pull it down like that (I'm so glad I wasn't using a slick cup). Not a fun experience, but to my credit, removal was pretty clean considering the fact that I never touched the stem.

Shortly after removing the cup, the burning sensation disappeared, and I no longer had that awkward urge to poo. My cramps also returned to their normal level of annoying after a few minutes.

So my questions are, what exactly caused the bathroom urge? I suspected the cup might be too firm, but that didn't add up to me since I'm a fairly active teenager. In addition, would it be a good idea to invest in a slightly longer cup? I thought the long stem would be good enough, but apparently not since bearing down did nothing to help me, and I cannot imagine what I'd do if the thing were to migrate up to depths my thumb couldn't reach. 
 
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on August 7th, 2016 07:13 pm (UTC)
Stems aren't really supposed to protrude, so it sounds like the cup is actually too long (or you could trim the stem a bit). If the cup is also pressing on your rectum (anything remotely firm does the exact same thing to my bladder, so I feel you) you may feel better with something softer. I know the Lunette 1 isn't rock hard or anything but there are plenty of softer cups out there. The shape on that one is also kind of funky so maybe a U-shaped cup (Si-Bell, Fleur) would just fit your body better. Even a size Large of some type that would sit around your cervix rather than under it (it may not press against the same part of your rectum and constantly feel like you're running to the bathroom). The small/large size choice is really only dependent on your capacity needs, not whether or not you've had a kid.
gepunktetrock on August 20th, 2016 01:40 am (UTC)
Wow! I had very similar issues when I first started trying out my cups. I actually had two different sizes of the same cup. The small one gave me cramping and had the stem stick out, but the large one did not cause cramping or stick out despite being the same length. Because I had both, I mostly stuck with using the larger size, however I was still always curious why the smaller hurt and wouldn't go in.

I wonder if it has something to do with positioning. Like por_que_no said it is possible a larger cup may "sit" better. However, I know some will tell you to try to figure out you cup before trying a new one. So, don't give up. Carry back up protection (pads, tampons, or whatever you prefer) and lubricant. I discovered lubricant was the best way of helping my cup go in all the way, otherwise it would get stuck low. To be honest I have not figured out my smaller cup yet; I may try again. This is just my experience and I know everyone is different, but thanks for sharing, it makes me feel I am not alone in my struggles.