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OMG y'all...My head is spinning. I've been looking at the tags on here for almost 2 hours, and have been doing research on cups, and I still can't make heads or tails of it.

I have a Diva Cup. I've been using it since about February. In between, it's ok, but mostly, it's not. It won't pop open, or it starts to open as I'm putting it in and then it leaks. I can feel it moving around inside, and when I wipe after peeing, I can feel it popping in a weird way. It's just not working for me, but I'm not ready to give up cups. I just need to find the one that works. However, I don't have the money to keep buying cups over and over. So I'm hoping I can find something without having to buy another one in a month.

About me:

-I've discovered I have a very low cervix when on my period - I think this is why the Diva Cup isn't working right. I don't think it's sitting around my cervix the way it's supposed to. I even turned it inside out.
- I'm 30, no vaginal births, not a virgin BUT I haven't had sex in like 2 years.
- I lost a lot of weight between February and now and have to wonder if that's making a difference
- I have a medium-heavy flow, sometimes large clots
- I'm active. I walk a LOT for work, and I horseback ride and do yoga weekly. I think my pelvic floor muscles are pretty strong.

I'm considering a Meluna. I love that they have so many size options, and I have to say I love that they're German (because I am too!). But which one? I've read the small or the shorty can be too small if you have such a low cervix as mine. But I don't want something too long either. Or too soft - I want it to open easily inside.

I'm sure this has been asked 8 million times but I couldn't find any posts that lay out the physical characteristics like that, or if they have, they don't match my situation, so it'd be awesome to hear back.

Thanks so so much! I want this To work!
Karomomentaufnahme on July 31st, 2015 07:16 am (UTC)
Wenn dein Beckenboden sehr gut ist, kann es sein, dass du mit der Meluna Probleme hast, weil das TPE doch recht schwer ploppt. Ich hab das nämlich durch und mich dann bewusst für eine härtere Tasse entschieden. In meinem Fall ist das ne Lunette und ne yuuki.
Es kann natürlich sein dass du damit gut klar kommst, aber ich hab schon mehrfach gelesen dass ein starker Beckenboden die Meluna gern einfach flachdrückt und du dann wieder das Auslaufproblem hast :)
Free the West Memphis 3!die_fledermaus on July 31st, 2015 04:50 pm (UTC)
Ich hab mir die Lunette online angeguckt...ist sie nicht ein bisschen lang? Die sieht so lang aus, wie die Diva Cup...aber ich hab mir eigentlich die Maße nicht angeguckt. Und ich müsste wahrscheinlich den Stiel abschneiden...
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on August 1st, 2015 03:39 am (UTC)
ummm...Guten Tag! XD

*slinks out sheepishly*

I told myself I was going to learn German through Duolingo during my cruise ship days and then realized that was going to require consistent wifi, so that didn't happen...

Edited at 2015-08-01 03:40 am (UTC)
Serpent: suomiserpent_849 on November 28th, 2015 11:22 pm (UTC)
umm it's been a while since your post but i just saw this :D
duolingo seems like a great resource for beginners but it's not enough to learn a language. this wikia has great advice :) http://learnanylanguage.wikia.com/wiki/Category:Techniques try lyricstraining and memrise as well :)
tkamockingbird on July 31st, 2015 10:01 am (UTC)
If you can feel the cup moving around and you are sure the cup is open, maybe the cup is too small (if you have size A). Or, the cup might simply not be opened. What folds are you trying? With the diva cup, I find the triangle fold to be the easiest. Once it's inside, I lift the folded part up towards my cervix and it pops opens! I have tried the punch down fold with the diva cup and it does not open most of the time.

Or...maybe a stronger cup is what you need if your pelvic floor muscles are strong like you say. A stronger cup will also pop open easier for you! If you are looking at Meluna maybe you can try their sport cups!

Good luck!
Sal McGhostface Killahbeuk on July 31st, 2015 03:14 pm (UTC)
Ha, I exclusively use punch down with my diva.
tkamockingbird on August 1st, 2015 12:58 am (UTC)
Right on! It definetly works for many people .
Free the West Memphis 3!die_fledermaus on July 31st, 2015 04:57 pm (UTC)
I have a feeling it's not too small, but too big. (Or rather, it's too long. The width seems to be ok.) My cervix is really dangly, and it really seems like when I put the Diva cup in, it doesn't open around my cervix. In fact once I stuck my finger up there after putting the cup in and I could feel my cervix was in a weird position and the cup was not around it. So I'm thinking about getting a smaller cup, but am worried that because my cervix hangs down so low, the cup will fill a lot faster...

This is such a puzzle to me. So many factors and I don't know how to find the right cup that works for all of them.

Edited at 2015-07-31 05:00 pm (UTC)
Kathlynekathlyne on August 2nd, 2015 01:09 am (UTC)
Aha! I was thinking this might be the problem. Sounds like the Diva is opening up NEXT TO, rather than AROUND your cervix. Same thing happened to me when I started using cups--I also have a very dangly cervix. It is like holding a glass next to, rather than under a faucet. And you can try aiming the cup toward your cervix....it might not sit right in the center--mine points off to the left. I try to let the cup open up lower down, then point it left as I shove it up/inward. Then I double check, sweeping around to make sure I can't feel my cervix.

Even after enlarging the holes the Diva never really worked for me. A more rounder-bodied cup like the Fleur will give you more capacity. I really like the large fleur.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on July 31st, 2015 02:58 pm (UTC)
I wonder if the weightloss had something to do with it (congratulations! Assuming it's not the side effect of some health problem or something!)...loss of body fat could open up more space between your organs so you may need a wider cup. Or your newly strengthened PC muscles could be messing with it too. You may also like a blunt base rather than V-shaped cup like the Diva. The Fleur, Lena, and Si-Bell are some of the blunt base cups out there (all are shorter than the Diva in the cup body itself and stems can be trimmed to whatever)...I LOVE Si-Bell because I need the softness but after busting 2 Si-Bell stems I am going to try the Lena this month.
Free the West Memphis 3!die_fledermaus on July 31st, 2015 04:59 pm (UTC)
Thanks! Nope, not a health problem ;)

I was actually thinking about trying the Femmycup...But it looks so freaking wide. I have read some reviews and looked at videos and it seems that it is actually really flexible, so maybe the wideness isn't a big deal. But I think I have a short vagina, and because I haven't had sex in such a long time, I'm afraid it will be too wide. But, I have the low cervix, so I'm thinking a shorter cup would be better than the Diva Cup.

This is so confusing.
silverfishee on August 1st, 2015 08:56 am (UTC)
Made an account just so I could reply to this as I going through the same headache a month ago.

Like you, I have a fairly low cervix during my period, hitting 30 in a year and my flow is on the heavy side. I only walk and do yoga so your floor muscles are def stronger than mine. I am sexually active but things are still really tight for me down there and I don't have kids.

I initially started off with a soft Meluna Cup in small 3 cycles ago. The fit was fine and really comfortable but I had 2 main problems with it:
- I had to keep emptying it every hour. Pre-cup days, I was changing super-sized tampons every 30-40 mins.
- It was waaaay too soft. I had problems popping it open and kept sneezing it out (I didn't know it was possible to sneeze out a menstrual cup until last month, what a disaster)

In the end, I got a Fleur Cup in Large and am using it right now as I type. If you are willing to wait a few days, I can post an update on how the Fleur went for me. So far, it seems quite comfortable (can't feel anything but the stem is annoying me) and really easy to open. Can't say anything about capacity yet as my period only just started a few hours ago.

Otherwise, I think a small-sized sport or regular Meluna would probably work for you. I have never used a regular Meluna though so maybe err on the safe side and get a sport instead.

Btw,I got a regular Fleur as well (trying not open it as I want to give it to my sister) and it seems to be only slightly larger than the small Meluna. If you don't have an industrial dump flow but think the Meluna isn't enough, the regular Fleur might be worth looking at.
amethyst_magpie on August 2nd, 2015 11:10 am (UTC)
Du könntest dir überlegen, ob eine MeLuna shorty in Frage kommt, weil sie extra kurz sind. Es passt nur eben sehr wenig rein, auch bei den breitesten.
Und es gibt die Härte Sport, und du bist ja sehr aktiv; das müsste gut aufploppen und in Form bleiben.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on November 28th, 2015 11:27 pm (UTC)
and @the OP, just saying that tightness is a myth and vaginas don't get smaller if you don't have sex http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/a_few_choice_words_about_tightness it's simply easier for a non-virgin to insert a wider cup, and same goes for a virgin whose hymen is not in the way and especially anyone who's already comfortable with insertion, whether it's fingers, tampons, sex toys or whatever.