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17 January 2015 @ 02:59 pm
I'm about to buy my first cup. Using the size charts, measurement charts and other info on this website, I've narrowed it down to either a small Si-Bell or a small Lunette. I have a high cervix, I can barely reach it squatting, so I need a long cup/stem. I also want a soft cup since I think it will hurt to insert a stiffer cup. (The main reason I'm not considering the Diva is that it's stiffer.) (FWIW, I'm 24 and never had sex of any variety)

However, I've just realized that my flow is probably heavy. I thought of it as more average/moderate but after researching tampon capacities, I'm not sure. I don't want to change the cup more often than I change tampons now.

Currently, for the first 2 days (heaviest days), I go through an ultra tampon in 2-3 hours (Tampax Pearl Ultra, if it matters). After that 2-3 hours, the tampon and string are completely saturated and dripping with blood. It's so full that I barely need to pull the string to remove it. If I didn't also use pads for backup, I'd have to change every 60-90 minutes. I plan to use cloth pads with the cup as backup, but I just don't want the cup to overflow in 2-3 hours.

Do you think the small Si-Bell or Lunette have enough capacity for that? Are there any cups you'd recommend instead?

Would it make sense to get a large Si-Bell instead even though I'm nulliparous? It has a greater capacity than the small, but is still soft and has a long stem.

Thanks in advance for your help/advice. I really appreciate this community and am grateful for all I've learned so far.
 
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on January 18th, 2015 01:55 am (UTC)
Nulliparous here, high cervix, heavyish flow, and I use the large Si-Bell mostly without problems. Yes, if I try to insert it before I'm actually bleeding, I will have a bit of a hard time getting it to pop open, but it's really not bad at all. I also use a large Rainbow, which is similar in length to the large Lunette but softer...about half the time I wish the Rainbow had a bit more stem on it though. The Si-Bell is about a half centimeter longer in the stem.
elisamba on January 18th, 2015 09:52 am (UTC)
The small cups definitely won't cut it for your heavy flow days. Don't worry about the sizing, they're just guidelines.

High cervix here, for length I love my small Gaia, my "goldilocks". It is soft yet "poppy", and even the small holds 30 ml. The softness means I can use a small fold like half-diamond for insertion.

However, I'm also one of those users who prefers removing a cup with no stem (I flip it inside out). Unfortunately the Gaia's stem is short and stretchy, ie pretty much useless IMO. It has good grip rings, though. If as a beginner you want a stem, I hear good things about the Si-Bell, like PP said.

But here's a thought: as a beginner and virgin, what about starting with a small cup on your lighter days? Get the hang of it, and then going up the .5 cm or so in diameter to the larger cups may not seem so daunting. If you decide on this route, I recommend the small Organicup, that was my first cup.
meah1 on January 18th, 2015 08:05 pm (UTC)
Thanks, that's a good thought to start with the smaller cup. Ideally, though, I was planning not to buy a second cup unless the first purchase didn't work out. I was going to get one cup to use for the first 3 days and use only cloth pads after that. After the first 2.5 to 3 days, I just have the occasional trickle of blood, like maybe 5 mL in 12 hours. Plus a lot of people say your period gets lighter after you start using cups so hopefully that will happen...

I'm not too concerned about the larger diameter, I think could comfortably fit, so I might just get the large Si-Bell. It's good to know they're just guidelines and I don't "have" to get a small cup lol.

I will check out the Gaia though! Depending on the length of the cup I might not need a stem.

Thanks!
Kathlynekathlyne on January 18th, 2015 04:43 pm (UTC)
Yeah, you will have to change out the smaller cups more often because of your heavy flow. The before 30/before giving birth thing is kinda dumb. I wear large cups because I need the capacity. Buy what will fit/suit you best. I would highly recommend getting a large cup.
meah1 on February 15th, 2015 03:21 am (UTC)
Update
I thought I would post an update in case anyone is searching the comm or browsing the tags and runs across this post.

I got the large Si-Bell. It arrived in 2 weeks, about mid-cycle for me. It's now been about 2 weeks since I got it.

I was hesitant to do a dry run in case the cup rode up to my cervix and became unreachable. But I decided to try anyway. I only put the cup in, opened it up, broke the seal, and removed it. I didn't leave it in, because again, I was concerned it would ride up and I wouldn't be able to get it out. I practiced inserting/removing off and on for 4-5 days and it went fine, surprisingly. Sometimes it's a little harder to pop open, since the cup is REALLY soft, but if I insert it with the fold facing back (facing my butt) it opens fine.

The last 2 days I've been wearing it continuously (except to remove and wash) because I think I'm actually going to get my period now (I don't really have any PMS that I recognize as such, so I have to guess by the calendar). So far it's only been catching some kind of weird whitish slimy mucus- probably just normal secretions, but it's so gross I'm almost retching (from the appearance alone- it barely smells). Remarkably, all the mucus is inside the cup! It's seriously disgusting though, I don't even know how I'm going to handle the blood. I also thought I was going to push it out once when I took a really massive dump (sorry for TMI), but obviously I didn't because of the seal. So that's an advantage over tampons too (which I do push out).

I also have a plan to empty and reinsert at work. We have bathrooms with stalls and separate sinks (no sink accessible from toilet). I have a decoy bottle of Purell that has been rinsed thoroughly and filled with water. It fits in my pocket. That should give me enough water to clean the cup out a little and reinsert it.