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I found out that my Lunette was actually getting crushed, which is why it kept leaking. I bought a Sibell cup from mc_sales and it worked perfectly for the first two (heaviest) days of my cycle. I love love love the Sibell. I didn't even have problems with residual slobber. However my vagina swells and tightens after the heaviest days and now the Sibell is getting slightly crushed, causing about half a pantyliner-full of leaks. I tried the Lunette again but it leaked so much I needed to use a pad. The Sibell's leaks are definitely manageable but I'd like something firmer that I can use on my lighter days without the cup getting crushed.

My cervix is tilted to the left, is situated on the top (near bladder) wall of my vagina and points straight down. Sometimes it positions itself at the very end of my vaginal canal and points outwards, allowing me to easily position a cup around it and causing zero leaks. I can't get my cervix in the Lunette no matter what I do because of the shape and size, but I can get it in the Sibell however in order to do so I have to position the Sibell in a way that easily allows it to get crushed.

I'm thinking about getting a Lilycup because it's firmer and also because of the slanted rim, which should allow me to fit my cervix inside easily no matter how it decides to angle itself.

Are there any other cups that I should look at to help me with this problem?
bklynmom on September 12th, 2015 02:30 am (UTC)
Well, sibell is a bell shaped cup and I think lunette is more v shaped? If you like the sibell, why not look for a firmer bell shaped cup? Fleur is considered medium (I think). The size charts may point you better. But, lily is pretty much the opposite- long and relatively pointy. If you have a feeling it will work, go ahead though. Sometimes intuition is right on the mark!
perideaux on September 12th, 2015 02:40 am (UTC)
More often than not my cervix is high so I don't mind the length of the Lilycup. I was thinking of a Fleurcup, but I forgot to mention that I chafe easily and the Lunette's grip rings would chafe me, so the Fleurcup's grip rings are a little frightening. It's a cheap cup though and I've heard great things about it so I'll happily order one soon.
m03m on September 12th, 2015 06:10 pm (UTC)
You can trim the grip rings on the Fleurcup down or off with nail clippers, and even smoothen them out completely with fine sandpaper. I've done it and it works great. My cup is as comfortable as a pair of old sneakers, but not as leaky!
councilwomanope on September 12th, 2015 03:06 am (UTC)
What about the LENA cup? Same shape as your Si-Bell (like the already mentioned Fleurcup), but firmer. Although the LENA also has prominent grip rings. No personal experience with it though.
perideaux on September 12th, 2015 04:08 am (UTC)
I actually really love the look of the Lena. The only reason I haven't bought one yet is because I heard the rim is soft and the base is firm. My Lunette gets crushed because the rim is the same firmness as the body so when the body collapses, there goes the rim. The Sibell's rim is just a smidge firmer than the body so it stays open longer even if the body gets a little crushed. If the Lena's firmer base can keep the rim open somehow, it could work. I'd still love to try one despite the prominent grips.
nys311 on September 12th, 2015 05:43 am (UTC)
I recently bought and started using the LENA cup - it's true that the base is firmer than the rim, although I don't know that I would qualify the rim as "soft." It's definitely way better than the other cup I've used (Diva Cup) at opening up and creating a good seal - especially if you use just a little bit of lube. It's hard to describe, but the firm base definitely helps it unfold and pop open once it's inserted. I also think it's firm enough that it can withstand stronger pelvic muscles without getting crushed as easily - assuming it was inserted correctly to begin with.

(side note: the customer service of the LENA cup company is AMAZING - they are totally willing to help you figure out what might be causing various issues and how you can get your cup working perfectly for you)

Also - I bet that if you really needed to get rid of those prominent grip rings on the LENA cup, you could use fingernail clippers to trim them off and leave a smooth edge behind. :)

(went back and edited this for better grammar, almost immediately after posting - no significant change in content)

Edited at 2015-09-12 05:47 am (UTC)
perideaux on September 12th, 2015 03:53 pm (UTC)
Sounds good! I'll order one before my next cycle. I'm nervous to trim off the grip rings but it seems people have done that before with no problems. Although I'm still a little worried about my cervix position because it doesn't allow cups to naturally seal around it, so I have to do it manually and I'm not sure if a firm cup would make that difficult.

Not sure if it matters, but my pelvic floor muscles aren't exceptionally strong and I think they may actually be weaker than average because I'm sick a lot and very inactive. My gynecologist said my vagina itself is much smaller than average. The Lunette gets crushed easily because the body is so wide that I can barely check the rim when it's inside me so maybe a small classic MeLuna could help? Or maybe any other firm cups that are smaller/narrower than the Lunette?
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on September 12th, 2015 11:28 pm (UTC)
I actually have a large Lena that I need to rehome because it's too short and firm for me, but if your cervix is a little lower than mine, and if my current inquiry doesn't pan out, I'll have it still available. Length may also be an issue for you though, depending on where the Si-Bell stem sits. I actually bought the Lena to replace a Si-Bell when I busted the stem on mine. If you need more stem, the Italian MamiCup may be an option. I know the stem looks scary but it hasn't bothered me yet; it has great capacity; and it's a bit firmer than the Si-Bell.
councilwomanope on September 12th, 2015 05:29 am (UTC)
Not sure if it's the LadyCup with a firmer rim compared to its body, but that's also V-shaped like Lunette.
m03m on September 12th, 2015 06:12 pm (UTC)
Yes, the Ladycup has a soft body and a very springy, firm rim. Also no grips to speak of.
perideaux on September 13th, 2015 03:52 am (UTC)
That actually sounds perfect! I had been interested in getting a Ladycup but it looked very firm in video comparisons. Would you say the body is a soft resistance or is it more of a medium resistance? I also can't remove cups without folding it (into a C-fold, basically) inside me and wiggling it out because it's too big otherwise. Would the rim be too firm to do this?
councilwomanope on September 13th, 2015 05:48 am (UTC)
I'm interested in this cup too, but fear it might be too slippery for removal. I need grips like the Lunette's. Since you mentioned the MeLuna Classic in the comment above, I personally find MeLuna's grip rings to be too prominent (in case you're sensitive).

Here is Red Herring's LadyCup review . She described the cup's body as soft. Maybe her videos comparing softness could also be helpful for you: Her video comparing cups softness/firmness; and this is her video comparing just the cups' rims.
perideaux on September 27th, 2015 06:05 am (UTC)
These videos helped me a lot in making my decision to get one, her description of the cup's resistance is pretty much spot on, I'm really pleased.

In case you're still considering getting a Ladycup, mine just arrived and it is VERY slippery. Much more difficult to remove than the Si-bell, which has no grip rings. I have a high cervix and (although I have only used it on a dry run) I needed to dig my nails into the stem to bring it down, and then I had to dig my nails in the base of the cup to pull it down further. This cup creates a pretty strong seal + suction too, so that could contribute to how difficult it is to remove. I'm excited to try this cup because I really do like it, but yes, it is in fact very slippery.
councilwomanope on October 19th, 2015 01:50 pm (UTC)
Slippery during removal is a no go for me. Thanks for the update. :) How's your LadyCup been for you? I have recently learned that EvaCup also has a firm rim and soft body.
eyaf_lemeyaf_lem on September 12th, 2015 09:02 am (UTC)
If grip rings are an issue you could always flip the cup inside out so the cup is perfectly smooth (only if you don't need the stem)
sjennifersjennifer on September 14th, 2015 03:50 am (UTC)
I have tried many cups. To me, Lady cup is very firm compare to others. Check out Lady cup which may work well in your situation.