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21 February 2015 @ 10:06 am
Hi all, I'm new and thought I would jump right in with a new post. I've been using my Diva Cup for about half a year now and I love it. My sister really wants to go the menstrual cup route but has some concerns I was hoping you all could help me with since I have only ever used the Diva Cup. So she is apprehensive on one front, she doesn't like the idea of reaching up inside herself to get the cup out. I explained to her you have to reach in there a little to pull it out and then to break the seal. She doesn't like this idea at all and is pretty much grossed out at the though of reaching in there (even just near the opening of her vagina).

Is there a way around this with cups or are they all the same in having to put your fingers a little inside yourself? I know some have longer stems but I don't understand how that works as I'm sure everyone here knows the Diva Cup has a short stem. If anyone can give me any ideas on which one might be good for her to try then I would be most grateful.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 21st, 2015 03:27 pm (UTC)
Maybe she'll use a cup when she's ready. But it doesn't sound like she is yet. Yes, there's a lot of touching yourself involved that some people don't like.

There are size charts at the Community FAQ and also at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ to help her pick a cup she thinks might fit.

Or just get her a cheap one from eBay/Amazon and see if she uses it. (And then fine tune the fit in the future if she likes it.)
bloodytears1986bloodytears1986 on February 21st, 2015 03:52 pm (UTC)
Sounds like a very good idea. I didn't even think of just buying a cheap one off Amazon to see what she thinks. If she ends up not liking it then it won't be a big deal. Thanks so much! I'll also take a look at the size chart. Much appreciated!
yayforcupsyayforcups on February 21st, 2015 08:41 pm (UTC)
Also if she gets one and she feels she cant use it right now, it wont be wasted, she can still use it down the line when she fancies another try :)
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on February 21st, 2015 03:51 pm (UTC)
Pretty much all cups are going to require you to put your fingers in your vagina at least occasionally, even the ones with longer stems. This is something basic that potential cup users need to be able to get past, otherwise it's just not going to work. Perhaps she could ease into it by using tampons for a while, until she got used to being in contact with her vagina.
bloodytears1986bloodytears1986 on February 21st, 2015 03:57 pm (UTC)
I figured that would be the case. :( Oh well, I guess they aren't for everyone. I just wanted to make sure I was using it right as well as I am by no means a veteran at using the cup. I just found a way that worked for me...
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on February 21st, 2015 04:00 pm (UTC)
It can take some time to get used to the idea. Often, we're taught consciously or unconsciously that our bodies are disgusting or gross, or that we shouldn't touch them for whatever reason. This can be a particularly strong taboo during our teens, for various social and internal reasons. I wouldn't worry too much, your sister may come to it in time :) As long as it's working for you, that's excellent! Keep modelling successful use and support her when she's ready.
sam_schwasam_schwa on February 22nd, 2015 04:34 pm (UTC)
I can say from experience that it will probably just take time (mostly monthly opportunities to be forced to deal with her body.) I used to never wear tampons (even with an applicator) mostly because I didn't want to have to search for the right hole. After a number of experiences I worked my way up to tampons, and one day when I had let it overfill AND I managed to get the string stuck inside I had to fish it out. To my surprise I didn't spontaneously combust or fall over dead from touching so much menstrual blood. After that (and then hearing about cups) I knew I could handle it. Give her time to get comfortable with herself.