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I'm 13, a virgin(not that it matters that much when I'm talking about a cup size, I guess.), I have a high cervix, and I'm just really tight down there. I just started using my DivaCup (size 1) and I think it might be too big for me, but I don't want to go out and buy another cup and possibly waste another $20 on something that has the same problem. It is very uncomfortable for me when I put it in me, and I'm not sure if it's part of the 'learning curve' that comes with using a menstrual cup for the first time, or if I didn't insert it correctly, or if it's just not a good cup for me. The cup does open up inside of me, but it opens like this; ) ( where it's kind of squeezed, but it does create a seal. Is that okay for it to be like that, or should it be completely open without it being squeezed?

I don't have any other problems with my Diva cup as of right now, just that it is very uncomfortable when inside of me. Also, it's very uncomfortable to get out and it stretches me alot, but I get the feeling it would be like that if I used any other cup(?).

Any tips on how to make it not as painful/uncomfortable? Could I try putting it up higher? What cup should I look into if I've tried everything and nothing has helped?Thank you for the advice in advance!
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fyeahjtvfyeahjtv on May 28th, 2015 11:58 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the advice! If I do decide to buy another one, what would you recommend? I'm interested in the Mini Meluna and the Meluna Classic in Small, do you think those would work for me? I'm asking because I don't want to buy another cup when it has the same problems as the DivaCup. :)
Ashatenlegspider on May 28th, 2015 09:50 pm (UTC)
Try The Virgins' Guide To Cups. It is difficult when you're not used to putting things in your vagina!

The tightness is probably a combination of your hymen (a lot of people don't really know what this is - it's a sort of membrane just outside your vagina and within your inner labia) getting in the way, and your muscles being tense. You hymen will stretch, and if you go easy on yourself you'll get used to using a cup so you won't be so tense. A smaller cup can make things easier for you at first, but the Diva should be fine if you have a high cervix.

Your cup isn't opening properly, but that won't necessarily stop it working. Are you actually on your period or did you do a dry run? If it's a dry run, it might actually work better when you're on your period, or at least if you use some lube (I recommend a little lube around the entrance of your vagina even when you do have your period - it will reduce the feeling of stretching and help avoid uncomfortable tearing of your hymen).

How does it feel uncomfortable? If it's a sort of scratchy feeling it's probably the stem or the end of the cup poking your labia. In that case it may need to go higher, or you might just need to trim the stem. If it feels weird, crampy, or a dull sort of pain inside, it could be poking your cervix. For either getting it higher or getting it to stop poking your cervix, you want to try you allow the cup to position itself properly. If you're doing a dry run, blood or lube will probably help. Different folds might also work better.

I hope some of that helps, but most importantly, you're only 13. You have decades ahead where you can make use of your cup, so don't rush. You can use tampons or pads most of the time if it's easier and have a go with the cup once or twice every cycle - you'll get the hang of it with practice, and also as you grow and get more used to your body.
fyeahjtv: pic#125076979fyeahjtv on May 28th, 2015 11:55 pm (UTC)
I tried using my cup during my period, but it was my second day of my period so it was a little bit on the lighter side. I'll try using some lube next time, thanks!

There wasn't any scratchy feeling, it was sort of around the cup instead of above the cup (where the seal is). It just felt like there was pressure on the front and back of the cup, and I'm not sure if that's part of the learning curve and I didn't put it in properly or if the cup is just too big for me. I also used a push-down fold, but next time I'll try to use something different.

I heard that some woman's vaginas swell up during their period, could that be true? I'll see if I could comfortably wear my cup when I'm not on my period.

If the cup just isn't right for me, what would you recommend? I'm interested in the Mini Meluna and the Meluna classic in Small. Would those be good starter ones for someone like me?
Ashatenlegspider on May 29th, 2015 08:12 am (UTC)
Your vagina is flexible and can comfortably fit more than a cup, as long as it's sufficiently relaxed and lubricated (the relaxing is the challenge). I think we all swell a bit in that whole area as blood flow increases, but this affects sensitivity more than space (extra sensitivity will make things feel tighter though).

Perhaps the feeling of it being too big is something to do with your pubic bone, but at this stage I think it's better to put it down to the learning curve. You might have irritated the walls as the cup went in due to tension, or it felt wrong because it didn't find the right position. If you get more comfortable getting it in and out but it still feels wrong inside, then consider a different cup.

Melunas are quite cheap, so you might like to get one for now (as a very small cup might be easier to deal with at the moment), but I have no idea what would suit you long-term. I've only ever used two models and both were fine. I think most people can use most cups.
yayforcupsyayforcups on May 29th, 2015 01:11 pm (UTC)
As regards the lube- it should be a water-based lubricant as oil-based is not good for silicone, the exception is natural coconut oil which is my favourite as its also anti-yeast
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on May 29th, 2015 02:08 am (UTC)

If you're feeling that the cup is being squeezed by your pubic bone around the bottom of the cup, that may be because the Diva is too long in the body for you. It is for most users. I have a high cervix too but my pubic bone sits high so I need a short body + long stem combination (I do use the iCare as a light days/spotting cup, and that has the same body design as the Diva, but I'm not asking for a lot of capacity out of it, so I don't mind the squeezing so much...this would be a problem on the 2nd day of my cycle though!)

If you find that to be the problem in a couple of months, some of the short body/long stem cups out there include the Si-Bell, MamiCup, small Lunette (sort of...70mm with stem), small Rainbow (70mm w/ stem), I think the Yuuki too. :)
fyeahjtvfyeahjtv on May 29th, 2015 02:35 am (UTC)
Ooh, nice! I'll check that out. I think the same type of cup will be good for me, too. Is the width about the same, or smaller?
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on May 29th, 2015 05:32 pm (UTC)
Depends if you get the small or large (yes, virgins can wear a large! Just depends on how much you bleed). Offhand I think all are the same as or narrower than the Diva in the small size but the larges will be a little wider. As long as you use the right fold though it won't matter that much. I really like the labial fold (works best for soft cups without a ginormous rim, like the ones I use)...it's really no bigger than a super tampon when you do it right.
elisamba on May 30th, 2015 11:34 am (UTC)
Going from a Diva to a Meluna mini, you are going from one of the longest cups to the shortest cup. I don't recommend that until you figure out why your Diva was uncomfortable. Even if it is too long for you, don't immediately go to the shortest cup. Find your cervix first while on your period, see which finger joint is at your entrance, and that's more or less the comfortable length of of cup you can wear. Believe me it is no fun having a mini cup suctioned to a high cervix as a newbie and not knowing how to get it off! (Personal experience talking).