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Hi all! I've been a lurker on the community for a long time and I've learned so much. You all have made the transition from disposables to cups so much easier for me, and I've finally worked up the nerve to post for myself.

I first bought a small diva because I am under 30 and have had no children. It worked for a while, and flipped inside out the length was great, but then I noticed more difficulty in getting it open and leaking when using it, so I searched for a new cup.

After looking at size comparison charts and hundreds of reviews and images, I settled on a large Lena, as it is similar in length, rim width and capacity. It also has a nice rounded bottom that will accomodate my low dangly cervix and still have lots of capacity.

When it arrived, it seemed so much bigger than my diva, even though a side by side comparison showed that the measurements were similar. On both the dry run and the cycle, the cup fit without poking out (I already knew I would have to chop off the whole stem) even though it is *just* at the entrance. But it popped open easily, no leaks, and the capacity was spot on. Goldilocks cup, right?

I just can't help but feel self-concious about successfully using a large cup. I know that the size guidelines given by cup manufacturers aren't hard and fast, just suggestions, but still. I'm 26, never had any kids, and always assumed I was pretty *ahem* tight down there. I almost didn't want it to work because it's the large.

TL; DR switched from small diva to large Lena. Lena might be goldilocks, but feeling self conscious about successfully using a large size cup.

Anyone else experience feelings like this, or am I just too far into my head space?

Also, has anyone ever had leaking that occured only on the toilet paper when wiping? As in, every time I wipe I see blood, a fair amount even when I know my cervix is in the cup, but I rarely end up with a mess in my undies. Maybe a few spots in anything.

Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on November 7th, 2015 01:49 pm (UTC)
"I settled on a large Lena, as it is similar in length" The Lena might be similar in length to the inside out Diva but it is significantly shorter when rightside out.

"I was pretty *ahem* tight down there." TIGHT is a function of your PC muscle, your pelvic floor. Cups sit above that. So no, using a wider "bigger" cup will not "stretch you out." If you have any concerns, get a kegel exerciser to keep that muscle toned.

As for the little bit of blood when you wipe, that's normal. Since it doesn't leak when you're not wiping, you do not have what we call residual slobber.

Skim/Read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ for more details.
slimsmckracken: pic#125554577slimsmckracken on November 7th, 2015 02:16 pm (UTC)
No need to be self conscious!
I'm still fairly new to cups, but what I do know is that 'tight' has more to do with the strength of your pelvic floor muscles than the actual opening of the vagina. The vaginal canal is made to lengthen or shorten depending on things like body position, muscle contraction, sexual arousal, ect and the smooth muscle is designed to open up somewhat like an umbrella (this is called vaginal tenting, it occurs most often during intercourse when the tendons attached to the uterus lift it higher into the abdomen). And when you consider that the cup sits above the pelvic floor, how toned you are there isn't as much of a factor besides support for the cup. So don't worry, a large cup does not necessarily mean loose.

As for your second issue, I'm not really sure. I imagine a more experienced cupper could be of more help there.

Edited at 2015-11-07 02:18 pm (UTC)
Kathlynekathlyne on November 7th, 2015 06:05 pm (UTC)
The cup sizing and guidelines (age) are arbitrary, so being young, thin, or a virgin and wearing a size 2 isn't a big deal. People aren't all made the same. It's just your body, and it's perfectly normal exactly like it is.

I get the blood when wiping after I pee. I think it is because I bear down when I pee--and this causes some spillage from the cup. At least that's my theory. I just deal with it.
nys311 on November 7th, 2015 08:48 pm (UTC)
I'm in the exact same boat as you - I'm 28 years old, I was using a small Diva cup for probably a couple years, and then shortly after the Lena cup came out, I decided to try it in the large size.

I had decided on the large because I thought I'd need it for my flow - however, around the time I received the large, I had been dutifully taking this herbal supplement called Vitex Berry (by Gaia Herbs) every day for the past three or four months. Taking it every day like this over time is what seems to build up its effectiveness, and my period was actually starting to lighten up a bit. So when I first used the large Lena, I wasn't filling it up more than 1/3 of capacity. Plus, I was a bit surprised by all the effort it took to "get it in" correctly - I found I actually needed to use lube, something that I'd never needed with the small Diva cup.

So after a week of using the large Lena cup, I was surprised to learn that I was feeling sore and fairly bruised. I wound up contacting the company to ask if this was a sign that I'd ordered the wrong size, and they sent me the small Lena to try instead - so far, that has been much more comfortable for me, and its capacity has been perfect.

So for you, I'd say as long as the large Lena is definitely working for you, and you're not having any difficulties or pain when inserting or taking it out (and you're aware of the different folding methods and how they can impact this), and if the capacity of the large Lena seems to be what you need - then more power to you for finding what works for you! :)
yayforcupsyayforcups on November 12th, 2015 09:40 pm (UTC)
I have a skinny sporty 20 yr old friend that needs a large fleur otherwise she gets leaks! Also im an active 28 and need a large for abundant flow. Everybodys super different. My sister is plus size and cant even do a small tampon, cant judge a book by its cover :)