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07 February 2015 @ 02:57 pm
Hello! This is my first post on here, so if I did anything wrong, please notify me :)

I'm considering buying a sckooncup or other menstrual cup, but I have some questions. I have really short and light periods, will that make any difference? Will I be able to swim and go on waterslides? (I live close to a waterpark and go almost every week. oh, florida and your infinite summers). But most of all, I'm concerned because I don't know my anatomy very well and I'm a virgin.

I don't have any big fears about putting something inside of me, but will it hurt more because I'm a virgin and have never put anything up there? I've also only had three periods (Late bloomer, haha) so am i too young/early to start with using a cup? Will i have to tear my hymen in order to insert it correctly? Also, does anyone have any reccomended ones for beginners that are small, good for swimming, and comfortable?|

Thanks, and feel free to ask my any more questions.

I've also heard some horror stories of people's hymen's getting tangled in the stem. Is that a fairly common thing among first-time users?
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 7th, 2015 09:06 pm (UTC)
If you haven't already, read this http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ and follow the links to The Virgin's Guide to Cups found at the Community FAQ. Do some self exploration. Google some sites about your anatomy. Get comfortable with the concept of inserting things. Choose a cup based on dimensions that you think will fit, not their sales hype (because --of course-- every cup company is going to tell you that their cup will fit you best.) And most of all, if you're scared/anxious/unsure to put anything up there yet, then don't. Come back to cups when you're ready. :o)
elisamba on February 8th, 2015 07:35 am (UTC)
^This. Very good tips.

I used no-applicator tampons for years before switching to cups, and am glad I did. I would not recommend starting with a cup as the first thing ever "up there". If disposables bother you, maybe try sea sponges. All those years of tampons, my hymen did not tear, but some of the accidents I have had with a cup (popping completely open during insertion or removal instead of staying folded), I think those would have torn it.

Insertion won't affect your hymen, unless the pop cups open while you're doing it, but I'd guesstimate probably a 95% chance it will tear the hymen on the way out. But get "tangled"? No. You'll still get it out.

There are some posts on swimming under "sports/physical activities" on the right sidebar.
titaniumtrinitytitaniumtrinity on February 8th, 2015 06:22 pm (UTC)
I started using cups when I was a virgin, and insertion was ok but removal did hurt some. I then started having sex only a month after I started using my cup. So while now removal is a lot easier for me, it's hard to tell how much is the sex and how much it would have gotten easier anyway. For most people the hymen doesn't usually "tear" as just a one time thing, it gradually wears away when that area is stretched on a regular basis, and using a cup can contribute to that. So I wouldn't recommend using a cup yet if that will bother you, but it's not a single dramatic tearing event. I happily used my cup for one cycle while I was a virgin, and while removal hurt a little, it wasn't enough to stop me. I have pretty light periods also, and it's not a problem. The cup is still comfortable when my flow is light, and it means that I can usually go a full 12 hours without emptying it.

I think the best thing to do first is to get comfortable feeling around with your fingers first. You'll have much better success with a cup if you try to get to know your anatomy a little more first. That also helps you decide which cup to choose. I would definitely try to find out where your cervix is, because if you have a high cervix the Sckoon might not be a good choice for you. Because the body of the cup is so short, it might be harder to remove for a person with a high cervix. If you have a lower cervix, then Sckoon might be good for you while a longer cup like Diva would not be. Here is a really good post about finding the cervix http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/3317047.html

I don't swim much, but I've seen some post on this site saying that they swim with their cups, and a few said that the cup ended up filled with water, but that it still didn't leak. You can also try tampons for swimming days, I really like the ones without applicators because it's easier to guid them into the right position.

I don't have any good beginner cup recommendations unfortunately. I started with the diva and it worked great for me personally, but it's too long for many people and it's gotten a reputation here as not a good beginner cup. It depends on your individual shape, I think the best thing you can do is start with the smaller diameter offered, and go looking for your cervix (during your period) to figure out if you need one longer or shorter. Cups which are very soft sound nice, but they're also more difficult to use because it's harder to get them to unfold. A medium firmness cup will be very comfortable for most people if it fits correctly, so I'd recommend going for the middle of the road on firmness because you may have more leakage issues with a very soft cup. That's an opinion based on what others have said, I haven't used a very soft cup personally, only my diva cup.

I'm not really sure what you mean about the hymen getting "tangled up in the stem"? I've had the stem kind of poke me down there and be irritating, and that's solved by just pushing the cup up a little further. (if that happens a lot, and pushing it up doesn't help, the cup may be too long for you) I've also heard people talk about getting the stem caught when they were trying to remove it. I think the solution to that is to be more careful to gently guid the tip out while you're getting used it, after that it will become automatic.

tl:dr The bottom line is it's all about personal comfort level, so if you're interested in trying this, your age shouldn't be an issue, and many virgins do use cups comfortably. You'll greatly increase you chances of success if you do get to know your anatomy better first.
xilluminatexilluminate on February 13th, 2015 12:38 am (UTC)
So I just found out I have a *quite* low cervix. I'm not on my period, but I looked around a bit, and I'm pretty sure I have either a dangly cervix, or a low one. What's the difference? And which cup is best for a virgin with a low cervix?