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18 November 2015 @ 08:50 am
Hello all! I got my first MC yesterday - Diva Cup size 2. I was very excited because I've always had "heavy" periods where I have to change a super tampon every couple of hours for the first two days. I've tried the Insteads Soft Cup and while they worked, I did have some trouble pulling them from behind my pubic bone.

Some background: I'm 39 and a virgin (Yes, my doctor was amazed). I've used super tampons since college with pads as backup. When I'm not on my period I can't feel my cervix with my fingers. Haven't tried feeling for it at other times.

So inserting the Diva Cup was painful and I think maybe I tore a bit? I didn't think I have a hymen any more after years of horseback riding but maybe so. Anyway, there was a sharp sting and bright red blood. Since my period hasn't really gotten going I figured that's what happened. But I got the cup inserted and the stem sat just where it's supposed to with easy reach.

When I went to remove it, I could reach the stem but couldn't get my fingers high enough to pinch the base of the cup. I could get two fingers in, but not three. I was freaking out and in tears thinking I'd have to have a doctor remove it! But after a lot of stretching and tugging it came out with a pop leaving me very sore.

Now, I'm scared to try again for fear the same thing will happen. Do you think enlarging the air holes will help? I can barely see them. But it almost felt like the rim was lodged behind my pelvic bone just like the Soft Cup did (and I think that's where it's supposed to go), making the cup harder to remove.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on November 18th, 2015 02:56 pm (UTC)
If you are scared then no, don't try again. Put your cup away and come back to it when you are mentally/physically ready.

Helpful hints and links at: http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/
Adele DonahueAdele Donahue on November 18th, 2015 03:06 pm (UTC)
I can never reach the base of the cup, I use the stem to guide it down a bit until I can get to the base of the cup then I pinch the base and guide it down some more, and right before it comes out I try to fold it as much as possible so it does not come out of me with the full diameter opened.
choirgirl24 on November 18th, 2015 04:10 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I do want to try again, because it was great not having to worry about constantly running to the bathroom. But, I like said it was just so scary to think I wouldn't be able to remove it - and I'd just read a couple of horror stories. On the other hand, maybe I just need more practice?
Kathlynekathlyne on November 18th, 2015 06:00 pm (UTC)
Enlarging the holes might help--it won't hurt. Yes, you need more practice. Try not to pull straight out--wiggle the stem or base side to side to break the seal, then pull it out.

Menstrual cups are awesome, I just want to let you know that if you have heavy flow you most likely won't get to wear it 12 hours without emptying it. On my heaviest day I have to empty every 1-2 hours for about 8 hours. Still, I prefer cups to disposables.

Take deep breaths. Relax. Make funny faces. This is what we call the learning curve, and everyone has to go through it. You'll get the hang of it.

Good luck!
Adele DonahueAdele Donahue on November 18th, 2015 08:16 pm (UTC)
yes it's kind of disappointing that whole "12 hours" is completely BS on your heavy days :/ I think you have to change it just as much as a tampon on your heavy days if you don't want any leaks
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on November 18th, 2015 11:03 pm (UTC)
If you look at the capacity charts, you'll see that most cups hold (especially "large" sizes) hold about twice what a tampon can. That is reduced by however much your cervix dangles (and everyone's does -- some more than others.) 12 hours is the longest that you should leave a cup unattended. It does not mean a cup can hold 12 hours of heavy flow.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on November 19th, 2015 03:35 pm (UTC)
If you're like me and can't reach/bear down very well, you might want something softer that won't be as suctiony on your cervix. (Everyone here knows how much I hate the Diva lol) If the length was otherwise OK you may like the Rainbow (same total length cup + stem) and some even longer options include the Si-Bell, MamiCup, CupLee (I think) and iCare (same shape as the Diva but a much longer, flat tabby stem and much softer).

On an only somewhat related note, I started taking natural vitamin E supplements for other reasons and found that it reduced my bleeding a bit (I take it every day, not just during my period). But you have to get the D-Alpha tocopherol, not the synthetic DL-alpha that's in most supplements. It might take the edge off. my Rainbow is still not enough to hold me overnight on my heaviest day but at least my Mami (and Si-Bell when I had it) won't overflow anymore.
choirgirl24 on November 19th, 2015 03:42 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the suggestions! I wore the cup last night and again it took a bit of reaching around and contorting to get it out this morning. I really do think the problem is the thick rim is getting hung up on my pelvic bone because even when I can pinch the bottom of the cup I still really have to tug.

Today is a heavy day, so I put it in an hour ago to see how long it lasts before I have to empty it. I might check out the Rainbow as the length of the Diva Cup seems to put the stem where it's supposed to be.