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27 May 2015 @ 10:20 am
Hi all,

This website has been great to skim through, but I think I need specific help. So I heard amazing reviews about using a menstrual cup, specifically the Diva Cup. I went out and bought one (a year ago) and used it. I folded it and inserted it but wasn't able to spin it, so I didn't. It felt weird, so being so used to tampons, I pushed it up a little higher, but I could still get ahold of the stem. I checked on it a few mins later and the stem had disappeared. Then, it turned sideways (what?!) and the stem was super hard to get to. Let's just say it was looong (and stressful) time to get it out, which scared me away from the cup. But now I am about to move to another country where tampons aren't sold and trashcans in bathrooms aren't readily available so I really want to give the cup a go again... I just need help figuring out which one to buy! I had no idea there were so many options. I am 23, have not had children, and I think I have a high cervix. Also, I could not get the Diva Cup to spin and did not know how to check if it had opened at initial insert. Once it rode up it had opened. Not sure if this is enough information but thanks in advanced for your help!
 
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on May 27th, 2015 06:07 pm (UTC)
Divas are such a terrible starter cup for most people--so don't blame yourself! :)
For a high cervix the standard recommendations are Si-Bell (my favorite), the Lily (bit of a different design so has more of a learning curve), or the LuvUrBody. I also recommend the iCare (83mm with stem! Similar design to the Diva in the body but softer, with a much longer/grippier stem) and I have seen that the new MamiCup is 75mm with stem, so that one is intriguing as well. I too have a high cervix, and my Rainbow, of the same length as the Diva, is a hair short on most days.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 27th, 2015 07:21 pm (UTC)
I disagree with por_que_no that Divas are a terrible starter cup. First off, I don't think there is such a thing as a "starter cup." A cup either fits well or it doesn't. (The analogy I like to use is that if you have size-7 feet, would you buy size-5 "starter" shoes just because you've never taken dance lessons before?) The Diva happens to be one of the longest-bodied cups and since you seem to have a high cervix (long vagina) then it wasn't a bad choice at all.

As for your Diva, you do NOT need to spin it as per the instructions. And enlarging the anti-suction holes around the rim will help with popping open and with removal. So will figuring out what techniques work best for you. We all do it a little differently.

Skim/Read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ And give your Diva another try. These cups have a learning curve. Insertion, removal, learning to trust them, etc. Just because you weren't happy with your first attempt doesn't mean you'll hate it forever. And if you learn to work a different cup next, I'll bet you'll be successful with your Diva if you try it again.

That page links to a set of size charts but that one doesn't have overall length including stems. Check the Community FAQ for charts that do. Maybe you'll prefer a shorter cup with a longer stem like por_que_no does.


Edited at 2015-05-27 07:45 pm (UTC)
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on May 28th, 2015 01:55 am (UTC)
The suction hole issue is most of the reason I rip on the Diva as a starter (I mean, for a first-time cup user) cup. This is a problem Diva knows about and can/should fix but it makes cup use difficult for those who haven't used other brands before and it often traumatizes those who don't know about the suction hole issue, can't break the suction, have to get it removed at a gyno and then never want to use cups again as a result. That rarely seems to happen with other cup brands with bigger suction release holes. With the older models, the huge rim was probably quite intimidating for many first time users and virgins as well--perhaps not so much now, but it's still way too much rim for me--and not ideal for those who need something softer.

(And yes, it's luck of the draw that the OP has a high cervix, but in reality, a good portion of first time cup users will not have such a high cervix. In fact, it's low cervix users who are more likely to get frustrated with never being able to wear tampons comfortably, so they are more apt to be seeking other options. A high cervix user may not notice that tampons are uncomfortable initially)

Edited at 2015-05-28 12:38 pm (UTC)
tkamockingbird on May 31st, 2015 12:48 am (UTC)
Agreed! Divacup scared myself from menstrual cups because it was my first. Now that I am more experienced I wish I would have held on to it because now I think I would be able to use it since I now know what I know about menstrual cups.
emacgill on May 27th, 2015 08:16 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much! This was very helpful.