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I'm so aggravated I just want to cry. I bought a Ruby medium cup a few weeks ago and had to wait for my next cycle. Today was the first day of my cycle and I've tried all evening to use my cup without success. I'm 40 with one child. I've watched the videos and read a lot of guides. I'm able to fold it and insert is successfully, sort of horizontal, it pops open completely and the stem sits just inside my vaginal opening. I can rotate it freely all the way around. BUT I can feel it, all the time. I can't stand it and hate it. It's not painful, but I can definitely feel it. I've read a lot of comments that you have to get used to it and after awhile you forget about it, but I honestly don't see how. It's like having a golfball in my vagina, I really don't see how you can not feel it unless you get one that's very soft and squishy. I can't afford to purchase another one so I'm afraid I'm just stuck with this one right now.
 
Miss Ashleyimagine_peace on July 19th, 2016 03:49 am (UTC)
Have you tried using lubricant? I'm sorry this is not working out for you.

Edited at 2016-07-19 03:49 am (UTC)
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on July 19th, 2016 05:48 am (UTC)
It can take some time to get used to. I tried on and off for a year to use them, and I still don't use them all the time, especially as I'm approaching menopause and things are just a bit less accommodating than they used to be. You don't have to use it if you don't want to. Maybe take it out and try again next month?
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on July 19th, 2016 01:14 pm (UTC)
The Ruby's not the softest out there. You may post in the mc-sales group and try to trade your Ruby for something softer--many members have done trades when they won't or can't shell out $$$ for another cup :)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 19th, 2016 02:11 pm (UTC)
Give it another chance. You've only worn it for one day. Cups have a bit of a learning curve. Yes, sometimes --especially on my sensitive BLECH days-- it feels like a bowling ball up there. But most of the time, I forget it's there at all. And many of us think that the benefits FAR outweigh any of the things that bother us.

Would a different cup be more comfortable? Maybe. But don't buy another cup yet. Get to know the one you have. Figure out what you like and don't like about it. Then you'll have a better idea of what dimensions, shape and other features you'd want in your next cup -- or if you'd want another at all.

In the mean time, skim/read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ and follow the links to more information. It also links to mc_sales, which is a good place to buy, sell and trade gently used cups that didn't work out.
Tdoriswebb on July 19th, 2016 02:43 pm (UTC)
I also got a medium Ruby as my first cup. I think it's normal for your cup to be really noticeable if you're new to this. Took about 3 months before I stopped feeling mine all the time, but it's okay now! I know it's frustrating when things don't go the way you expect, but keep trying!

Edited at 2016-07-19 02:45 pm (UTC)
bklynmom on July 19th, 2016 10:43 pm (UTC)
I find stems really irritating and cut them off. You could try to insert your cup inside out to see if it's the stem. Or try cutting it if you suspect that is what's irritating you. Given your age and birth status, you aren't likely to have trouble removing your cup without a stem. ( no offense meant, I'm older than you and also have given birth. It seems to make fishing around for a cup a bit easier.)
tingirlgoldfish on July 22nd, 2016 01:41 am (UTC)
I took your suggestion and tried that today, it was really easy to invert my cup and it took a little wiggling but I didn't have any trouble removing it without the stem. So I'm going to cut mine off too!
tingirlgoldfish on July 22nd, 2016 01:39 am (UTC)
It's all good now...
Breath in...breath out. Thanks for the comments everyone! :) Things are better now, I think I was just emotional and cranky being the first day of my cycle and trying something new. I stuck with it and while there's still some issues I'm working through, it has gotten easier and I can't really feel it anymore. My lady bits haven't seen a lot of action in awhile and I don't use tampons, so things were a little tense down there. So I could really feel the cup everytime I moved or shifted. But after a few days, for lack of a better term, it seems like I've "stretched out" a bit and don't notice it at all, even if I try to consciously feel it. There's a lot they don't tell you in those instructional videos. Still trying to get the hang of it, I'm getting leaks if I don't remove it and reinsert it every 5-6 hours, unfortunately it doesn't seem like I can go overnight.

Thank you all for the comments and suggestions!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 22nd, 2016 02:55 pm (UTC)
Re: It's all good now...
PHEW! Your Ruby has a pretty good capacity for most days but if you have heavy nights, then consider a second higher capacity cup for those. Or plan ahead to empty in the middle of the night -- as you probably did with tampons/pads.

There are many size and capacity charts online, including the ones I linked to the other day. If they fit you, the large Fleur and the new large Super Jennie get good reviews for high capacity and comfort. http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/3473209.html So do the large Yuuki and XL Meluna. The Luv-Ur-Body cups are also high capacity but are too long for some. Check the charts and keep an eye on mc_sales if you're open to a 2nd hand cup.

EDITED TO ADD: Wow, Super Jennies are up to $30 a cup now. They were introduced at $16 just a year or two ago. But now they have teal and blue in addition to their original frosted.

Edited at 2016-07-22 02:59 pm (UTC)
newconvert on July 31st, 2016 02:20 pm (UTC)
RE: Re: It's all good now...
Super Jennie has discounts every so often (15-20%), so if someone is looking to buy, it might be worth waiting for those. I'm happy I got mine when they were cheaper, but I missed out on the colors.