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Hey all,

I know I told the story at VP, and it was years ago, but I'm not sure if anyone has ever had this experience before.

Proviso -- I didn't do this on purpose, I don't recommend it AND I am 110% fine afterwards.

This was back when I was using both a large and small lunette interchangeably, roughly 5-6 years ago. At the end of my cycle, I put in the small lunette, stem cut off (my cups tend to ride a bit sideways). Then I forgot about it.

I had finished my period more or less, and just didn't remember to take the cup out. I always had trouble with it coming out as they'd tend to ride /very/ high, especially the small one.

During that week (it was probably about 10 days as near as I can figure) I had sex a few times, with a penis owner wearing a condom. He didn't notice, I didn't notice, I still don't know how that happened (they weren't a long term partner, so that possibly contributed to them being less thorough).

The only way I noticed was I started getting a strong smelling, chunky discharge a bit like yeast, but definitely different. I went to the bathroom at the train station on the way to work and checked inside myself (as I usually do when I notice something strange). I felt the bottom of the cup. 'Oh NO.' I thought. 'OH NO THIS ISN'T...HOW LONG...OH NO.' I didn't panic but I definitely facepalmed.

I braced myself and removed the cup, which was now sitting low enough for me to grab. Warning for graphic language from here, but I figure you would have stopped reading if you weren't curious at this point.

The /worst/ smell of my life came out of the cup. It looked like I'd actually put it in after all the blood and tissue had passed, so it was just the regular discharge that had accumulated for that nearly two-week period. It stung a little as it flowed out of me, and as I said before, absolutely /stank/. I felt a bit traumatised, but relieved, and more than a little grossed out at myself.

I wore a disposable pad that day and drank loads of water. I carefully cleaned myself out with clean fingers that night in the shower and .... was fine. I had bad smell for about 2 days before the flora got itself back to normal.

I want to tell this story because if I had left a tampon in there, I would possibly be dead from a systemic infection, have required emergency room care or have had other serious complications from leaving something to rot inside me. I was incredibly lucky that my absent-mindedness let me off the hook so easily.

I disinfected and washed the cup but it never lost a tiny bit of that smell until I sunbaked it in the Australian summer for a good week. I still never used it again, as there's no way I could forget about the much larger sized cup.

I've experienced some degree of that smell twice since, both with unrelated instances of bacterial vaginosis. They were completely cleared up by antibiotics. I think I was pretty lucky to not need further care in that previous instance.

And that is the story of why a few of my close friends, when I am looking for something, ask me 'Oh, have you checked your vagina?' >____> Never living it down.

Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on May 29th, 2015 04:52 pm (UTC)
Glad you were okay! The longest I've ever forgotten about a cup is about 24 hours, but some of my cups are so comfortable that I could easily see forgetting about them for longer. I am really surprised your partner didn't notice, though! You must have a very high cervix.
Katrinakatrina_splat on May 29th, 2015 05:16 pm (UTC)
Thanks, and yeah, my cervix is super super high.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on May 29th, 2015 05:36 pm (UTC)
As you're retelling the story it's pretty funny, though it certainly wasn't for you at the time! I also have a very high cervix and am quite absentminded, so I wouldn't put this past me (I always choose cups with stems that ride pretty close to my entrance though, or I'd have difficulty removing my cups, so with that and the fact that my cervix is kinda sideways like yours, that's why I don't like pokey flat tab stems). I've left cups in for probably 48 hours without issue but won't be trying for anything longer than that!
Katrinakatrina_splat on May 30th, 2015 05:58 am (UTC)
It was a little bit funny at the time, I'm just lucky I had a couple of friends to laugh about it with, it's not really water-cooler conversation >_> And I needed to talk about it somewhere!

I still wouldn't advocate for even more than 12 hours without an empty and wipe of the cup, because I think it can start to get some seriously persistent staining and smells happening, that take a bit more effort to get rid of.
Miss Ashleyimagine_peace on May 30th, 2015 02:59 am (UTC)
Wow that is frightening. But in a way, a good advocate for cups, because as you said, you could have gotten a serious infection with other "protection."
Katrinakatrina_splat on May 30th, 2015 05:59 am (UTC)
Yep. I felt pretty awful about the whole thing but it does happen -- the same way you accidentally leave your phone on the bus or whatever. It was actually reading Amanda Palmer's old journal entry about leaving in a tampon for a few days and needing a hospital visit that made me feel a bit okay about the whole process and not freak out completely.
Miss Ashley: [amanda palmer]imagine_peace on May 30th, 2015 06:26 am (UTC)
Ooh yikes! Hey, someone else who likes AFP! :D
Katrinakatrina_splat on May 30th, 2015 02:24 pm (UTC)
She's someone I have a complicated relationship with as a fan, but I respect large swathes of what she does and her honesty and 'Who Killed Amanda Palmer' was an important album to me :)

I managed to dig up the blog post, it's an old rambly one. It seems it was a sea sponge she left in which required emergency room care, and a tampon when she was younger. It really helped keep me calm knowing other vaguely adult-shaped folks had gone through the same thing.

..::bella vita::..por_que_no on May 30th, 2015 02:27 pm (UTC)
HAHA vaguely adult-shaped folks. That's pretty much me. Seems most people my age are more successfully adulting, adultier adults!
Miss Ashleyimagine_peace on May 31st, 2015 02:28 am (UTC)
That was an amusing blog, thanks for sharing it with me!
yayforcupsyayforcups on May 30th, 2015 05:52 am (UTC)
Hahahahaha I loved that last bit!!! Your friends are funny 😜 good for you for taking it so well! And I'm pleased no harm came from it- and that you could reach it!!!
Katrinakatrina_splat on May 30th, 2015 06:01 am (UTC)
Yep! Learned my lesson about short cups on myself though. >_> Also I wanted to make sure this was here so that if anyone ever has a cup stuck and /cannot/ get it out -- seriously, leave it for a good amount of hours and try again -- eventually it /will/ move around so you can get it out, and it's not like with every passing minute it's getting more serious at a fast rate -- it's okay to relax and give it a few hours.

I want to be the anecdote where someone is freaking out about their new cup and someone says 'well, don't worry, one person left theirs in for like a WEEK and they were fine.'
★  ★: Corset - backregulusarcturus on May 31st, 2015 07:31 am (UTC)
You poor thing! Sounds scary! Though I'm trying to figure...how did you manage to have sex with a cup in? LOL
Katrinakatrina_splat on May 31st, 2015 08:07 am (UTC)
I don't know >_> Back then the small lunette was the smallest you could get in the market, the only small size advertised for 'virgins' rather than 'nulliparous' folks (even though it doesn't make a difference). I have a long birth canal anyway, and had never been able to reach my cervix. I'd previously used a small size mooncup uk and found it uncomfortable (probably due to the old rigid rim it used to have). The small cup definitely was more comfortable, just a nightmare to get out -- I remember accidentally getting it sideways while trying to fish it out once -- that was uncomfortable!

Having sex probably did jam it up higher, I'm just amused that the penis owner couldn't feel it! It wasn't like they had the smallest penis of all the partners I've slept with, either. Too funny.
sweetrumbellesweetrumbelle on June 21st, 2015 02:10 am (UTC)
Wow! Glad you are okay.

That's actually a fear of mine. I have a high cervix too and some cups can be forgotten because I can't feel them.

But I mostly stick to my large cups and it's hard to forget those.

Still, I hope I never forget it.