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Hi everyone! I've been searching through the posts on this site, trying to decide which cup I should buy, but I'm still unsure, and I could use some help!

A bit about me:
I'm almost 20, a virgin, and have moderate to light flow (just depends on the day). I have a pretty high cervix, though I've never tried finding it during my period (and from what I've read here, it's lower on your period). I also have a very small vaginal opening, which is probably the reason I haven't yet bought a cup -- most of them seem so big, even when they're folded! For me, inserting two fingers at once is a challenge -- and I have small fingers!

I'm completely a pad user, and I hate how messy, bulky, and smelly they are. It's hard to sleep at night when wearing them, because if I lay on my side, I'm likely to leak and stain my underwear (even with the ones that have wings). I've tried tampons, and while they aren't too hard to insert, they are extremely painful to remove if they aren't completely soaked.

I'm so sick of pads and really want to try a cup. I understand there is a learning curve to using them, but I'm willing to try because I want more freedom. However, there are so many out there, and it's hard to figure out which one would work best for me!

Here are some cups I've been thinking about buying:
* femmycycle -- love the no-leak rim and how it doesn't have to open all the way once inserted, though the width is a bit intimidating
* lilycup -- also like their rim and how smooth it looks; plus, I've seen photos of it folded to the width of a tampon
* ladycup -- for the small size

Do you have experience with any of these cups? Would you recommend one I haven't listed here?
 
tkamockingbird on August 8th, 2015 09:16 pm (UTC)
I would not reccomend the femmycycle for your first cup. The size is intimidating and you might find it uncomfortable since you said you cannot insert two fingers into your vagina. Maybe try out a different cup and when you feel more comfortable you can then try out the FC. How about trying a really small cup? Small Meluna (if your cervix is low enough during your period)? Small claricup? You might find these cups easier to insert and not intimidating. I started with the small Meluna and then eventually felt comfortable trying larger capacity cups. Good luck!
thisnameisok on August 8th, 2015 11:22 pm (UTC)
Thanks for your advice! After looking at Meluna's website, I'm definitely considering my first cup being a Meluna. Their small one appears to be one of the smallest ones I've looked at. Also, I like how they have different handle options, but I'm not sure which one would be right for me. Which handle type -- ball, ring, or stem -- would you recommend for a beginner like me?
tkamockingbird on August 8th, 2015 11:31 pm (UTC)
If your cervix is high, the stem is the longest. If it's low enough, I prefer the ring stem because It's easy to grab! Also, you can tie a string (floss, yarn, etc.) around the ring stem for the first couple of days so you don't have to stress about the idea of having trouble removing the cup. As for firmness, maybe try the sport? I say sport because it will pop open much easier than the classic. Many people need to help the classic to open up once its inserted. As for the claricup, it's diameter is only .5 bigger than the Meluna and it looks like it has a long stem. But I don't know much about the claricup cup.
thisnameisok on August 8th, 2015 11:49 pm (UTC)
I guess I'll go with the ring then! Since I don't know my cervix height during my period, I can adjust accordingly by doing as you said and tie a string around it. For firmness, I was thinking classic, because I was afraid the sport one might be too firm and I'd feel pressure inside of me. But I also want a cup that pops open easily, so maybe sport is the way to go.

I looked at claricups and the company appears to be French, so it seems they'll be a bit more expensive (and I couldn't find them on Amazon, which is where I plan to order).
tkamockingbird on August 9th, 2015 12:42 am (UTC)
Yeah, Meluna is definetly more convenient when it comes to purchasing in the states.

Yeah, the firmness is a tricky one. Maybe someone else on here can reccomend a firmness to you. Go with your gut if it's leaning towards one or the other because only you will know what's best for you.

If you do go for a classic, I am selling one on mc_sales for 20 and free shipping. Never used and it's a small classic with a ring stem. Just another option for you!
thisnameisok on August 9th, 2015 12:58 am (UTC)
I'll definitely keep your offer in mind! However, I want to wait to hear from others before deciding on a classic.

Thanks for all your help!
tkamockingbird on August 9th, 2015 01:03 am (UTC)
No problemo! Good luck! :)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on August 9th, 2015 01:02 pm (UTC)
If you haven't already, do some self-exploration and read the sizing guidelines at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ If you don't like the size chart there, then there are several others at the Community FAQ.

As for the cups you've chosen:
= The Femmycycle's body is much wider than its rim and it does not have anti-suction holes.
= The Lily Cup has a VERY long stem. I don't know if it's trimmable and it is stiff and straight. Will it fit your body? Only you can figure that out.
= I assume you are interested in the small Lady Cup. It is one of many cups with very similar dimensions and it happens to have the lowest capacity of all of them. It also has a reputation for being quite slick and therefore hard to get a grip to remove.

Also read the Answers to Common Questions linked at the top of that page and follow the link to the Virgins Guide to Cups (if you haven't read it already.)
thisnameisok on August 10th, 2015 02:42 pm (UTC)
Thank you for your comment! I checked out the size chart, and it was very helpful! I had already looked at a few size charts, but they were all just pictures, so it was hard to see the small difference in sizes between the various cups. But this chart was much more helpful.

Also, thanks for your comments on the three cups I was originally considering! It's helpful to hear what others have to say about them vs. visiting the company websites (where they all say their cup is the best).

I bookmarked the Virgins Guide to Cups, as there are tons of little tricks in that post. :) Thank you!
unicornaunicorn on August 9th, 2015 07:09 pm (UTC)
As someone with a really high cervix, I love the Lily Cup. It's longer than most cups, but that works for me because otherwise I have trouble grabbing it. but I think the stem could be trimmed if you needed to, it's hollow and there's quite a bit of solid silicone between the stem and the reservoir of the cup (so you wouldn't cut into the cup and ruin it). I have a sensitive urethra so it's also nice that it doesn't have a pronounced rim and the sides are so smooth - that might also help with your worry about having a small opening.
thisnameisok on August 10th, 2015 02:48 pm (UTC)
Thanks for your comment on the Lily Cup! The smoothness of the cup is what drew me to it, as I was afraid ridges or bumps might be uncomfortable. While I have a high cervix, my only concern with a Lily Cup is that it might be too long, because I don't know my cervix height on my period. (I didn't realize how long the cup was until I looked at the size chart!) Good to know the stem can be trimmed if needed, at least!
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on August 10th, 2015 02:21 pm (UTC)
Do not I repeat DO NOT get a Meluna if you have a high cervix. I made that mistake and will never get those 3 hours back that I spent trying to remove my Meluna Classic...

I'd actually add the Si-Bell to your list as well. The stem makes it nearly as long as the Lily, and if you use the labia fold, it's no bigger than a super tampon. I found that the Lily was just wide enough to have a death grip on my cervix, which caused mild cramping whenever my cervix dangled. I did like the FC when I had it but it was always fiddly to insert outside the shower (and that "sticky" glossy silicone requires me to use lube when inserting, whch is not really convenient outside of home).
thisnameisok on August 10th, 2015 02:54 pm (UTC)
I guess I should really check my cervix during my period before I buy! I was hoping I wouldn't have to do that, since I'm irregular and don't know when my next cycle will be.

I'll check out the Si-Bell in the mean time. It sounds like another good cup if it turns out I have a high cervix on my period. Thanks! :)
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on August 11th, 2015 01:57 pm (UTC)
And the nice thing about the Si-Bell is that the cup itself is shortish while the stem is very long, so if your cervix is not as high as you thought, you can trim the stem easily wherever you need it to be. Not so much the case with the Lily. (The stem is trimmable though and totally solid. I took a notch off my stem when I had my Lily)

My only issue with it is that due to my habit of digging my nails in to pull it out (I can't seem to lower my cups by bearing down because my vag is very bendy), I broke the stems on two of them, rendering them unusable for me (I need ALL the length...) but on one of those occasions it may have had to do with petrolatum based ointment I'd applied earlier.