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11 May 2016 @ 04:01 pm
Hi, It's taken me a while to get back here after experimenting for a few months, but...well...I got the large Fleur after having a small sized Mexican M Cup and at first it seemed good, definitely more comfortable, although seeming big to get in and out. But...it leaks just as badly as the smaller Mexican one. And it seems to leak straight away really, although not absolutely every time. It is seeming not to seal as it makes air sounds on most movements just after I have put it in, no matter what I try. Sometimes lots as I move. In terms of trying to position it properly around my cervix, like a cup and faucet and then below the faucet as had been suggested to me, although i don't entirely get that, really, I feel I can't do much as I can't reach up that far very well. I can't reach my middle finger up far enough to feel my cervix or top of the cup when it is up as far as it can go to check it is fully open, etc., and I can only just reach the bottom of the cup, quite long as it is. So perhaps I have a high cervix. I've read lots of posts, looked at diagrams of the cervix and am assuming I am missing my cervix off to one side, but...if I can't really reach up there I don't know very well how to position it better, I can only kind of play around with its tab and no matter what I do I still get the vaginal farting sounds straight away. I feel quite defeated on this. I so want a menstrual cup to work for me. I like so much about them, but I just can't continue with all this leaking as I got so used for so many years with tampons not to have any at all and don't want to use pads together with the cup. Any suggestions?
 
seaweed88: pic#126028927seaweed88 on May 14th, 2016 04:07 pm (UTC)
Do you have really strong pelvic floor muscles? Perhaps you are crushing the cup and therefore it doesn't form a good seal? If that's the case, maybe try a firmer cup.

Or maybe your cup isn't opening fully when you insert it?

Have you tried different folds?
sikhi on May 16th, 2016 07:34 pm (UTC)
more on leakage
Thanks very much for the reply, I really appreciate it. I am not aware that I have particularly strong pelvic floor muscles although people have said to me in the past that I might have. I've never had kids, but I'm 48 so I would think that things are not so tight in there! It seems that perhaps I should try with the cup lower down so it is perhaps not up against the cervix. There seems conflicting advice about this. The advice for some cups actually tells you to position it low in the vagina and others high. I am pretty sure that the cup is opening fully so it is either a position, my shape, or cup flexibility (possibly size, but I have tried both small and large now with similar results and picked a softer cup because the firmer one was jabbing me). Any thoughts as to really get the optimum position of the cup as I feel I have played around quite a lot with this, but am willing to keep experimenting. The cup seems to automatically want to move up and sit high. I never thought it would seem so complicated!

Edited at 2016-05-16 07:35 pm (UTC)
seaweed88: pic#126028927seaweed88 on May 18th, 2016 12:33 am (UTC)
Re: more on leakage
Do you have a high or low cervix? The higher up your cervix is, the more your cup will/may ride up
sikhi on May 18th, 2016 08:35 am (UTC)
Re: more on leakage
Well, before using a cup I never thought about it, but it seems that it is high as I can't reach it with my middle finger nor the top of the cup when it is in high so the cup seems to automatically go up high and then it just doesn't seem to fit to catch all of what comes out of the cervix and especially when I pee there is leakage and after I put it in air sounds, for a while. I've tried so much with the positioning but in the end it always seems to leak...I think it comes down the back side closer to the tailbone.