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16 April 2015 @ 03:19 pm
Hello all!

Joined Livejournal just so I could ask questions about using cups.

My stats: Age 30, 2 children via c-section. Cycle has gotten heavier between children. I have never filled my cup more than about 60%, even using overnight.

I have used a Ladycup for a couple of years now between pregnancies. I have a large and cut the stem all the way off. I always insert using a "U" fold.

Here are the issues I am having:

1. Day 1, insertion leaves me very crampy and full feeling. It's like it takes the cup a couple of days to "settle" or something. I find it more comfortable on day 3 and 4.

2. SUCTION! I did read the post on suction, but the cup goes where it wants. It "sucks" all the way up and then I can feel it open across my cervix. Feels about the equivalent of having a pap done. It's actually how I know the cup popped open. Not sure if this is normal? It makes a fairly prominent noise (sorry, TMI!!!) on removal, too. I am plus-sized and carry my weight around my middle (I am about a US size 14/16), and reaching "up there" is sometimes difficult, so I don't think I can actually reach up to the rim to break the seal. Because of the firmness of the rim and the softness of the body on a Ladycup, it doesn't seem like squeezing the bottom is very effective in breaking the seal.

3. I feel like the cup is too long in the beginning of my cycle. Again, towards the middle of my period it is more comfortable, but even without the stem the cup itself can feel "poky". Hope that makes sense!

4. Difficulty urinating. It's hard to pee with it in, and I pee a lot more than I need to clean out my cup, so removal to urinate is not ideal.

5. I am not having leaking, but wondering if the cup is too wide? I *think* my muscles are squishing it a bit. The rim is open, but the cup itself is always dented when I am wearing it. I am hesitant to go with a firmer cup due to my aforementioned pressure/urination issues.

BASED ON THESE 5 THINGS, would you recommend a different cup? Am I doing it wrong?

Thank you ladies, any help is GREATLY appreciated!!!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on April 16th, 2015 11:00 pm (UTC)
No, suction is not making it migrate north. ANY cup will settle (O) around your cervix. Skim/Read http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ for proper cup placement. Would the insertion techniques/tips help you too?

Your Ladycup is a soft and squishy one so it "shouldn't" be too firm. It's also a fairly pointy based cup so it "shouldn't" feel too bulbous. And it's a fairly wide cup with a thin rim so it "shouldn't" be too tight around your cervix. Perhaps filing the stem/stub would make it feel less pokey?

If you think you'd like a different cup, compare the dimensions of your cup to other brands. Also compare shapes and other features.
trejoytrejoy on April 17th, 2015 03:21 am (UTC)
Don't think you're doing anything wrong. I experienced many of the same issues you outlined with the Ladycup, particularly the excess suction. Not as bad as the Diva, but it certainly was strong! The rim is probably the culprit with bladder pressure. My solution was to buy a large Iris cup (available through coppetta-mestruale.it) and sell the Ladycup. The Iris is the same shape, which I liked, but is softer overall, especially the rim! A lot less suction. I never have the trouble removing the Iris I had with the Lady. And the Iris isn't nearly as slippery. Oh, and the stem isn't as stiff either.

I also used a large Sckoon back then. It was easy on the bladder and bowel, too. Less suction and stem was a non-issue.

One thing to try before giving up on the Lady is to push against vaginal wall as soon as you've inserted, to get as much air inside as possible once the cup opens. Should lessen suction. Like kuradi said, you can try filing the edge of the stem (I use nail clippers to trim stems).

Edit: Just remembered the Iris cup is available on Amazon now! =)

Edited at 2015-04-17 03:52 am (UTC)
fluterflutter on April 17th, 2015 11:16 am (UTC)
Thank you all for taking the time to answer me; I will definitely look into the suggestions you posted. Glad to see I am not the only one who has had similar issues with this cup. I really do think that cups are FANTASTIC and am SO happy to have come across the concept. Makes "that time of the month" almost (almost) a non-issue. :) Thanks again!
tkamockingbird on April 17th, 2015 08:12 am (UTC)
I have the same issues, but mine is pressure on the rectum. The Diva Cup was pretty much a nightmare because of that. When I applied ointment in my rectum (anal fissure issues) I could feel the cup protruding out. I use the large soft Meluna and it solved all my problems. I have a hard time recommending it to people because a lot of people find they have issues with it, but it worked for me.
m03m on April 17th, 2015 09:44 am (UTC)
The Ladycup was my first cup, and while it worked for me, it did feel pokey. For me, that was because of the pointy shape. So I got a Fleurcup, but the grip lines chafed me. Here's what I did to fix that: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2387402.html
It's now as comfy for me as a pair of old shoes.

The Fleurcup is a wide cup, and it makes me urinate slower than I normally do. With the Ladycup, for me, that was the same. However, the rim on the Fleurcup is definitely thinner/softer than the rim on the Ladycup, so maybe that would make a difference for you?

Some more data points:
I have never felt the need to reach up to the rim to break the seal of any cup. I'm not even sure whether I can do that. Pinching the bottom and/or rocking the cup out side-to-side has always worked for me.
Any cup will sit where it wants. That's normal.

Here's hoping you find a good solution!