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Hi guys :) A few weeks ago, I found this thing called a menstrual cup and did some research on it and finally decided that I should get one. I asked my mum if I could buy it but she instantly said no. She said that it would get stuck in my vagina and I wouldn't be able to get it out. I tried to reason with her and stuff but she still won't let me use them. I thought of buying it behind her back but decided against it since I would most probably be buying it online and the mail will go through her first and also because I don't want to break her trust. So can anyone tell me how to convince her to let me use/buy one?

P.S I would use my own money to buy it.
 
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on February 5th, 2015 04:15 pm (UTC)
There are a lot of nice guides on both menstrualcups.wordpress.com and menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com (I think the latter one has a specific note for parents). The only grain of truth to what your mom said is that younger girls who haven't given birth are more likely to have a very high cervix than a very low one, but you could get a Si-Bell with a super long stem (or an iCare from China, which is like the Diva but with a longer stem and softer), and the odds of those being unreachable are pretty astronomical. You will want to find out where your cervix is during your period though (stick a finger up there and see how far it reaches before it hits your cervix)
dhrachthdhrachth on February 5th, 2015 08:48 pm (UTC)
Maybe you and your mum could talk about it with your doctor. It might backfire because there are lots of doctors who don't know what a menstrual cup is and are going to automatically advise against it rather than do any research. But, if you have a well educated and/or open minded doctor getting an okay from a voice of authority could persuade your mum to let you give it a try.
xquizite_insomxquizite_insom on February 6th, 2015 12:38 am (UTC)
Try talking to your mum again. Before doing so, gather more information on menstrual cups. If her only reason was that it would get stuck inside you, research all of your menstrual cup options.

Check the height of your cervix while menstruating in the beginning, middle and at the end of your cycle. Using that information, find menstrual cups that are appropriate for your body. When talking to your mum again, acknowledge that she is right, there are rare instances where a menstrual cup has been difficult to remove, but that is because the cup purchased was not the right fit for that particular vagina. Tell her that there are over 20 different cup brands on the market. If possible print out the pictures so she can see that for instance, the Meluna shorty could be very hard to remove for someone with a high cervix; in that case a Diva Cup or Gaia cup may be a better choice. Go through the different cups, their total lengths and different shapes. As a bonus, research other potential drawbacks of using a menstrual cups and their respective solutions.

While talking to your mum, present yourself in a calm, mature and organized manner. Understand that she has no clue what menstrual cups are. I applaud you on valuing your mom's trust. Wish you luck.

edited to correct spelling.

Edited at 2015-02-06 12:40 am (UTC)
icanbmeicanbme on February 6th, 2015 02:21 am (UTC)
I've found that knowing a person's relationship with tampons helps alot when discussing menstrual cups (it's alot easier to a tampon user, or someone with a fear of TSS than a strictly pad user. Other users have given great advice on this subject but I'd like to add that using a cup will save your mom's money, if she is the one buying your supplies. I'm fairly new with cups, but I've never needed a pad for backup even on my first days with it alone. My mom thought I was nuts for trying these things out, but once she saw how much I was saving her she willingly split the cost of my back up cup.
yayforcupsyayforcups on February 6th, 2015 09:13 am (UTC)
If removal due to being small is her issue then find a narrow cup (40/41mm and under), there're plenty of young teens and virgins who begin using cups with this diameter successfully. Cups like the small SiBell (soft cup long stem) or the firmer small classic Meluna with traditional stick stem (so you can trim it as otherwise it can be fairly short- dont go for shorty version unless you see your cervix is very low).
These cups may be a better fit than long or wide cups (44/45+mm rimmed cups are quite large imo).
If you keep knocking, eventually the menstrual cup door will be opened, so show your Mum this is not a passing trend but a well-thought out choice of how to handle your periods, tactfully sharing your information and the above comment's advice.
I hope all goes well :)