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04 January 2015 @ 12:06 pm
I've had a love/hate relationship with my Diva Cup for about 3 years now. I haven't really used it in the past 9 months because I am just really dissatisfied with it. I'm 22, I've never been sexually active (things down there are a bit tight, but I'm not squeamish) and I think I have a fairly short cervix that moves throughout my menstrual cycle.

I've been using disposable Softcups. I reuse them a few times though, generally I go through 2 plus a couple pads per cycle. I would like something more permanent, but being in the IS my options are a bit limited.

Reasons I don't like my Diva Cup:
- Makes my cramps unbearable during the first two days
- Whether or not it goes in right seems outside my control. One day will be successful, then the next things seem to move around and nothing works.
- When I stand up, it goes crooked or something?? I put it in on the toilet, and it opens and seals. But if I feel the tail while I'm standing it's off to the left.
- Leakage, even when it's not full.

The cramps and the leakage are the two primary issues... I might also add I will be visiting England, France, and the Netherlands this summer. If there is a significant advantage to waiting to buy it there I would be willing to wait till summer. I'm thinking maybe a small LadyCup? Based on the measurements it seems to be a bit smaller, softer.

Suggestions??
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 4th, 2015 10:02 pm (UTC)
At 57mm, the Diva has one of the longest bodies. And the small Lady Cup used to be the shortest at 46mm. (Now there are even shorter cups.) That's a big jump in length. Check the size charts at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ to compare.

There are MANY cups with very similar dimensions to the small Lady Cup. Of the bunch, the Lady Cup happens to have the lowest capacity. It also has a reputation for being slippery, which makes it hard to get a grip for removal for some. Use the charts again to compare the small Lady Cup to its competitors and see if you still like it best.

Since you have been using Insteads (which have a 70mm diameter) without issues, you can probably wear a "size large" cup comfortably -- so don't cross them off your list if any of them interest you.

As for cramping, there's an old wives' tale that says to drink more water before and during your period. It works for me. I hope it works for you too.

Edited to add: Flip your Diva inside out to shorten it on the days that it leaks and shifts around. It's perfectly OK to wear it that way if it works better for you.


Edited at 2015-01-04 10:49 pm (UTC)
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on January 5th, 2015 12:11 am (UTC)
FYI--the cramps could also be exacerbated by the cup bumping up against your cervix at an odd angle. Particularly since you said your stem tends to rest on the left side, that means your cervix is probably off to the right (mine is off to the left) so if you're inserting it straight up, it's probably sitting at an angle in relation to your cervix and rubbing it the wrong way. I used to get slight cramps when my Lily would sucker on (apparently my cervix is a "goldilocks" diameter match for the inner rim of the Lily so it fits inside the cup like my painted-on jeans!) The length is probably not helping because the bottom of the stem may "catch" on the left side of your vaginal wall and push the cup up into your cervix. A shorter cup with a softer stem (Si-Bell?) might be comfier for you!
eporter11 on January 5th, 2015 12:35 am (UTC)
Thanks guys! I think I'm going to go with a small Fleurcup, similar dimensions to Si-bell but a tiny bit firmer. It's also on sale with femininewear.
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on January 5th, 2015 01:12 am (UTC)
I have the small LadyCup, small Fleur, and small Diva (sort of, it's the Jasmine, which is a knock off of the Diva). If you're interested in something the size of the small LadyCup but with better grips and capacity, I would go for the small Cuplee. I have a large Cuplee, which is very similar in size and shape to the small Diva, but much softer. The Fleur is a very different shape. The ridges near the base of the cup make the bottom quite firm, and the rim is also pretty snappy. It is about the same firmness as my Jasmine cup. I consider both of those cups to be medium firm. I like the small LadyCup a lot and use it for all but the heaviest day of my cycle, but it doesn't have much capacity and is a bit slippery. It will be hard to remove if your cervix is high. The rim and top third of the cup are firmer than the Jasmine, and then the rest of the body is quite soft.

As for getting the cup into position, I find that I have more trouble getting the large Cuplee to open, but can maneuver it to open around my cervix. The cups that just go sproing! are a little trickier as far as positioning; I run a finger around the rim to make sure my cervix is inside. It's also a bit harder with smaller cups, I think -- there's more opportunity for the cup to open off to the side. If you haven't already, see if you can find your cervix. That will tell you about how high it is and whether it's off to one side or in a different place than you expected. Leaking usually happens because your cervix is not directly over the cup.
eporter11 on January 5th, 2015 04:35 am (UTC)
I would prefer something shaped more like the LadyCup or Fleur, or even the Si-Bell. My only concern with that would be that it's too soft and won't open correctly. I think I have a fairly low cervix and the Diva is too long.
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on January 5th, 2015 05:20 pm (UTC)
I have a little more trouble getting soft cups to open (as in it takes me a few more seconds than a springy cup), but I think experience will let you use a cup of almost any firmness. I'm pretty active; I run, dance, and do yoga, so my pelvic floor muscles are in good shape, but I can still use soft cups.

If your cervix is fairly low, the LadyCup will probably be fine. People have problems with that cup when it rides high and they can't reach/grip it well enough to remove it. Personally, I find V-shaped cups like the LadyCup, Diva, and Cuplee to be more comfortable than U-shaped cups like the Fleur, which I can feel more.