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hopefully im making this right! ive never posted on livejournal before (i made an account just for this) but i bought a small ruby cup a few months ago, ive been using it for maybe 2 or 3 months now and no matter what i do it doesnt seem to catch everything. i am SURE it is sealed completely, every time i check its opened completely and every time i remove it i need to break the seal. it does catch most of my blood but sometimes (usually) ill get spotting when i wipe and it will be outside the cup.

another issue ive been having is that it always feels like i have to pee. i already pee a lot as it is (i think i have a small bladder) but it seems to be putting pressure on my bladder and i even have had to remove it completely in order to pee once.

also, no matter how deep i insert it it always seems to end up very close to the entrance of my vagina. i have completely removed the stem because of this and tried inserting it multiple different ways. i usually use the 7 fold. if anyone has any advice for any of these issues i would be so grateful. i really want cups to work for me.

Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 15th, 2016 12:58 pm (UTC)
1. Sounds like residual slobber. There is all kinds of good advice in the replies to posts under the leaking and spotting tag. Me, I learned to live with it and wore liners.

2. Common. Might be solved with either a softer cup or one that is shaped differently. Or your body might just get used to wearing ANY cup and it will stop bothering you.

3. The fold you use has nothing to do with it. You seem to have a short vagina or a low cervix that pushes the cup down that low. If you get another cup, a wider one might fit/suit you better but don't pick one that's much longer than the one you already have.

If you haven't already, skim/read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ It also links to a set of size charts to compare the cup you have to others.

On the other hand, despite your complaints, your cup seems to be working just fine. "If it ain't broke, don't fix it."
pansharks on July 15th, 2016 04:18 pm (UTC)
thank you! im pretty happy with it generally speaking to be honest, and i figured id get used to it but was still worried and figured id consult people who know more about it than me. ive tried checking where my cervix is and my fingers are just too short haha. ill probably keep with the ruby cup for now but im definitely going to check out your link!!
Tdoriswebb on July 15th, 2016 02:40 pm (UTC)
I had the pressure issue starting out...also with a Ruby. It may or may not be because the cup is firm. Since you haven't been using a cup for long, this could be something you'll get used to eventually. I did! But whether or not you need to try a different cup is your call.

If you have a low cervix, a narrower cup will often sit farther down because it can't sit up around your cervix. The rim could also simply be settling into the part of your vagina it's the right width for. If you want a cup that sits higher, you should look for something with a larger diameter than your Ruby, which is 40mm.

Edited at 2016-07-15 02:43 pm (UTC)
pansharks on July 15th, 2016 04:20 pm (UTC)
how long did it take you to get used to it? also it sitting so low doesnt necessarily bother me, honestly. sometimes i just get worried its too low or that im doing something wrong with it i guess!
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on July 17th, 2016 01:16 am (UTC)
What everyone else said: a wider cup will allow the cup to sit higher around your cervix rather than just under it. Say your cervix is around 40mm wide (I don't know if this is a standard width but I just picked a number). A 40mm wide cup won't fit around it so it will sit lower, under it, and not only will it feel like it's falling out your vag, it may also miss your cervix sometimes and cause you to leak. A 48mm wide cup, though, would fit around it, allowing your cervix to chill inside it and allowing the cup itself to migrate a little higher so you don't get that falling out feeling.

My cervix is high but because it's tilted I get that missed-cervix leakage sometimes. Wider cups are a bit more foolproof for me, but I need extreme softness due to my bladder/fibroid issues.
pansharks on July 17th, 2016 04:15 am (UTC)
ah i see what youre saying. i assumed mines pretty low on my period? because after posting this i tried feeling for it and i think i did feel it. when im sitting down with the cup in its almost right at the entrance of my vagina but if im standing up that isnt the case. so im not really sure what im going to do. i guess theres no harm in waiting a few months and continuing with the one i have though