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Heidi PomPom
Hi, I've been researching cups and talking to friends about them for months now, and I'm ready to pull the trigger. I can't afford to play Goldilocks, so I'm really trying to pinpoint the "right" cup. I'm 4'11" with a small vagina, and my cervix is quite high. I'm 36, but have no children. My PC muscles are pretty good, but I also strain (I know, terrible habit) on the toilet, sometimes because of a shy bladder, and I get really body-wracking coughs from asthma. I really don't want the cup to pop out if that happens, and I'm not sure what the likelihood of that would be.

I have it narrowed down to the Divacup 1, because I just don't hear bad reviews about it (even thought I wonder if it will be too big for me?), and the MeLuna Sport, because I like the design and stem options (ring stem seems nice), and it might be more solid during the day, or a hard crash snowboarding. The MeLuna Classic is also an option. Seems like the middle of the road choice in medium. Like I said, I'm quite small, with an average flow, and my cervix definitely isn't low. Opinions? Thanks, all! I'm really excited to get with the program.
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Casey the Gnomeandrogenie on December 26th, 2015 12:51 pm (UTC)
I have a Divacup that I bought in my goldilocks search that needs a new home (sanitized by boiling). If you want it, I'll give it to you for the price of shipping if you're in the us :-)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on December 26th, 2015 01:46 pm (UTC)
What criteria have you used to pick your cup? Sales hype? Reviews (how it fits others?) Or actual cup dimensions and how they might fit YOU?

When it comes to the Melunas, Sport and Classic are stiffnesses, not sizes. They offer six sizes, each in 3 stiffnesses.

Start your search over. Skim/Read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ and follow the links, especially to the sizing guidelines and charts. If you don't like that set of charts there are others at the Community FAQ.

Or you could take the other poster up on her offer -- see how a cheap 2nd hand Diva fits you and then decide if you like how it fits or whether you'd like a cup with different dimensions.
Heidi PomPomHeidi PomPom on December 27th, 2015 02:57 am (UTC)
Thanks. I've read all the charts, measurements, photo arrays, video reviews, and individual maker websites. I'm going on sizing and fit. I also have stiffness questions that relate to my specific body. So yes, reviews have been helpful in learning what the characteristics of each cup are, they've been context clues to parsing together a list of choices that might work for me. These are the two brands, three models that I've drilled down as possible winners. At a certain point, it just comes down to choosing one, I suppose. I'd just rather not have to worry about it popping out if I have an asthma attack or toilet strain, and I don't know whether I want a softer or stiffer cup for that particular issue.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on December 27th, 2015 04:47 am (UTC)
Stiffness doesn't have anything to do with popping a cup out. That's a function of cup length versus vaginal length and how strong your PC pelvic floor muscle is. A coughing fit could make you bear down which shortens your vagina. The longer the cup is and the weaker your PC pelvic floor is, the more likely it will feel like it's trying to escape. Since coughing/straining is a concern, you might prefer a short bodied cup with a long stem for an overall long length.

Ya know what? Get both. Get whichever Meluna calls to you more and also take androgenie up on her offer for the Diva.

Edited at 2015-12-27 04:47 am (UTC)
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on December 26th, 2015 04:31 pm (UTC)
Divas aren't actually the highest-cervix cups out there. I usually interpret "quite high" to mean requiring more than 75mm total length...the Diva is only 70. (I need at least 75mm on most days--if my 70mm Rainbow works, it's a low cervix day.) I am also relatively young and childless with a high cervix and good PC muscles. A couple others you could look at are the MamiCup (74-75? mm with stem), the iCare (like a Diva but softer and with a much longer stem, usually available super cheap on Ebay or $5 shipped on AliExpress) and the Si-Bell (74mm with stem, very soft, but blunt base so it has good capacity).
Heidi PomPomHeidi PomPom on December 27th, 2015 02:37 am (UTC)
I've checked sizing, stiffness, and reviews. I am interested to know about the Diva Model 1 lip, and how thick it is, and whether that will be uncomfortable in a small person, and as for the MeLunas (I've decided on a M), my stiffness question pertains to my PC muscles and toilet/coughing strain. I like the added "moldable" (sort of) quality of the TPE in the MeLunas. Sorry if that wasn't specific enough before.
Kathlynekathlyne on December 27th, 2015 05:29 pm (UTC)
How small/tall heavy/thin you are has no relation to what size/firmness cup will be best for you. We have no idea if it will be uncomfortable for you. The only thing you can do is to pick a cup, try it, and go from there. Most people's complaints when it comes to the rim of cups has to do with bladder irritation, not that it won't fit in/is uncomfortable in the vaginal canal.

I'm not sure what works better with the coughing and straining--stiff or super soft. I think if your pelvic floor muscles are strong, the cup will stay in. If you don't want to push it out during a bowel movement, just remove it. Some people can't go with a cup in anyway. It's not like you are wasting anything. You can just dump it and reinsert it when you are done with your BM.
smudgefox on January 4th, 2016 12:41 pm (UTC)
All of these are good points but as someone who also has limited money to play around with I think the best advice is to start with the least expensive reputable brands and de-stashes.

The least expensive reputable brand happens to be Me-Luna, if you order from the EU website. The next least expensive would be the Fleur cup, and then two new U.S. cups the Eva cup, and the Super Jennie (super soft tho). OR anything you can find on destash for less than $21 including shipping.

Good luck!