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04 September 2015 @ 03:05 pm
So, first of all, hey girls!I am 14 years old and a virgin. This spring I bought two medium classic MeLunas because I have a high cervix. I tried to get one in on a dry run, and on the three periods I've had untul now. I did it in the bathtub (the bathroom and the toilet are separated in my house) and no luck. The cup glides in until grip rings with a punch down fold. I tried every single fold on the internet but I could only get it in with the punchdown. It doesn't glide in any further than the grip rings and it hurts to push any further. I tried different positions and made sure my cervix was still high. I think the cup is too wide at the base with the punchdownd fold. I was ralaxed. I am in a difficult situation now, we move often and I can't buy another cup anymore. I can't get a lubricant either, but I heard that it is not necessary. I need help on how to get it in, because young girls use lunette and melunas fine, and I'm stuck here. :(
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on September 4th, 2015 01:08 pm (UTC)
Skim/Read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ and follow the link to the Virgins Guide to Cups.
melodycarolanne on September 4th, 2015 01:18 pm (UTC)
Thanks, I'll try again next period
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on September 4th, 2015 03:36 pm (UTC)
Not sure about most users but most of the time I NEED lube...particularly if the silicone is "glossy" like on certain brands of cups. It just sticks to my skin, something about the way my skin is. I use coconut oil--it's all natural, won't raise eyebrows in your family (you can use it on your hair, on your legs to shave with, as a general moisturizer, etc), and is antimicrobial as well. And you can get it at any grocery store :)

I'm not sure what's happening with the Melunas not going in all the way but that would suggest to me that your cervix is actually pretty low, unless you are not inserting it "straight" towards your cervix and you're bumping up against one side of the vaginal wall instead. Normally Melunas are kind of bad news for high cervix people unless you get the XL. I made that mistake and tried 2 Melunas, then it took 3 hours to get one of them out. Basically I can and should be wearing some of the longest cups currently on the market lol.
melodycarolanne on September 4th, 2015 05:24 pm (UTC)
I wiggled it a few times to make sure it was going at the right angle. I think it has something to do with being too wide at the bottom and i don't know how to solve the problem since i cannot even get the rim in with other folds. Yes, my cervix is high, i can insert my middle finger fully every time before touching it. No one seems to know waht's really going on so i wrote on here
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on September 4th, 2015 10:46 pm (UTC)
Ah I see--hopefully someone else who's had this issue can chime in then! Because of your cervix height you may need something longer than a Meluna, though, once you conquer the issue of just fitting it inside you. Literally took me 3 hours to remove the medium classic and that involved some...um...adult beverages. lol.
tkamockingbird on September 5th, 2015 02:57 am (UTC)
I agree with porque. I am 30 and sexually active and I need lube 90 percent of the time. Especially with the meluna because of the tpe. If I don't use lube, I get to a point where I cannot go any further because it hurts. I am very sensitive so I use natural aloe Vera. If you use one lying around in your house be sure to check the ingredients before you use it as lube. But like coconut oil, no one will know what your using it for :)

Also, for the meluna, try the half diamond fold. Compared to the punch down fold, It is smaller at the base of the cup when folded.

Good luck!
melodycarolanne on September 5th, 2015 09:00 am (UTC)
Thanks for the reply! The half diamond fold is too wide in the middle and i can't get it in
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on September 5th, 2015 02:35 pm (UTC)
On another note--have you looked at this guide to folds? The site creator is 14 and has a lot of great ideas for folds. She uses a Lunette which I think is similar in firmness. https://menstrualcupforteens.wordpress.com/folds-and-insertion/

My favorite for my super soft cups is the labia fold. Punchdown was tricky for me because it's hard to feel if the top/rim area of the cup actually popped open or not. Half the time it didn't and then it's like leakleakleakleak
tkamockingbird on September 5th, 2015 09:08 am (UTC)
Oh darn! That is a good point and I didn't think about that. If you can try any sort of lubricant one day, keep us updated on how it goes!
bklynmom on September 6th, 2015 07:00 pm (UTC)
I'm going to vote for changing the angle when you try to insert. I bet you're running into your pubic bone or the back wall of your vagina. Try putting your finger in just before the cup and then try to duplicate the same angle. Or just try pointing the cup more to your tailbone or less so or to one side or the other. I don't think the rim would make it in but the base would be too large, it's more flexible in all the cups I've tried.
trejoytrejoy on September 10th, 2015 06:54 am (UTC)
That's a great suggestion! I also think it might help to turn the fold the opposite direction, facing the folded side down instead of up or left instead of right, etc.

One of the things I do is use my non-dominant hand. I can't tell you why it makes such a difference inserting cups, I just have far less discomfort that way!