So this is my 4th cycle trying a menstrual cup, my second using my Meluna classic small with the ring-style handle. I'm 23, never been pregnant, and have a fairly small stature. I also have mild vaginismus, which I've had for my entire sex life. I say mild because I can have sex, although not without pain. It's still fun so I bear through it, and within a day or 2 any soreness I've had is gone.
For whatever reason, fingers hurt me way more than much-larger male parts. I think it's the nails that hurt so much (even though mine are quite short.) Because of this, removal is a bit difficult, because trying to insert multiple fingers up around the side of the cup pinches and hurts wayyy too much. My removal method involves wiggle-walking the cup down and then when it starts to feel like it's ripping me in half I have to try to reach in as best I can and fold the cup. It's not as bad as it sounds. I feel confident about removing it, but I'm worried that it's partially responsible for the soreness/burning I feel while wearing the cup.
So here's my actual question: why am I feeling a burning/soreness sensation that seems to get worse the longer I wear the cup? It feels the same as that burning sensation that is common with vaginismus. I had to remove the cup earlier because of it, and I'm wondering if it's from the trauma of insertion/removal or if my muscles tensing around the cup could cause it? If so, why does no one else seem to have this problem?
One other thing I've noticed is that my cup tends to sit at quite a tilt, with the ring stem digging into the left wall of my vagina. My doctor did comment before that I have a tilted cervix, so I'm sure that's why. However, it does make that area especially sore and I was wondering if maybe I should try a different style of stem? I read somewhere on here that the ball stem version of a Meluna is more comfortable than the common style of stem. I've also seen that people turn their cups inside out but there is NO WAY I could get that back out considering my issue with fingers.
This ended up being quite long, so I'll summarize:
Why does my cup feel like its tearing up my vagina when it's just sitting in there?
Does my removal method have something to do with it?
Is the combination of a tilted cervix and a sharp ring stem the cherry on top?