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Hey everyone,

I really need some advice! I've been reading through the posts here and decided to try a menstrual cup. I have heavy periods (super tampons fill up in an hour or two my first few days) and the convenience of not having to run to the bathroom constantly was really appealing to me. Since I am currently on my period I wanted to try one right away (probably my first mistake) and bought a Diva Cup size one since they're available in store.

I am a virgin, so inserting it was kind of painful but I got it in using a C fold. Unfortunately, I quickly realized it was in completely wrong and was seriously stuck. I think I might have gone a little too vertically instead of horizontally when I inserted it, and the stem got caught behind my pubic bone. It also felt like it hadn't opened up all the way and was kind of squished in there so I'm not sure if it was high enough. But at the same time the stem was so high up that if it was any higher I fear I wouldn't be able to reach it at all. I tried for nearly an hour and I could not get a good enough grip on the stem or the bottom of the cup to get it out. I was able to get a finger up along the side and kind of squish it (hoping to break any kind of suction seal) but that didn't help any. I also couldn't get two fingers in at a time which made things more difficult. Eventually, I had to call in the cavalry and my amazing roommate put some gloves on and got it out for me with the help of some tweezers saving me a trip to the doctor. We are now closer than we've ever been before. lol

So now my vagina really hurts, and I am really scared to try again. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! I really don't want to give up on cups because if I got them to work they would make my life so much easier.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 4th, 2016 11:17 pm (UTC)
Well, the good news is that the Diva is one of the longest bodied cups. Imagine the trouble you would have had if you'd gotten a short one. =8oO

Before you try again, enlarge the anti-suction holes around the rim. They help with popping open and also for breaking the seal. The Diva's are notoriously small. Also read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ for insertion advice to make sure that it's fully open before you send it north. ;o)

Go back to your usual methods until you recover and regain your courage to try again. No rush. Cups are patient. This is all part of the learning curve and most of us have a horror story or two until we got the hang of them. Hang in there. We all got through it and so will you.
96skittles on March 5th, 2016 01:35 am (UTC)
Will a needle or something along those lines work for enlarging the holes?

Thanks for that link it's extremely informative! I will definitely be using that as a reference.

I think I'm going to practice some different folds and do a little more research and try again next month. I'm just worried that I"ll have to get it removed by someone else again. I don't want to put my roommate through that twice. Thank you for the kind words!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 5th, 2016 01:39 am (UTC)
That link has a paragraph on holes. A needle would be much too small.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on March 5th, 2016 03:11 pm (UTC)
Sounds like you have a high cervix if the stem was hard to reach. Enlarging the holes will help with suction but not with length. If you otherwise liked the design, try the longer and softer iCare. My Small was 83mm with stem out of the package--I actually had to trim the stem a bit! (I have an off center cervix though, so I have to compromise on stem length for those flat tab stems or they rub against my wall too much) Mine was $5 off AliExpress and they come in a lot of cute colors https://menstrualcups.wordpress.com/2014/07/17/icare/

If you're not a fan of the Diva design I might recommend the Si-Bell--it's also so soft that it doesn't create suction and can simply be pulled out.
citrinesunset: Fountain pencitrinesunset on March 6th, 2016 03:46 am (UTC)
It sounds like you may have a high cervix. No matter how you insert it, the cup will probably ride up. You may feel more comfortable trying a longer cup if you're intimidated by not being able to easily grab the stem.

That said, I think being able to easily break the seal and getting to a point where you're comfortable removing a cup can help a lot. First of all, squatting and bearing down with your pelvic muscles can help push the cup lower, making it easier to grab. And the easier it is to break the seal, the easier it generally is to pull it out. I never bothered enlarging the holes on my Diva, and I never really felt like removal was difficult enough to warrant doing so. But when I got another cup that had larger holes, I was surprised by how fairly easy it was for me to remove it even though the body of the cup was shorter and I could always grasp the bottom of the cup as easily as I could with my Diva.

But from a beginners' perspective, I totally get how intimidating it can be to not feel like you can easily reach your cup, so something like the iCare might be a good option for you.