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24 February 2015 @ 11:44 pm
Hi All,

First-time user here. I bought a small Eva Cup and started using it on a period. Insertion hasn't been a problem (using punch-down fold) but removing the darn thing is kind of excruciating. It's not an issue of suction; I can get it to release and form into a C-shaped fold as I pull it out. Getting the wider half of the cup out is very painful; it just feels like I'm tearing myself or stretching something past capacity. I have never had sex and have never been able to get more than two fingers up there. A punch-down fold essentially gets the diameter of the cup down to two-fingers size, whereas a C fold is bigger. I can't get it in folded into a C, thus pulling it out in that shape...doesn't feel so great. Wondering if there is a way to work around this, or if I should try a different cup. I've worn and removed it three times now over two days. The most recent time I used the cup, I felt a dull discomfort deeper in as well as some sharp, burn-y pain closer to the vaginal opening. Is my issue just the firmness of the cup?

I know there is a ton of misinformation about hymens out there and I'm hesitant to even mention them. My doctor tried a pelvic exam a few years ago and had to stop because I was so tense and it was too painful. I don't know how to gauge my pelvic floor muscles; I've had smaller tampons basically fall out so it's not like I'm that tense all the time. The issue really seems to be around the opening, and I'm wondering if the pain should be cause for concern.

Anyway, thanks for reading; any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.
 
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on February 25th, 2015 05:02 pm (UTC)
Quick fix that I used while my hymen was still an issue--right before you remove the cup, apply some Anbesol (or Orajel, or whatever else is marketed to teething babies to rub on their gums) around the entrance. Make sure whatever you use does not have petrolatum in it or it will degrade the silicone. I had some generic brand and it was fine. You probably just have bits of hymen in the way that will stretch out/break down as you get more comfortable with cup use.
icanbmeicanbme on February 26th, 2015 12:20 am (UTC)
I had never had sex when I got my small Eva, and getting that sucker in was pain until on the third time when my hymen ripped a little in one place. But as I remember once it was inside I didn't have any pain beyond some minor pressure on my bladder. I suggest going back to your doctor.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 27th, 2015 02:08 pm (UTC)
Read the Virgin's Guide to Cups found at the Community FAQ. (Scroll way down to find it.)

You can see your hymen with a hand mirror and a flashlight if you sit on the floor, knees up and splayed, and part your labia.

Or it could be that you're clenching your PC muscle. Sit on the toilet, insert your finger and give it a little squeeze. That's the muscle. Now that you know how to clench it, practice relaxing it on command. You will need to do so for insertion and especially removal. That's what probably happened during your exam -- clenched.

When removing your cup, be sure to tilt it out at an angle so it's not *the whole rim* at once. And it's also possible that you have a minor UTI that causes your urethral opening to burn momentarily upon contact. Drink more water to literally flush it out. And see a doctor if it doesn't get better.
Cazzlindethiel on March 1st, 2015 06:40 am (UTC)
I've been having a similar issue with nearly all the same details.

Punch down in, virgin, capable of two-finger insertion, pain at removal of rim.

For me it's because the cup is springing open as any one part of the rim comes out of me. I've been removing it in a hotdog C fold myself and have found that endeavoring to get my finger out of the fold (by using my external hand to pinch the base of the cup and up towards the rim into the fold as it comes out) has made things a lot more comfortable, but I've only achieved this a handful of times myself.

Just a thought!