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31 May 2015 @ 09:13 pm
Hello everyone,
I have been thinking of buying a menstrual cup for the first time and was hoping you could all help me out with choosing a cup. I had heard about them years ago and was interested but never ended up getting one, but lately I've been seriously reconsidering it.
I am in my 20s and not sexually active. My periods are quite moderate- on my heaviest day I might go through a regular tampon in about 2-3 hours- I usually use pads though. I am having difficulty finding my cervix so I don't know if it is high or low. I used to assume that I had a low cervix because it seemed that I often had trouble inserting my tampons high enough and they often felt like they were going to come out on some days but I don't think I feel anything that could be my cervix. My fingers are quite short though- my middle finger is about 8 cm- but I could just be missing it? Does it sound like I probably have a high cervix?
Also, I live in Canada, so I'd prefer a cup I could get easily to ship here without massive shipping costs. I know there are Divacups in my local grocery and drugstores but I also wouldn't mind ordering something online if it can get here easily.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 1st, 2015 12:18 pm (UTC)
Since you don't know how high/low your cervix is, logic says that a "medium" length cup would have a better chance of fitting you than a cup from either end of the length spectrum. At 57mm, the local Diva is one of the longer bodied cups -- but it can be flipped inside out to shorten it. Another option is to choose a short cup with a long stem for an overall long length. There are size charts that include stem lengths at the Community FAQ. Head back to the size charts to see what appeals to you and then consider its shape as well. Pointy or blunt, flared rim or not, etc. Shipping is usually quite reasonable either direct from the manufacturer or from a distributor.
violet316 on June 1st, 2015 10:04 pm (UTC)
Thanks, I will take a look at the size charts. I was thinking I could get a short cup with a long stem or a medium cup. What kind of factors are most important to consider when choosing a shape?
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 1st, 2015 10:32 pm (UTC)
Shape... personal preference.

Some like the feel of a tapered V-shaped pointy cup but others find that they are more likely to feel like they're trying to poke through. Some prefer a blunt-based U-shaped cup but others think they feel too round and full. Some would like a relatively small narrow cup but need a wide flared rim to hold them in place.

Don't let por_que_no scare you away from a Diva if you think it will fit you. Very few get their cups "stuck" but yes, Divas are easier to pop open and remove if you enlarge the anti-suction holes around the rim. And no, Divas are not particularly stiff. With 10 = stiffest, the Diva rates a 4 on Melissa's popular "Squishiness" chart.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on June 1st, 2015 04:21 pm (UTC)
If you could fit your whole 8cm middle finger in and miss your cervix, your cervix is actually high. Only a couple cups with stem are 8cm (80mm) or longer. The Diva might work for you but due to the tiny suction holes a lot of first time cuppers have bad experiences with it (like it suctions on and they can't break the suction, requiring a doctor to remove it), and it's also one of the firmer ones. Some of the other long cups include the Si-Bell, iCare, MamiCup, LuvUrBody, Lily, Gaia, etc. Of those, the Si-Bell is the shortest in the body, so if you find that your pubic bone rides high (far from the entrance) like mine does, you may prefer that. Of the cups I listed all are softer than the Diva (I think) and the Si-Bell and lily are probably the softest.
tkamockingbird on June 1st, 2015 08:36 pm (UTC)
You might indeed have a high cervix. But remember, the cervix does not have to be in the middle. I was missing mine for months and realized it was because my cervix is against the left side. If you tried that then ignore me :) if you haven't, good luck!
violet316 on June 1st, 2015 10:02 pm (UTC)
tkamockingbird, that is what I am afraid of. It wasn't until I tried to find my cervix that I realized that I could insert something in the middle at all! My whole life I've been inserting tampons slanted to the left because that is just how it naturally wanted to go in.
tkamockingbird on June 1st, 2015 10:05 pm (UTC)
Yes! That's how I was when I used to use tampons! They would go straight to the left. Even when I use cups my cup tilts to the left.
unicornaunicorn on June 3rd, 2015 07:27 am (UTC)
Did you check the height of your cervix during your period or at another time in your cycle? The cervix tends to be lowest during the period, so I would make sure that yours doesn't move lower during yours (it could be high during other times and drop low during your cycle...).

If you do have a really high cervix during your period you could try out the Lily Cup, it's a longer cup and has a pretty solid stem so it's easier to get a hold of and grip when you remove the cup (stem is hollow but the silicone is thicker than a lot of cups).

I've got a pretty high cervix and I use the Lily Cup/ Lily Cup Compact/ Lunette interchangeably depending on how high my cervix is/ my flow. Lily is the longest, then Lunette, then the Compact (I tend to use the Compact on lighter/low cervix days).