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I'm 21 years old and a virgin. This is my first try with a menstrual cup. I love the idea of it but I cannot get the hang of it! I have 5 different Melunas. The Classic in small and medium, The Sport in medium, and the shorty classic in both small and medium. I am so frustrated. This is my SEVENTH cycle trying to get the hang of it. I have zero problems with insertion or removal but so, so many leaks! I put the cup in, everything seems great and then I will go to pee later and see blood dripping into the toilet and eventually a full on leak. I've tried the seven fold, C fold and the punch down fold. I've tried pushing the cup up absolutely as far as a can-This worked awesome for one entire cycle and I thought I had it down-but this cycle I am leaking all over again. I've so many different "depths" into the vagina, and positions. I'm losing my patience. I get a good suction, it seems like it is opening all the way as well. But lo and behold, there is blood in the cup and everywhere else. Does anyone have any tips? Did anyone else take this long to get it together? It would so freaking wonderful if I did't bleed everywhere every single cycle! My cervix is high. The shorty melunas did not work for me, as my cervix is too high and also need the higher capacity. I like the texture and the ring stem of the melunas I just need to stop leaking! Please help me figure this out.
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It sounds like your cups don't have enough capacity because your cervix is dangling into them. Empty your cup more often or get a higher capacity cup for your heavy/leaky days. Skim/Read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ especially the sections about dangly cervixes and leakage.
cup_help on June 24th, 2015 03:08 am (UTC)To clarify, the cup is not leaking because its getting full, there is barely any blood in the actual cup. Its leaking around the cup.
Oh, in that case, if there's nothing in the cup, then you're missing your cervix. Insert your cup most of the way, make sure it opens fully and since you're not having luck aiming it where you are, aim the opening elsewhere. For many of us, our cervix is closer to our belly button than our tailbone so give the base/stem of your cups a healthy nudge rearward to point the opening more forward. If that doesn't work, try other directions until your cup settles properly.
tkamockingbird on June 24th, 2015 04:56 am (UTC)I think what kurad means is that IF you have a dangly cervix, it would take up room inside of your cup. This will cause the cup to leak even if the cup is barely full. For example, if you took your cup and filled it with a little bit of water and stuck your finger inside, the water will spill out.
Ive been fighting leaks since last August, but I've finally sorted it out in the last 2/3 months!! So I bought like 11 different cups, no meluna, I didnt like the idea of TPE and smallish holes and with my high cervix they all looked too small.
So its good that you played with lengths of cup bodies, tho for a high cervix a long body for heavy days is good imo. Also silicone would be good to try, and different shaped bodies. There are so many different types out there!
I found I needed a heavy duty cup on my heavy days as the small sibell cup is perfect on my light high cervix days but on heavy lower cervix more flexible and wider days the blood would just bypass the cup leaving a tiny bit in the bottom.
For heavy days I have the LUB medium flipped inside out, and on light days I have the small SiBell cup. No leaks at all and on the LUB I can fill above the brim at night!
Dont be afraid to try wide cups :) if the LUB cup hadnt of worked so perfectly I had my heart set on a Gaia cup, which looks v similar only has 6 holes and no swell and flower design.
On a difficult cervix day I tried a large fleur which is cheap and good but nothing stopped the leak like my medium LUB cup flipped inside out.
Taking it out has been a learning curve but now im actually pretty good at it lol. Things without stems tend to be scary but cant argue with success :)
So its good that you played with lengths of cup bodies, tho for a high cervix a long body for heavy days is good imo. Also silicone would be good to try, and different shaped bodies. There are so many different types out there!
I found I needed a heavy duty cup on my heavy days as the small sibell cup is perfect on my light high cervix days but on heavy lower cervix more flexible and wider days the blood would just bypass the cup leaving a tiny bit in the bottom.
For heavy days I have the LUB medium flipped inside out, and on light days I have the small SiBell cup. No leaks at all and on the LUB I can fill above the brim at night!
Dont be afraid to try wide cups :) if the LUB cup hadnt of worked so perfectly I had my heart set on a Gaia cup, which looks v similar only has 6 holes and no swell and flower design.
On a difficult cervix day I tried a large fleur which is cheap and good but nothing stopped the leak like my medium LUB cup flipped inside out.
Taking it out has been a learning curve but now im actually pretty good at it lol. Things without stems tend to be scary but cant argue with success :)
I use Melunas as well and I've found that I needed to use their XL Classic to deal with my heaviest days (and even then, I still need to get up after 5 hours to empty my cup).
I think that kurad is right about your dangly cervix and it's also possible that you are also roomy inside. Are you able to rotate the cup easily once inside?
You might need to get a bigger capacity cup to deal with your issue.
I think that kurad is right about your dangly cervix and it's also possible that you are also roomy inside. Are you able to rotate the cup easily once inside?
You might need to get a bigger capacity cup to deal with your issue.
I agree with the low cervix theory. If it's low, it can be taking up the volume of the cup, pushing any liquid up and through the holes. I only recently had my first big leak and believe my cervix displaced the contents of my already pretty full cup.
On a day where you can be at home or easily check and empty the cup often (lets say for this experiment, hourly) see if you have collected anything in your cup at all. If so, then it is working and it might be a capacity or cervix taking up capacity issue.
I'm sorry to hear it's not working as easily for you as you'd hope. Unfortunately, I think the answer is more experimentation.
On a day where you can be at home or easily check and empty the cup often (lets say for this experiment, hourly) see if you have collected anything in your cup at all. If so, then it is working and it might be a capacity or cervix taking up capacity issue.
I'm sorry to hear it's not working as easily for you as you'd hope. Unfortunately, I think the answer is more experimentation.
If you aren't getting much blood in the cup and it's mostly outside then you may have to experiment with positioning the cup since it sounds like you're missing the cervix. Does your cup go (o) around the cervix? Or does it just hang out the side of the cervix? For ME the cup works best by being around the cervix. Try positioning the cup differently and see if doing so helps.
