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Most of my friends, or at least the portion of friends that I have discussed periods with, use pads. They're uncomfortable with putting things "up there," and it's their body, so I respect that. At the same time, I get a twinge of sadness because I realize that I used to be like them, too.

Using tampons (the ones with applicators) was a small step into self-education, but in using them, there was an unshakable notion of conditioned aversion that had been sprouted from the cultural negativity and shame of vaginas. Sure, applicators make things far more convenient in situations such as camping or hiking, but as to everyday use, why? Why are we scared to put our fingers near our vaginas, so much that we use a plastic tube so that our fingers won't come into contact with them?

When I got a DivaCup, I forced myself to get over it. I poked around my vagina with my finger and felt my cervix and gradually became more comfortable with my body. I'd like to chalk it up to half perseverance, half bravery; with these came small milestones and small victories, like being able to finally insert the cup. I feel like I learned so much more about my own body and I am now far more comfortable with myself. Looking back, the difference in attitude is indescribable.

I'm so glad that I discovered menstrual cups. To anyone who's starting out, don't give up, it's so worth it. To anyone who's been doing this for a while, let's celebrate the existence of cups!
 
brytewolfbrytewolf on January 27th, 2015 03:49 am (UTC)
I spent one horrible, traumatizing year using pads because my mom refused to teach me how to use a tampon. Even after I taught myself how (I couldn't survive any longer like that! Blood everywhere!), there was always the constant fear of having enough tampons on me and access to a bathroom to change it every two-four hours.

Now that I found my Miacup? Empty once at night, once in the morning. Don't THINK about my period at all, it's like it's not even happening (except the occasional cramp). This group is a godsend. These products are magic. I'm comfortable with myself in ways I wasn't before.

I also tell all my friends about mine, but like yours they usually use pads because they've been taught their vulvas are icky. Sometimes I wish I could hold them down and force them to see how wonderful cups are XD But I just let them know if they have any questions, I can answer them - as that's the best I can do!
titaniumtrinitytitaniumtrinity on January 27th, 2015 04:02 am (UTC)
Sometimes I think the "do I have enough tampons with me" thing is the worst part. I'm using pads this month (because of IUD) and I was leaving for the weekend before my period had started. So had to pack the maximum amount that I *might* need, rather than just throwing my cup in the bag.
brytewolfbrytewolf on January 27th, 2015 06:01 pm (UTC)
I would definitely agree with you there! I got so good at calculating how much I would need for how long, but there was always that terror in the back of my head that it would be an especially cranky period and I'd run out. Or that one day I'd forget to stock up before I left, and had to survive with 2 when I should have had 6 8|
Emma Burton on January 19th, 2018 01:05 am (UTC)
Do you use your cup with your IUD now? I have had an IUD for six years (Mirena for 5, have had Paragard for one now) and I really want to start using a cup. I have an appointment with my gyno next week and am worried she won't know what it is/will say what the nurse said which was "don't use one because it can cause bacteria to collect around the strings which could travel into your uterus." Calling BS on all that jazz as tampons are way worse on that front.
titaniumtrinitytitaniumtrinity on January 24th, 2018 05:51 pm (UTC)
Ok so I actually haven’t been using a cup for the last few years. I had a bad experience with recurring BV for a while after getting my IUD, and I never could figure out if the cup was at fault or not, but I stopped using it because it was really uncomfortable when the area was irritated. Since then, my Mirena has made my periods really light, so I haven’t bothered with the cup. So the short answer is that I haven’t been using it, but I’ve heard from lots of others that do, and when I talked to the doc who did the placement, she said it should be fine.
trejoytrejoy on January 27th, 2015 07:17 am (UTC)
I got a Miacup for Christmas. Super happy with it. It's sort of a tie for goldilocks between it and the Ruby right now. =)

Edited at 2015-01-27 07:18 am (UTC)
brytewolfbrytewolf on January 27th, 2015 06:03 pm (UTC)
I love mine so much! I had no idea what I was doing when I was picking one out, so I went with the middle of everything XD I lucked out - I can always grab it for removal, I can never feel it. The only thing that irritates me is *sometimes* it's cranky about popping open. But I just take it out and pop it back in, and it's good!