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22 July 2015 @ 05:19 pm
First time poster...I read a lot of posts, but still wanted to ask my questions directly.
And I have already read the FAQ at


34-year old first time user after 22 years of first pads, then tampon use.
Bought Diva cup size 1, since I figured my age was less important than my size. I bought it close to the end of my period, so fairly low flow at the moment.
Although average height, it's all in my legs and I am super compact from my shoulders to my hips and have tiny hands....my longest finger is 2.75 inches/7cm, my thumb is only 2 inches/5cm, so manipulating ANYTHING inside is quite difficult.
I *think* my cervix is about 3 inches in at the moment (end of period), pretty much as far as I can push my finger in. Which I read is low....don't know how people with a high cervix can possibly reach, but then again not everyone has such short fingers.

I'm not looking for a different model, as the comfort when wearing seems good. Rather looking for solutions to my short little fingers!

Although it was somewhat painful getting it in initially, I soon managed to figure out how to do it with minimal to no pain.
The first couple removals I *thought* I had broken the seal, since I followed the instructions to a T, but it caused horrible pain for a couple days, so I'm guessing I didn't. I gave my body a bit to recover, but am trying again. The problem is I can't get my finger to the top of the rim when inside to force the seal to break/make sure it really is broken.
This morning, I did get the seal to break, heard the noise, but it was SOOOO hard to manage. Manipulating it is nearly impossible and simply squishing the base DOES NOT break the seal. I'm really reluctant to actually take it out until I hear that noise now, since I know the pain when the seal is not broken, pre-removal.

I read that enlarging the holes in a diva cup helps create the seal AND in other places that it helps with removal/breaking the seal. Am I misunderstanding, or is this the case, and should help make breaking the seal easier for me?
The cups are expensive, so I don't want to make an adjustment that could potentionally worsen my issue. For example, making the seal even tighter.

Anyone with short fingers have any tricks to make sure the seal really is broken?
I have no issues getting the tip/base in a good position for removal by bearing down. It's more that pinching the base isn't enough to break the seal and I can't get my finger easily far enough up to force the seal to break. Or at least is takes A LOT of tusseling with the cup to get the noise.

Finger advice?
Hole advice?

Thanks in advance!
tkamockingbird on August 15th, 2015 05:02 pm (UTC)
As for enlarging the holes, it helped for me. I don't have short fingers, but the small holes would cause the cup to move high up and harder to remove. Enlarging the holes helped with removal and I found the cup to be more comfortable.
Shakis Drummond on September 9th, 2015 02:34 am (UTC)
What did you use to enlarge the holes?
tkamockingbird on September 9th, 2015 05:04 am (UTC)
I used a leather hole puncher I got as a gag gift during Christmas. It's called the roto punch.
Shakis Drummond on September 10th, 2015 01:31 am (UTC)
Okay thanks! :-)
councilwomanope on August 16th, 2015 09:24 am (UTC)
Are we twins? We have the same thumb and longest finger measurements!

I can't reach the cup's rim either, so I just poke the cup's wall as high as I can reach, just to try and release the seal. It doesn't always work with my Lunette or MeLuna cups. Grabbing the base isn't enough to break the seal either, so it's like a tug-of-war sometimes while I wiggle it from side to side until I hear that hissing sound of release.

I wonder if it would be easier if I switch to a softer cup like Si-Bell. Though I'm afraid of cups without grip rings over the base. For Si-Bell users, is it super easy to remove?

Edited at 2015-08-16 11:35 am (UTC)
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on August 16th, 2015 10:53 am (UTC)
even if the cup is perfectly comfortable, it might be easier to use a cup with a longer stem :)
if you can wear the diva and you can barely reach your cervix, i would say it's high :) bear in mind that a cup generally sits around the cervix.

you might actually be able to use a luv ur body, for example. it's the longest cup out there.

as for the size, the diva ones differ only in width. but generally you don't really choose a brand and then a size, since there are no standard sizes. being "small" doesn't really mean much here. it's very likely that you can wear a wider cup as well, the difference is small. i'm a virgin and i use wide cups just fine :) i'm not the only one either.