Log in

No account? Create an account
12 January 2015 @ 10:22 am
Hello All!

Over a year ago I came to this site and was able to do a lot of research on first time use and which cup to go with. I ended up going with the keeper and honestly, only used it once. For the past year I have been using my birth control constantly to prevent periods. I figured this probably isn’t the best thing so I am going to go back to having my periods every 3 months…. Maybe once a month. I can’t even begin to describe how much I HATE getting a period.
So I am back to square one on trying to find a cup that will work for me. It took me forever to figure out the keeper and as I discovered it is one of the stiffest cups out there. Which explains why I always felt like a stuffed pig when I used it. I am looking for a few features and was hoping you all would be able to help! I imagine things have changed in the past year or so.

1). Would like it to be silicone
2). Less stiff – The keeper was incredibly difficult to fold – But I don’t want something so flimsy it won’t pop back open. I am still a newbie
3). Shorter stem. I know I can trim them but I’d rather not. This isn’t a deal breaker though.

Looking forward to all the input!
megankgrmegankgr on January 12th, 2015 04:50 pm (UTC)
I'm personally a big fan of MeLuna, lots of stem options (I prefer ring stem) and different stiffness options (sport, regular, and soft). I have a soft and a regular and while they're both equally easy to use, I find I get a little sore after using the regular for a few days.
You should really check out the size charts to see what would work best for you based on how the keeper suited your body.
Good luck!
megankgrmegankgr on January 12th, 2015 04:52 pm (UTC)
Oops, so sorry, just realized you said silicone.. MeLuna is TPE..
I still recommend looking at the size charts to see what might work for you
yayforcupsyayforcups on January 12th, 2015 05:31 pm (UTC)
The good news is most cups are less stiff than the keeper :) if you can find out where your cervix is it'll be easier to find the right length of cup and stem, most cups are made of silicone now and they will usually state it early on in their websites so happy trolling! Some recommend lunette, yuuki or fleur cups as good starter cups, or the softer sibell but you may have to trim the stem. I love my squishy yet poppy sckoon which is only 7cm long with a tail that tucks itself away so won't have to trim it.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 12th, 2015 09:22 pm (UTC)
If you like the size and shape of the Keeper, then the US Moon Cup is identical to it (made by the same company) but made of softer silicone. Compare it/them to other brands at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ or at any of the other size charts found at the Community FAQ. Once you figure out what dimensions you think will fit you best, compare their shapes. Blunt or pointy? Flared rim or not, etc?

Another factor in popping open is the anti-suction holes around the rim. I think your Keeper has 6 tiny ones. Most other brands have 4 of varying sizes, and some only have 2. You can always add more or enlarge them, depending on your needs.
Ashatenlegspider on January 12th, 2015 11:13 pm (UTC)
Layman knowledge ahead, not a medical opinion or anything:

The standard way to take combined pills mimics a monthly cycle because that's what some men in the '50s thought women would want, it's not necessarily any better for your health than having a few bleeds a year or suppressing them all together.

There's an idea that 4 week cycles are better because they're closer to the natural condition, but withdrawal bleeds aren't really the same as what goes on when your ovaries are in control.

Regular periods are also a recent development for fertile, sexually active women*. Before highly effective contraception, baby formula and wet nurses (back in the day), carrying and then feeding a child would prevent periods for years at a time. Of course this is different to suppressing menstruation with artificial hormones, and there's much more long-term data on people having monthly withdrawal bleeds than less frequent ones, but I don't think you should feel like you need to have loads of periods if you hate them.

Extending the gap between withdrawal bleeds tends to result in lighter bleeds though, so you might find that they're not that disagreeable every three months. Especially if you get a cup that works for you! Good luck.

*So normative, but can we consider it shorthand? If I say the same thing without cis/hetero normativity it gets clunky and involves a bunch of explicit organs.

Edited at 2015-01-12 11:27 pm (UTC)
djehutys_wisdom on January 12th, 2015 11:31 pm (UTC)
I personally think the Lunette is a wonderful cup for new users, and people overall seem to have fewer issues with it (not everyone loves it, but even if it is not you "Goldilocks" cup, it seems to me that it is very likely to work reasonable well for you). I have a very high cervix so I prefer the small which has a longer stem. It is also a bit softer than the large, which I think is better for preventing leaks, but YMMV. Plus, the Lunette is made of silicone, it's been on the market for quite a long time now, and it is made in Finland.
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on January 13th, 2015 09:49 pm (UTC)
Re: Lunette
I agree that the small Lunette is a pretty decent all-round cup if you're not sure quite what you're looking for. It's medium length but with a long stem to accommodate a variety of cervix heights, medium firm, good capacity. It was my first cup, and although it's not my favorite, it works just fine. There are other cups that I find a bit more comfortable (softer, narrower), but honestly, it was fine.

If you're reluctant to trim the stem, maybe look into an Eva Cup? They're about $20 on Amazon or eBay, softish but not too soft, and the shape that I find most comfortable (your mileage my vary, of course). There are some reviews here: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/3329369.html