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I tried the diva cup for the first time today, I'm a virgin age 22 and never used a tampon either. I got the cup that is meant for age 30 and under with no kids, the smaller one. I did the push down fold, making the rim as small as possible and was able to get it in after x tries. The other fold won't work at all. It got in successfully, but when I popped it open, it was just painful. The position was right, everything was done right and the cup was exactly where it's supposed to be. The tip of the stem was no further than 1/2 inch into the vagina, followed the direction exactly every step. My cervix is not low and not too high, just average. So everything was done correctly and there was with no issue. But it just felt so big and it hurts me like I need it out NOW! Couldn't even stand it for another second. The pressure was too great. Even after I got it out, I still felt the pain for hours even though I've only had it in fully popped for 2 seconds. Is it because I've never had anything in there before? Not even something as small as a toothpick. It's been 5 hours and I still feel a little pain. Any cup with smaller size? Or am I out of hope from using cups and stuck with pads just like before? :/
 
Tdoriswebb on May 29th, 2016 05:54 am (UTC)
You're in pretty much the same boat as I was when I started! If you've never had anything in your vagina, it's completely understandable that a cup feels big. Pressure is also common to start with, but you generally feel it much less once you're used to your cup.
There are smaller cups, but while you're learning to use a cup a lot of people recommend sticking to the one you already have. It might turn out that you love the Diva once you get the hang of things. If you're sure you want a different cup, do a bit of research. I believe there are size charts linked on the sidebar of this communtiy.
elisamba on May 29th, 2016 06:03 am (UTC)
Ouch! Well yes probably the new experience caused pain. You may also have torn your hymen a bit. Or internally, the cup could have been pressing against your cervix or pubic bone. I used no-applicator tampons for years before switching to the cup, and was glad I did.

Here's the site's Virgin's Guide to Cups, it's a good list of pointers and ideas to help you get your body "used to" the idea of cups before actually trying to use one. HTH. http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 30th, 2016 01:48 pm (UTC)
It sounds like you are neither mentally nor physically comfortable with insertion. Don't worry. Cups are patient. And if you decide that putting anything in you isn't for you, then that's OK too. Your cup won't be insulted. ;o) Follow the advice at the Virgin's Guide to Cups. There are a couple of other helpful hints at http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ and don't sweat it. You'll be ready when you're ready.

In the mean time, sometimes enlarging the anti-suction holes up by the rim helps with insertion and removal.

And even though some people automatically suggest buying a "smaller" cup, I think the Diva is just fine. Learn to work the one you've got and then after you're through the learning curve, use what you know about it to decide whether or not you'd like another. The Diva is a long-bodied cup that is too long for some (there's a trick to shorten it) but I think that's a good thing -- even if it turns out to be too long for you. When you're in the learning curve, I think it's easier to remove a cup that's too long than have to dig deep to extract one that's too short.