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iudmama
24 June 2015 @ 01:02 pm
Greetings!

It's been a while since I've come around...
My 11 year old daughter started menstruating this spring and has so far chosen to use pads. We've talked about cups (she knows that's what I use), but she hasn't been super interested - until now...
With it being summer, she may have to back out of swimming with friends later this week. We talked about tampons since they're easy access and she'd have time to practice between now and Friday, but she's even more nervous about that than the idea of a cup.

She knows I've used cups for years - I currently use a Skooncup and have used a LadyCup in the past.

I was thinking about getting her a Skooncup, too, but then I saw the EvaCup and a few others on Amazon and realized there are really so many options these days... I've gotten indecisive!

I am contemplating getting her both a small Skoon and a small Eva so that she can play around and figure out what works best for her...
Any special suggestions (cup and usage) for a young, first time cup user?

Thanks!
 
Sayga: cat-artemis runningsayga on June 24th, 2015 08:06 pm (UTC)
I don't have any experience with teens (or preteens!) and cups, but my daughter is almost 11 and so I expect her to get her period in the next 2 years. The last time I ordered a MeLuna, I also bought an extra small cup as well. It's just sitting in the back of my drawer for the eventuality of her wanting it in the next 5 years or so. It's really tiny. I don't know that I could've gotten a cup inside me at 11 or 12, though. I'll be interested to hear how it goes because I'll be in your shoes really soon.
iudmamaiudmama on June 25th, 2015 03:48 am (UTC)
These kids growing up ~ it sneaks up on you! My period first started within a week of my 12th birthday, so in my mind I assumed she'd be closer to 12 when she started. I had visions of being prepared with pads, tampons, and a cup ready for her to check out when the time came... But so it goes! I'm glad she's at least curious about cups.
Sayga: cat-artemis runningsayga on June 26th, 2015 09:10 pm (UTC)
It's a good point. I should get a couple small packs of thin pads and pantiliners and small tampons for her to try out when it starts. I think my first year or two were super light, but I know by the time I was 15, I'd gush everywhere and in minutes would leak through my pad, underwear and jeans. I don't really remember when it started to get heavy. I'm going get some supplies to stock my cupboard next time I go to the store. (I use homemade pads and liners, and I'll make her some small cute ones, but I want to have disposables for her to try too. She's more likely to want to use the cute homemade ones if I don't force her hand by refusing to let her choose. And it's totally her choice anyway, but I think she'll go for the cute, reusable, environmentally friendly choice at some point).
m03m on June 24th, 2015 08:24 pm (UTC)
iudmamaiudmama on June 25th, 2015 03:48 am (UTC)
Thank you - that is exactly the post I was looking for!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 24th, 2015 09:02 pm (UTC)
I would worry that if you got her a short cup and it turns out she has a high cervix (long vag) that she would have a hard time removing it and get turned off from cups. I would start with a long cup like a Diva or a long generic (eBay/Amazon) and go shorter from there rather than risking a stuck cup.

And she'll probably have a learning curve so I don't think she'll be 100% successful the first time she uses it... on Friday's swimming event. The potential for disaster is high.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on June 25th, 2015 01:15 am (UTC)
I was just coming in here to say this. Some post I saw a long time ago that I now can't find said that young girls are more likely to have a high cervix (possibly due to hormone levels). I didn't start using cups that early (and I was slightly on the late side as far as "becoming a woman" was concerned) but I made the mistake of getting a too-short cup. If you can get your hands on an iCare or one of those iCare generics real quick with Amazon Prime shipping, they are 83mm with stem, so it's HIGHLY unlikely they will be too short for her.
iudmamaiudmama on June 25th, 2015 04:03 am (UTC)
Thanks for reinforcing the point about young cervixes (cervii?). I'll see what I can see about the icare. So many new options, it's a little mind boggling!
iudmamaiudmama on June 25th, 2015 04:00 am (UTC)
Good point about the cervix. I'll let her check out the pointers from the virgin's guide and go from there. Diva's are readily available at our neighborhood store, but I guess I expected young, petite kid = short vagina...
I certainly wouldn't expect her to be "cup ready" by Friday. I figured there might be time to experiment with tampons - if she wants.
I am glad she's interested in cups. I know she'd prefer a colored cup, so I'll check out the size charts again to see if there are any with similar dimensions to a small Diva.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on June 26th, 2015 02:55 pm (UTC)
Yeah, since you don't have time for this week now, you might as well hop onto AliExpress and get one of the colored iCares for $5 shipped (you'll wait like a month for shipping though). Got mine from Rockbrook, the manufacturer. They have a number of nice colors--I got the red and it's more of a watermelon shade.
iudmamaiudmama on June 25th, 2015 04:28 pm (UTC)
I came across this video with advice from a teen to young teens interested in menstrual cups - she highly recommends the small classic Meluna for it's length and ability to fold up small. She mentions that the Meluna mini is best suited for someone who has a very low cervix or has had a prolapse.
Thanks again for the suggestions and advice!
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zcYK5wz4eu0
Sayga: cat-artemis runningsayga on June 26th, 2015 09:12 pm (UTC)
I love MeLuna. I just ordered a Large Shorty for my dangly cervix. I did the conversion and even with international shipping costs, I saved more than $5 by ordering from Germany rather than from the American site. AND I had more choices in sizes, styles and colors.
Miss Ashleyimagine_peace on June 26th, 2015 05:17 am (UTC)
My period started when I was 11, and I would have loved to have known about the menstrual cup option. Good luck!
bklynmom on July 5th, 2015 08:19 pm (UTC)
I know, I'm late to the party but I wonder how it went? I have a teen who's been menstruating irregularly for about a year and have been working on this same issue with her on and off for that time. She's not yet interested in using a cup, although I bought her the meluna virgin set and she has it. I bought her a variety of disposable pads (she likes the always teens because they are slimmer) , cloth pads and leakproof undies which she uses regularly. I also got her a few types of tampons to try. She has ended up using obs for swimming and taking them out immediately after. After talking to another cup using mom I'm realizing that some young menstruaters don't want to try cups off the bat. I hope she will give them a try and was thinking of a sckoon as I have also heard others comment on having a too short cup. Did you pick one?
iudmamaiudmama on July 13th, 2015 05:02 am (UTC)
She is still thinking - she skipped the swimming and her friend agreed to just go to the park instead. She is curious and I think that's a good sign. For now she's sticking with the Kotex U "tween" pads. As she gets more interested, I'll share more info and resources with her. When she's ready, I'm planning to let her pick a small Skoon and maybe a small Meluna (or something else) in colors she likes and encouraging her to play with them (see the different ways they fold, etc) until she's ready for the next step.