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Before I start I'd like to say that I have read the Virgin's guide to cups, and the other virgin posts on this community but I still feel like I have to ask this question even though it may sound a bit silly.(Especially since I feel like an idiot for asking because as a nurse I know exactly the dimensions of the human body and a cup should be able to fit considering what the vaginal passage is made for) Except theory is so different from practice :( *sigh*

I'm a 22 year old virgin. I recently purchased a Lunette size 1. The cup looks huge, no other way to put it. I can't feel my cervix, I've tried every position probably known to humans and it's no luck. Also I can only fit one finger in and anything bigger than my pinky is not very comfortable going in. Once in I don't feel my finger so much but going in is a different matter. I think my hymen is not the problem. It looks broken and isn't covering anything as far as I can see. I took a mirror and examined myself and I seem big enough to fit two fingers in but I can't.

I know virgins younger than me make these cups work and I really, really want to use a cup. But I guess I need some encouragement.

Can I actually fit a lunette into me? I was thinking about getting a small meluna instead but I'm worried it will be so small it'll get stuck inside me too high up for me to get out. So advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated. please. I'm too overwhelmed by the cup size to see how it will fit.

Update!

Thanks all of you for the great advice. I took the plunge and tried to insert my Lunette, it took me three attempts and a cross between the labial fold and the punchdown fold to get it to go in. It stinged a bit going in but once it was up there I couldn't really feel it, maybe a piece of stem out the outlet but it wasn't painful o anything.

What worked for me.

I was pretty tense my first insertion try. So I forced myself to relax. It slipped in a little bit at a time and I reminded myself to breath. The position I used was a back lying position, I tried squatting and sitting but both were too uncomfortable.

I also warmed the cup in hot water before I inserted so it was pliable.

I kept the cup in for about five minutes and walked around with it. Once again I couldn't really feel anything except maybe a slight sensation from the stem poking out. For me the cup opened nicely (on removal I heard a squelch of suction and when I poked a finger up to check the cup appeared to have sealed.

Removal I did in a squatting position and bearing down. It hurt just a tad popping out as it cleared the outlet but no lasting soreness. Interestingly while I could never put two fingers in down there I was able to put a finger in while the cup was inserted to check the fit. I'm surprised but pleased. I assume a cup plus a finger equal two fingers which is progress! Sadly that was just a dry run, but I am so looking forward to the monthly visitor. It's late just when I wanted it most (and it's usually never late) :(

I did notice I had a slight sensation of needing to urinate while the cup was in for the first few minutes, but I think that was related to a tad bit of irritation from my vagina protesting it's first over-sized visitor. The sensation did go away rather quickly. I do think a meluna soft might be good to try out too though...but we'll see.

Update # 2
I wore the cup my entire cycle. It was amazing. I'm a cup convert and eager to proselytize ;) The first day I had some spotting (though that may have been related to my newbie cup placement). The next five days were beautiful. I worked over 12 hour shifts and even managed to change my cup in the work bathroom a few times. I was able to bend, twist, run and be really active without leaking. The days I was home I was so confident in my cup that the last two days I even went commando. My Lunette is beautiful.

One bonus I noticed when I ran that I had no issues with leakage of urine and usually I do have a bit of dribble. Insertion got easier and easier and I can now insert the cup in several different positions. I do plan on getting a meluna medium (I want to try the ring grip and yay colours!). Thanks LJ cup coummunity!
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 10th, 2015 03:16 am (UTC)
No, your cup is not too big for you. No, don't buy another cup. Figure out how to use the one that you have -- then decide whether or not you need to fine tune the fit with another brand. Don't trim the stem until you are absolutely sure that you won't need it any more for removal.

If you're not mentally/physically ready to use it then don't. Put it away and get more comfortable with insertion first. Start with your fingers, then graduate to things like a clean hairbrush handle or anything else that appeals to you. Easy to insert, easy to remove. Then, when you're ready, try your cup. If you associate your cup with anxiety or pain, you'll struggle.

Once you figure it out, insertion and removal won't be a big deal at all.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 10th, 2015 01:52 pm (UTC)
PS - If you haven't already, skim/read this too: http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/
failsafe8failsafe8 on March 10th, 2015 09:28 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the advice and the article. :)
trejoytrejoy on March 10th, 2015 07:43 am (UTC)
Have you watched videos or checked out pictures of the various types of folds? I'd play with the cup, practice different types of folds and invest in some coconut oil when you're ready to attempt insertion. I think you'll be fine, once you get over the fear and convince yourself it is possible. =)
failsafe8failsafe8 on March 10th, 2015 09:30 pm (UTC)
I have watched tons of videos for folds and insertion. The labia fold and punch down fold look the easiest so far. I don't think I'll use coconut oil though, I've heard it can cause silicone to degrade over time, plus I'm usually pretty moist anyway.
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failsafe8failsafe8 on March 10th, 2015 09:33 pm (UTC)
Re: Meluna small
I kinda want to get a meluna anyway because I found a really great deal with two sizes for the price of one. I was trying to figure out between a stem and a ring? If I'm worried about removal you really think the ring is better? I know I can attach a string with a ring but I was thinking the stem would make it a bit longer and easier to grasp. What do you think is the best for a person with a high cervix worried about removal, a ring or a stem?
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on March 10th, 2015 03:40 pm (UTC)
Like the previous posters mentioned--try some different folds! This blog was created by a 14-year-old with a Size 1 Lunette: https://menstrualcupforteens.wordpress.com/folds-and-insertion/

My go-to is the labial fold because I have to use super-soft cups that don't pop open as well with traditional folds.

Actually, since you mentioned not being able to find your cervix, if anything, the Lunette might be a bit short for you--it's only 70mm with stem right? For me, about half the time, my 70mm cup (the Rainbow) is just barely within reach. If you need a little longer, I recommend the small Si-Bell (which is also super soft and comfortable) for those many World Trade Cervix virgins out there!
failsafe8failsafe8 on March 10th, 2015 09:36 pm (UTC)
I like the look of the labial fold to :) Checking out the blog too. I may look into a Si-Bell I don't think I've looked at that brand before.
yayforcupsyayforcups on March 10th, 2015 05:14 pm (UTC)
If its a new lunette it will be 72mm which is great for a high cervix. The entrance will need some gentle stretching but past the entrance should already be ok so just work upto it and you should be fine
failsafe8failsafe8 on March 10th, 2015 09:35 pm (UTC)
Yes, it's a new lunette. It didn't come wrapped in cellophane though, and I did buy it direct from the company. Anyway, I'm roomy past the entrance, two fingers would fit, maybe even a third if I could get past the entrance , Arrgh! I'll try working up to it and see how it goes.
trejoytrejoy on March 11th, 2015 08:29 pm (UTC)
Congratulations on successful insertion! It always feels like cause for celebration when people make progress. Most find insertion easier during flow than on a dry run. Report back how it works for you then?
failsafe8failsafe8 on March 18th, 2015 11:48 pm (UTC)
You're right a flow day is tons easier than a dry run. Update 2 is now up :)
yk2productions on March 15th, 2015 06:56 am (UTC)
Try a water based lubricant instead of the coconut oil if you don't want to use that. :) Also try inserting it with the fold towards your back. It helps the cup get past your pubic bone which might be causing some discomfort. I can't get any fold to stay folded except the punchdown lol so that's what I always use.
trejoytrejoy on March 19th, 2015 04:32 pm (UTC)
Update 2
EXCELLENT! It's wonderful how quickly you've succeeded, it took me much longer to get the hang of cups. Of course, I was initially attempting w/o this community! Once I found this place, I got my issues sorted. =)