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Heidi PomPom
15 February 2015 @ 11:17 am
Hi ladies! So I've been researching cups for about a month now, and have watched videos, read charts and reviews, and now I think I'm overloaded. This is the first period I've gone tampon-free (I'm trying the Instead softcup as I know it will have a place in the repetoire anyway), and it's been kind of messy, and a little leaky, but I'm committed to making the jump. For financial reasons, I feel a lot of pressure to choose the right cup the first time out. That may not be 100% realistic, but in all honesty, I'd probably try 5 different cups if I didn't set limits (or budgets). Here's what I've got going on, and I'd like very much if you could tell me if I'm on the right track, or if you have some more informed ideas, please.

-I'm 4'11," 35, and no kids.Pretty sturdy build.
-My cervix seems to sit high during my period.
-From feedback, I know that I am quite tight with good PC control and I don't think I have a particularly long vaginal canal.
-I have a Paragard IUD (I've had both types of IUD in the last 10 years, consistently)
-Pretty light flow, with 36-48 super tampon-style. It gets heavy, but only for 1-2 days.
-Have had leakage issues with the softcup, but this is probably user error.
-Action sport enthusiast in snowboarding and mountain biking.
-Have had issues with UTIs.
-Have a very shy bladder and sometimes have to "push" to use the bathroom in a timely manner. (I'm afraid of it popping out if I bear down.)

Soooo, with that in mind, I think I've narrowed it down to the Miacup 2 or large Fleur, or Rubycup. Or MeLuna Sport M. It's all guesses until it goes in the hoohaa, I suppose? I would like something easy for a beginner to remove. I also think colors make life fun, but am not basing my decision on whether it comes in purple. Form follows function and all that. I would really love some feedback, please! Thank you!
dhrachthdhrachth on February 15th, 2015 08:21 pm (UTC)
Personally, I think it's basically impossible to pick the *perfect* cup without having tried a cup and getting a gauge of what works or doesn't work for you. But, don't let that scare you away from cups as a bad financial proposition--like you'll have to try a dozen cups before finding one that will work. Personally, I have 5 cups, because I have the disposable income and was looking for just the right one. But all 5 of them are totally usable and even with the minor annoyances that motivate me to try a new brand they're still all better than tampons or pads.

My advice is buy the cheapest/easiest to purchase cup to get through the learning curve and get an idea of what you like or don't like. You may get lucky, love that first cup, and end up getting off super cheap (I've seen cups for as little as $5). Or you might want a second one, but then you'll know what to look for on the size/firmness charts when picking. Basically you don't want to spend $45 on a cup and it have various things that bug you, when you could have spent $10 on a first cup and then got a second one you absolutely love, because you now know what to look for, for another $25.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on February 15th, 2015 09:04 pm (UTC)
First off, if you haven't checked it out already, mc_sales is a GREAT place to get cups from other users when they haven't worked out, people have multiples, etc. So it may not break the bank to try more than one cup :)

That said, I think you're on the right track with something firmish given your athletic build/hobbies. You say your cervix sits high but you don't have a particularly long vagina--that seems contradictory to me unless you mean your fingers are so short that it makes things difficult to reach. If your cervix is indeed high you may have issues reaching the Meluna for removal, and the Fleur and Ruby might still be borderline a little bit short. I think the Mia might be 70mm so that could be a good shot, but isn't it pretty soft? I need my cups baby-soft so I haven't tried any of the ones you named.
yayforcupsyayforcups on February 15th, 2015 09:30 pm (UTC)
Fleur at £8 off femininewear.co.uk that ships globally may be the best out of the ones you've mentioned as it's cheap enough to still get a second one in the future and has a good reputation. I don't know exactly how high your cervix is as to whether it would fit lengthwise, a length in mms would help your search.
Heidi PomPomHeidi PomPom on February 15th, 2015 10:11 pm (UTC)
Hmmm. As far as my cervix goes, my middle finger is about 3.5 in/15 cm ling and I have to really put in some effort to reach the tip of my cervix. So if the cup is supposed to sit near the entrance to the vagina, I guess that would be high, right? I don't routinely examine other peoples' cervixes, so I guess it just seems like it doesn't meet the criteria for a "low" cervix. So I guess my "known" quantities now are a relatively firm, inexpensive cup, on the larger side?
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on February 16th, 2015 03:53 am (UTC)
That's a hugely common misconception--no matter what size you get, the cup will ride up as far as it can so it rests right against your cervix. So the rim will always be cuddling your cervix (either right under it, if it's not wide enough to wrap around it, or of course, around it). The trick is, then, to get a cup that's long enough to reach both your cervix and your fingers when you want to remove it! My cervix is high--usually 70-80mm up--so I need a cup that's that long because I'm too tight to accommodate a lot of digging way up there and pulling.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 15th, 2015 11:01 pm (UTC)
Since you can wear Insteads (70mm) then you can wear a wide cup. I figure that if you don't know what length to get, a "medium" one would be more likely to come close to fitting than one from either end of the length spectrums. There are sizing guidelines and charts at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ and also a link to Common Questions (different from the FAQ) that also links to another set of charts.

If you're an eBay junkie (like me) then search there for a cheap Chinese knock-off. If you get one of those, get a large because the smalls are TINY.
trejoytrejoy on February 17th, 2015 06:59 pm (UTC)
A large Fleur is a relatively minimal investment to get you started. I would not get a Medium MeLuna, as they are comparable in size to the small cups of other brands! Like por_que_no said, take a swing by mc_sales and see what other members are reselling. You could find a deal!