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I bought an Evacup in the smallest size but I can't use it. It feels like its stretching the inside of my vagina open. Some background on me is that I'm not a virgin but it hurts for about 10 minutes whenever I have sex and I'm not sure how far in my cervix is. I have very small fingers that are maybe 2 inches in length and I put my whole index finger in before I found my cervix. I have no idea why it hurts so bad, I tried every single fold but it hurts no matter what. I'm currently on my period and I can't even use a tampon because I'm so sore from trying the Evacup. Any advice is greatly appreciated!
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on December 27th, 2015 08:31 pm (UTC)
If it hurts, don't use your cup. Try again tomorrow or in a couple of days or next cycle.

It's possible that you have a mild urinary tract infection (UTI.) And/Or it's possible that you are clenching and don't realize it. (It hurts because you're clenching and you're clenching because it hurts.)

You already have a cup so you don't need to measure to your cervix any more. And you don't need to go looking for it unless your cup misses it more often than not. (How will you know if it missed? There won't be anything in the cup.) Chances are that your cup will find its own way to your cervix.

Skim/Read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ for more helpful hints and be sure to follow the link to read the Virgin's Guide to Cups.

Finally, don't get another cup until after you figure out how to work this one. Then you'll have a better idea of what size/features you'll want next. And after you use that one for a while, you'll probably come back to this one and say, "It wasn't so bad after all."
crewshayley96 on December 27th, 2015 10:56 pm (UTC)
Recently got an Evacup and it hurts to put in
Thank you for the advice!!
I don't think I'm clenching but I also don't really know how to use my PC muscles. It wouldn't open when I put it in and I'm still in quite a bit of pain. When I first tried it I couldn't get it in properly and it felt like it was pushing against the inside of my vagina in protest. I was very dry and water didn't appear to help with insertion. The insertion is what hurts and I'm not sure I'm putting it in at the correct angle. I will check out the link. Thanks again!

Edited at 2015-12-27 11:01 pm (UTC)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on December 28th, 2015 12:01 am (UTC)
Re: Recently got an Evacup and it hurts to put in
Lube might help too. Put a dab of water soluble lube (like K-Y or generic) in/on your vaginal opening (not the cup) and try again.
nys311 on December 28th, 2015 01:11 am (UTC)
Re: Recently got an Evacup and it hurts to put in
I second this suggestion. Whenever I'm having discomfort inserting a cup and/or having trouble getting my cup to open, I put a dab of water based lube on my fingers, apply the lube around and just inside my vagina, and then insert the cup. This nearly always does the trick. :)
perideaux on December 28th, 2015 08:36 am (UTC)
If it hurts when you have sex as well, it's possible you have vaginismus. The clenching is involuntary and most people don't notice they're doing it, so they don't realize the pain is from clenching. This is SO COMMON that I think virtually everyone has had episodes of it. I have, and still do, but I have a high pain tolerance so I don't mind it much.

I also get pretty bad pain starting on my third day because I'm sore from needing to use firm cups all the time. I switch to a soft cup and use a pad as backup for when I inevitably crush the cup. The Evacup has a firm rim, right? If the pain doesn't resolve itself within a few cycles you could try a softer cup and see if that helps.

One other possibility is you're not pushing the cup up high enough. The vaginal opening is the "tightest" so having the cup too low down can lead to pain and feeling stretched open. Try pushing it up further and kegel-ing it in place (squeeze like you're holding in pee).

You could also be suffering from vaginal dryness, lube will help with that.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on December 28th, 2015 07:30 pm (UTC)
Absolutely try using lube. Even many very experienced cup users still need it. I find that my cups tend not to pop open properly if I try going without lube. (I like coconut oil--all natural, anti microbial, won't mess with the silicone, and no one's going to wonder why it's sitting on your shower rack because it's also used for hair and skin! Great for households whose parents would think you're a skankbag for even trying to use something other than pads...) Another thing I'd suggest, particularly for your first several cycles, is grabbing some oral anesthetic gel (the same thing they use on teething babies) and rubbing a bit of it just around the entrance before you insert/remove. Make sure it doesn't have any "-icones" (dimethicone, cyclomethicone) in the ingredient list or they will mess with the silicone. I don't think Anbesol or Orajel has those ingredients though. Just that bit of numbing may get you past the initial pain stage. I think I had some stiffened/scarred skin around the vag due to having the yeast infection from hell in college, and that has probably healed a bit since I rarely get those anymore, but that pain could be happening for all kinds of reasons.