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31 March 2016 @ 10:16 am
Hello,

For context, I am 32, and have had a c-section but no vaginal births. I've been lurking here for a while, and have tried to trouble shoot on my own.

I've been using a Lunette Size 1 cup for a few month now pretty successfully (after removing the very pokey stem on day 2 - ouch!). There have been some issues with getting it to open properly. It just feels too soft inside, and even by pushing on the back of my wall and using the 7 and origami folds; it never felt truly open and round, but seemed to work.

However, I went off of birth control this month to prep for pregnancy soon, so my cycle is much heavier this month. I'm thinking that maybe the popping problems I was having never really resolved and now that the flow is heavier it is no longer working. I'm getting major gushes, but the cup is still partially full when I pull it out to reinsert.

Complicating this problem is that I must have a very high cervix - the cup naturally goes very far up, to the point that I have to really bear down to get ahold of it for removal, and sometimes it takes a while to grab enough of the bottom to get it. This also makes it difficult to check for a good seal because it's really hard to reach in there and I feel like I'm going to dislocate a finger or wrist trying to reach so far.

Is it the cup size? Technique? Any ideas?

Thanks!
 
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on March 31st, 2016 02:35 pm (UTC)
If your cervix is very high and you've removed the stem, it's always going to be difficult and annoying to remove that stemless cup. I'd suggest something with a long, soft stem (as everyone here will predict--I will recommend the Si-Bell! It also has a blunter shape that has better capacity for the size, which it sounds like you may need with your post-BC bleeding). If you like the firmness level of the Lunette and don't want to go softer, also try the Fleur. Same shape as the Si-Bell, better capacity, etc. but you may find the stem pokey if you didn't like the Lunette stem. I have an off-center cervix and cannot deal with flat tab stems of any kind unless they're inserted at JUST the right angle so the edge of it is not against the wall on the opposite side. I've been begrudgingly putting up with it on the MamiCup so I can have the capacity (the same fibroid that's probably pushing my cervix off center is making my periods heavier too) but I just grabbed the newish Menocup OB with a cylindrical stem and will give that a spin next time...I've busted the stems on two Si-Bells because I can't bear down effectively...oops!
mommac2b on March 31st, 2016 02:50 pm (UTC)
Thank you - I didn't remove the whole stem, maybe about 1/2-2/3. When I say pokey, I mean it was so irritating that caused my canal to burn when I peed. It HURT and was rubbing me raw.

So the stem had to go. I don't think I want to go softer, either, due to problems with getting the Lunette open.

Thanks for your suggestions. I'll check out some of those cups.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 31st, 2016 05:18 pm (UTC)
Compare the cup you have to other sizes and brands using the size charts at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ or any of the other charts found online. Only you can tell how much wider/narrower, longer/shorter, softer/firmer, pointier/blunter, etc you want your next cup to be and what kind of stem (if any at all) you think would be most comfortable for you.

Since the small Lunette goes up so high, figure out if you'd like another short cup with a long stem or a long cup with a short stem.

There are nearly 30 brands of cups to choose from nowadays plus a wide array of generics (same cup sold under a variety of names) and kncok-offs.

PQN likes and recommends short cups with long stems that are ultra-soft and squishy. Decide for yourself whether you share her preferences or if you think something different would suit you.
seaweed88: pic#126028927seaweed88 on March 31st, 2016 07:53 pm (UTC)
I have a high cervix (cannot reach) and heavy flow and the ruby size medium (it's their biggest size) works well for me. It's on the softer side though...nearly a medium resistence, but not quite. I could never reach the rim to make sure it's open either. But I use the punch down fold and make sure to pop it open once it's inside (since I can still reach the bottom when it's in). I'll link a video that explains how to do this with the punch down fold.

Since my cup goes so high, I do have to bear down a lot in order to reach it and be able to break suction.
https://youtu.be/2l_4n64MIyI

Edited at 2016-03-31 07:54 pm (UTC)
not_a_leaf on March 31st, 2016 09:03 pm (UTC)
I don't know much about stems, but I know the Fleur stem is very irritating. I love the cup, but I wouldn't use it if I needed the stem.

You might like a longer cup so you can cut the stem if it is irritating. Or you could look at a cup with a flexible stem. A lot of people who cut stems can keep them on the Juju and SuperJennie. But the SJ might be too soft for your liking. There are probably other cups with nice stems. Best to look at comparison pics/videos and reviews.