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19 September 2015 @ 09:13 am
Hi, I am using a menstrual cup for the first time and have started with an Mcup - it is a fairly low-budget cup from Mexico (as that´s where I am right now). I chose the small size, which still has a diameter of 4.5 cm as I have a fairly light flow, although I am 47 years old and have used (small-size) tampons all my menstruating life (but have never had children). It seems to fit in the sense that it doesn´t get lost at all inside me - there doesn´t seem much space for a larger one! I am finding I am getting quite a bit of leakage. The cup is fully open and I am still exploring the whole trying to check if it is sealed properly against the cervix, but really the problem seems to happen particularly when I urinate. A whole load of blood exits into the toilet and I can´t understand why it happens then, so that after that I worry about leakage - which after some insertions happens and then in others not. There has been just one time so far after one of the insertions that I didn´t have blood urinating, all other times so far I have. I am learning to give a little push with my muscles after inserting which makes a little whoosh sound that seems to indicate the cup is sealing, but it still seems hard to get a consistent seal.

The cup also hurts. It seems almost to be digging into one side of my vagina so that there is a constant pain. It seems to be a fairly rigid cup, although it is my first one so I don´t have others to compare it to.

I am about to buy a second cup. This will be a Chinese Aneer "Femmecup" as I am on a low budget right now, and need to buy two as I am normally based in Cuba where I have no access to buying any more for the next 6 months and am heading back there in a few days. (Also, I have just spent the money on 2 Mcups, which look as if I will end up discarding). I am wondering whether to look for a softer cup (the Aneer cup is supposed to be very soft, but this can also mean that it is hard to get it to open, apparently) and perhaps a larger one (although 4.5 cm seems generally the largest standard diameter, with only 4.6 seeming a larger option - UPDATE: I went and measured my Mcup as the box said 4.0 cm and the website 4.5 cm and when I complained they told me that the label on the box was incorrect, but...it is only 4.0 cm - no wonder!!!) or perhaps a smaller diameter one so that it doesn´t hurt (OK; so now I know it´s not because of the diameter that it hurts!). Right now, I am just concerned that it could be a long search to find a suitable cup, with the discomfort, and the leakage and not knowing if I should have a bigger or smaller one. I feel quite despondant about menstrual cups. I thought it would be such a good solution for all the travelling I do and teh difficulties of Cuba, but I find myself longing to just use my tampons, even if I get organic ones shipped around the world!

Any input greatly appreciated.
 
Kathlynekathlyne on September 20th, 2015 03:49 am (UTC)
Sikhi--sounds like you might be missing your cervix--which was my initial problem with the diva. Think of your cervix as a faucet, and the cup, as, well, a cup. The cup opening up and sitting next to your cervix, rather than under/around it. Like holding a cup next to the faucet, rather than under it. This, in addition to a cervix that points to the side, might be why you are feeling pain on one side.

Menstrual cups should sit around the cervix, not somewhere lower down in the vaginal canal as most drawing show. If you can feel your cervix, then the cup isn't in the right position. After I insert the cup I sweep/stir around it with a finger. If I can feel my cervix I pull the cup down a little and try to shove it toward the side my cervix is pointing. The larger diameter should increase your chances of "catching" your cervix in the cup.

I really wish you the best of luck, and hope that the large fleur works for you.
sikhi on September 20th, 2015 03:57 am (UTC)
Wow, that sounds so incredibly complicated, but the detail is good, and I will give it some experimenting! I have tried to pull it down a bit, reading that sometimes leakage can be due to it being too high, pushing against the cervix, but then it just feels too low and the tab is sticking out a lot (although I know that can be trimmed off) and it didn´t feel right so I have tried to basically push it up as far as it will go, or really where it just naturally seems to want to sit. And it sounds like you are saying that it should be high, against the cervix rather than below it. I was thinking that it is up against it for me, but that it doesn´t cover across its width ands that´s why I can feel some of the cervix on one side. Not really sure!

It seems crazy to buy 5 cups on my first go, but I have been frantically trying to make something work for returning to Cuba after a bag with a big supply of tampons (and other things) was flagged by Mexican Customs!

Thank you for being so helpful and your good wishes! So so appreciated! Maybe the cups will find good homes in Cuba where they have very limited options and little money.

Edited at 2015-09-20 04:01 am (UTC)
Kathlynekathlyne on September 20th, 2015 04:09 am (UTC)
The cup cannot go too high. It will sit where it wants to sit. It will ride as high as it can. I really hope a wider cup solves the problem. Still, there is a learning curve, so don't be discouraged if it doesn't work the first try. You may just have to work out the kinks/get to know your body.
sikhi on May 10th, 2016 04:47 pm (UTC)
still leakage
Hi, It's taken me a while to get back here as I was in Cuba, but...well...I got the large Fleur and at first it seemed good, definitely more comfortable, although very big to get in and out! But...it leaks just as badly as the smaller Mexican one. And it seems to leak straight away really, although not absolutely every time. It is seeming not to seal as it makes air sounds on most movements just after I have put it in, no matter what I try. In terms of trying to position it properly around my cervix, like a cup and faucet, although i don't entirely get that, really, I feel I can't do much as I can't reach up that far. I can't reach my finger up far enough to feel my cervix or the top of the cup when it is up as far as it can go, it's quite a stretch just to reach the bottom of the cup, quite long as it is. So perhaps I have a high cervix. I feel quite defeated on this. I so want a menstrual cup to work for me. I like so much about them, but I just can't continue with all this leaking. Any suggestions?