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I am on the verge of tears as I am writing this. I don't want to scare anyone away from cups, but I want to provide a warning to anyone who may be interested in using cups and to anyone who is currently using cups. I hope that by doing this, I can spare them from what I am dealing with. For information, I am 13 years old and I used the Divacup (model 1).

It all started around five months ago. Like everyone else, I was looking for a way to manage my periods easier. I found pads uncomfortable and messy, and I feared that I would spend lots of money buying tampons every month, which my parents might eventually catch on to. It was then that I discovered the Divacup. I bought one at the local Whole Foods and used it in secret from my parents.

When I first started using the cup, my vagina was fine. My hymen was intact and everything was working normal. At some point in time, the cup broke my hymen, as I expected it would. It was fine, I didn't care about it anyway.

About two or three months ago, I have been noticing a bulge in the front wall of my vagina, and I posted previously here asking what it could be, and another user replied that it might've been just normal bulky tissue, which reassured me.

However, this month, the cup felt noticeably uncomfortable. I took it out and discovered that I could hardly fit anything into my vagina anymore, the bulge was blocking my vaginal entrance. I could barely even fit a finger in without extreme discomfort.

I googled this, and I may have a cystocele, which is a prolapse of the bladder into the vagina. It sounds like what I am currently experiencing. People with cystoceles usually get it after childbirth, since the vaginal muscles are stretched and thus weakened. Though I have not had childbirth (obviously because of my age), the menstrual cup could have had the same effect on me. I told my mother about it, omitting the fact that I use a menstrual cup. She scheduled an appointment with my pediatrician, which is tomorrow. I will update you guys on the diagnosis.

I know that this is all theoretical, but I feel that there must be a correlation. Given my age, it is unlikely that I would have a cystocele this young if I hadn't used a menstrual cup. I feel hopeless and ruined. I am far too young to have to deal with something like this, which may affect me for the rest of my life. Though the menstrual cup dates back to the 1930s, it is not commonly used and there have not been many medical studies conducted on it. I cannot control what other people put into their vaginas, but I hope that I will prevent someone from having the same issue as me someday. Please wish me luck, I feel that I will really need it.

UPDATE: Thank you everyone for all of the good words and advice. I went to see my pediatrician today, and she examined me, saw that there was some bulky tissue blocking the entrance to my vagina, and referred me to a gynecologist, who(m, for you picky grammar people :P) I'll be seeing on Thursday. I asked her if I could still use tampons, and she said it was fine as long as there wasn't any major discomfort. I'm currently using my cup and being extra cautious and making sure it isn't uncomfortable or anything. Again, thank you everyone for your support :)

UPDATE 2: I overreacted, I'm fine.
 
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on May 29th, 2015 12:15 am (UTC)
I just want to send you a big hug ♥
stupid question but are you sure it's not simply your cervix?
please try not to worry too much until you have the diagnosis confirmed. *hugs more*
arylisa on May 29th, 2015 12:29 am (UTC)
Thank you for the hugs :) I'm sure it's not my cervix, I forced a finger in there and I felt my cervix in my vagina, above the bulge. When I use a hand mirror and squat down, I can actually see the tissue obstructing my opening. It's really freaky and I'm kind of terrified.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on May 29th, 2015 02:01 am (UTC)
Did you have serious suction issues with the Diva when you first started using it/before enlarging the holes? I am actually pretty doubtful that the cup use would have caused this unless you had a pretty serious injury early in your cup use--I don't remember you mentioning anything like that. It would have to be something on the order of you getting the Diva suctioned to that side of your wall and having to pull so hard that it tore into your vaginal wall when you did. Otherwise it could be an inborn weakness in your vaginal wall (in which case, probably good that it's noticed now and not when you're giving birth and suddenly RRRIPPPP goes your whole vaginal wall)

Best of luck and please keep us updated! <3
★  ★: constellationsregulusarcturus on May 29th, 2015 05:01 am (UTC)
No idea what this could be but just wanted to say *HUGS* Sounds so scary! Hang in there and I hope you can get some answers from the doctor!
tkamockingbird on May 29th, 2015 07:44 am (UTC)
You sound so stressed and I wish I could also give you a hug! I remember when I was around your age I found a HUGE lump like that and inignored jt bc I was embaressed to tell anyone, so I'm happy you told your mom! Plus, my lump eventually went away.

My only advice is to stay away from googling it until your appointment because I know I do that and it causes me so much stress! I wish you luck and I really hope you keep us updated! :)
Jennnakedfaery on May 29th, 2015 09:10 am (UTC)
Please try not to stress too much before you get it checked out. I know that's easier said than done.

Fwiw, I had a severe second degree tear (narrowly avoided being a third degree tear) and a bladder prolapse after I gave birth to my child. You are not ruined and things are not hopeless. My son is 4 now, and although at times it required dedication to some uncomfortable and slightly embarrassing procedures, things are as good as new down there. You wouldn't know I had torn except a line of slightly paler skin on my perineum. My bladder prolapse is gone.

Can you push gently on the part you think is prolapsed and see if it'll move back? Usually, unless a prolapse is very severe, it can be moved manually, although it often won't stay there and will come back down if you strain to have a bowel movement. In fact, if you are regularly constipated or have had any bouts of severe constipation, this could have caused the weakness in the vaginal wall which allowed the prolapse to happen. This can be caused by diet or medication. As others have said, it can also be congenital or as a result of a quite serious injury (which you definitely would have noticed).

The first thing I would suggest right now is regular pelvic floor exercises. Kegels and squats. If for any reasons stand alone squats aren't manageable for you, pelvic tilts done on an exercise ball can be a good alternative. Getting some strength back will often help limit the severity of a prolapse. A gynaecologist can do stuff like give you a device to hold it in place while you await treatment. There's gynaecological physiotherapy and biofeedback available, both of which can help a great deal. As I said, I have no lasting problems from my cystocele.

..::bella vita::..por_que_no on May 29th, 2015 05:39 pm (UTC)
Yes, I forgot about the constipation angle. It surprises me how many girls (not only people I've met here but in general) are pretty much always constipated or have to bear down for half an hour to use the bathroom. Apparently it's something about how women's intestines/abdominal muscles are built compared to men's and the reproductive organs taking up extra space.
Katrinakatrina_splat on May 29th, 2015 01:51 pm (UTC)
Hey there,

Firstly, if you want to get rid of the stress I would go straight to the doctor and just get a second, professional opinion. I've been incredibly worried about things that seemed silly later (thought the white bumps on my vulva were something I'd caught off a partner, turns out they are normal) and it's very easy for Doctor Google to make it seem like the worst thing when it's not.

It's hard to get used to vaginas, and unless you've gotten very familiar with it and many others chances are it might surprise you, especially when you're looking for changes. I definitely felt differences in how cups worked in my body (and changed cup sizes) between ages 19 and 22, and it's only at 27 I've been able to reach my cervix.

As for the 'breaking' your hymen -- that's not how it works, and I want to emphasise that nothing is broken or damaged by you using the cup. This video by Laci Green helps to explain (and helped me understand) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8WkpA. Did you bleed when using the cup? It might be useful to use a little water based lubricant next time, it shouldn't hurt or bleed (though might be unfcomfortbale while you're getting used to using it).

I'm glad you're seeing your doc, and I hope it gives you some relief. I've gone through scary moments like that before and they're not fun, I hope you're given some advice that means you can relax soon. xx Take care.
arylisa on May 29th, 2015 10:24 pm (UTC)
Thank you everyone for all of the good words and advice. I went to see my pediatrician today, and she examined me, saw that there was some bulky tissue blocking the entrance to my vagina, and referred me to a gynecologist, who(m, for you picky grammar people :P) I'll be seeing on Thursday. I asked her if I could still use tampons, and she said it was fine as long as there wasn't any major discomfort. I'm currently using my cup and being extra cautious and making sure it isn't uncomfortable or anything. Again, thank you everyone for your support :)
tkamockingbird on May 29th, 2015 11:31 pm (UTC)
Thank you for taking the time to update us! I hope everything turns out okay and stay away from webMD ;)
Cenamenhoneypie3251 on June 6th, 2015 05:03 am (UTC)
Glad it wasn't anything to worrisome.
Cenamenhoneypie3251 on June 6th, 2015 05:04 am (UTC)
Too worrisome