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I've scoured this website and many others for months on end, since I first heard about cups and reusable pads. You all are awesome, and i've learned so much on here. But I've tried searching for the solution to my struggles and can't seem to find it, so I decided to finally join as a last ditch effort before I quit cups altogether and deal with the the labor intensive and odorous reusable pads.

I started with a rainbow cup, i wanted a soft, inexpensive cup because i wasnt sure if i'd be able to use a cup comfortably (i'm a little sensitive and have never been comfortable w/tampons, they gave me cramps and I hated removal). I've had the rainbow for about 5 months now. I insert without a problem, i fiddle with it quite a bit to make it open (and dont mind that, i've delivered a child before and am comfortable w/my body), The problems:

1. If i insert it according to the pictures everywhere that show it riding lower than a tampon, in the vag. canal it doesn't open no matter how much I fiddle. It sits like a crushed popcan and starts to sag a bit and hurts my tissue. (not the stem since I cut that on the first day, i don't use it and my cup sits slanted inside me)
2. When i push it past the pubic bone, further up i can get it to open more easily, it suctions (I can tell when I remove it). The problem is i have cramps and can feel it all the time, until i finally give up and take it out.

I've tried to find a slightly lower spot for it to sit, but that doesn't work it's either too low and sags or ends up riding too high.

Sooo...I'm confused about where the cup is supposed to sit. I'm considering quitting it, even though i really wanted to be a cup user. I like the reduced environmental impact and that it doesnt take as much work as reusable pads. Anyone have ideas? I'm wondering if a firmer cup sitting lower would be better? I've been thinking of the lunette. Is the cramping just part of the deal? Is my cervix too sensitive to use a cup? I'm at a loss. I feel like i've read everything cup related on the net and cant find answers. I'd really appreciate any input or help. TIA!

In case it's helpful, I went with a size 1, since my flow is not heavy and my muscles are decent (i think), and i'm sensitive. I later tried an icare size 2 and OUCH. If there is hope of me using a cup pain free I'll never go with another china cheapie again...i promise! Right now I just don't know if it's worth it to spend money on the better cups, unless I know there's a way to make it work.
 
Tdoriswebb on January 4th, 2016 12:39 am (UTC)
The short answer here is...the instructions are wrong! I'm guessing the companies think their product will sell better if it's less 'invasive' than a tampon.
For most users, the cup works best when pushed up past the pubic bone - as high as possible. 'Too high' is not usually a problem. Leaks are less likely if your cervix is seated in or just above the cup.
Have you been using your cup throughout periods? I'm kinda wondering whether you feel it all the time because you're not used to it yet.
dandylillies on January 5th, 2016 04:41 am (UTC)
you're probably right, just hearing that cups work differently than tampons made them appealing to me, i hate tampons! I have been using it every period, but just for a day or two each...because i stay feeling it and cramp. I guess it's possible that i'm super aware of it because i'm wondering if i'm using it right. I do cramp though, which makes me wonder. thanks!

Edited at 2016-01-05 04:45 am (UTC)