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I'm sorry if this question has been asked before, I've been searching on here for a few hours and haven't found any problems quite like mine!

So this is my 4th cycle trying a menstrual cup, my second using my Meluna classic small with the ring-style handle. I'm 23, never been pregnant, and have a fairly small stature. I also have mild vaginismus, which I've had for my entire sex life. I say mild because I can have sex, although not without pain. It's still fun so I bear through it, and within a day or 2 any soreness I've had is gone.

For whatever reason, fingers hurt me way more than much-larger male parts. I think it's the nails that hurt so much (even though mine are quite short.) Because of this, removal is a bit difficult, because trying to insert multiple fingers up around the side of the cup pinches and hurts wayyy too much. My removal method involves wiggle-walking the cup down and then when it starts to feel like it's ripping me in half I have to try to reach in as best I can and fold the cup. It's not as bad as it sounds. I feel confident about removing it, but I'm worried that it's partially responsible for the soreness/burning I feel while wearing the cup.

So here's my actual question: why am I feeling a burning/soreness sensation that seems to get worse the longer I wear the cup? It feels the same as that burning sensation that is common with vaginismus. I had to remove the cup earlier because of it, and I'm wondering if it's from the trauma of insertion/removal or if my muscles tensing around the cup could cause it? If so, why does no one else seem to have this problem?

One other thing I've noticed is that my cup tends to sit at quite a tilt, with the ring stem digging into the left wall of my vagina. My doctor did comment before that I have a tilted cervix, so I'm sure that's why. However, it does make that area especially sore and I was wondering if maybe I should try a different style of stem? I read somewhere on here that the ball stem version of a Meluna is more comfortable than the common style of stem. I've also seen that people turn their cups inside out but there is NO WAY I could get that back out considering my issue with fingers.

This ended up being quite long, so I'll summarize:
Why does my cup feel like its tearing up my vagina when it's just sitting in there?
Does my removal method have something to do with it?
Is the combination of a tilted cervix and a sharp ring stem the cherry on top?
Tashanamelessw0nder on June 24th, 2016 02:27 pm (UTC)
I think all of the issues are related to the vaginismus. Everything I've read says that the pain from vaginismus can feel like "tearing". Even if the cup is just sitting there, it's still exerting some pressure on the muscle walls, which gives them something to react to (tense up against).

The cup ring may be a factor, but the only way you'll know for sure is by trying a different style.

I don't know if you're aware, but there are some exercises you can do (on your own, though physical therapy is also an option) to help with vaginismus. Most of it is doing kegels so that you can manually relax when you are experiencing symptoms, but I believe there are some other methods as well.
vividsunsets on June 25th, 2016 03:06 am (UTC)
Thanks for the reply! I'm thinking you're right, because it does feel similar to the burning sensation that sex gives me. Do you know of any "smoother" cups? I'm sort of wondering if it's the ridge on the rim of the cup that's hurting me?

My gyno once told me to try perineal massage prior to sex, but didn't really say what it was. I looked it up and when I saw that there were fingers involved, I wrote it off. I'll have to check out the other methods though!
justice_02justice_02 on June 27th, 2016 03:36 am (UTC)
The Super Jennie is a very smooth cup. The seams on the cup are virtually undetectable.
vividsunsets on July 11th, 2016 04:57 pm (UTC)
I've never heard of that one! I'll look into it :)